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Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

304 replies

ShutUpandSing · 08/08/2019 19:30

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

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CorBlimeyGovenor · 08/08/2019 20:54

I can't say that I would cringe unless it was bad.however, weddings are meant to be fun. Why out yourself under added pressure on the day when you don't need to, esp if you are likely to feel anxious. Just take the easy option.

pictish · 08/08/2019 20:54

Mundanes isn’t a word is it? Mundane is.

Anyway OP feeling is this...if you plan to sing during the ceremony, no. If it’s an earnest performance at the reception, still no.
If it’s an informal/cute/funny type thing after everyone is pissed, then maybe yes.

Drum2018 · 08/08/2019 20:55

I sang after a fair few drinks at the reception but I'd never have sung to my Dh at the wedding ceremony. With regard the anxiety, I wouldn't want the pressure building up prior to the day. I sang at my dad's funeral but I told the priest I may or may not get up to do it - so there was no pressure if I didn't want to. Love the idea of recording yourself and playing it - you could have it playing when signing the register or cutting the cake.

HopelessLayout · 08/08/2019 20:55

Are your names Sandy and Danny by any chance?

Seriously though—you can sing love songs to your husband in private. If you insist on making such a show of it then who are you really doing it for?

FattyPeddledFuriously999 · 08/08/2019 20:58

I'd be cringing sorry

Ginger1982 · 08/08/2019 21:02

Noooo...it's like when they do coordinated dances! 🙈

CorBlimeyGovenor · 08/08/2019 21:06

OP, was it a rendition of 'Can't take my eyes off you' by Frankie Valli?

timshelthechoice · 08/08/2019 21:07

I'm going to be honest here. We've been to a couple of weddings where the couples did this, both very good singers, and it was cringe. I mean, just cringe. Some people were trying not to laugh. It's corny.

TrickyKid · 08/08/2019 21:08

I would find it very cringy and difficult to watch but if it's what you want to do then go for it.

timshelthechoice · 08/08/2019 21:10

Everyone was just sort of looking round whilst they sang, it was really awkward.

AntonsMumsTeeth · 08/08/2019 21:14

My idea of hell. I know I'd end up laughing if this happened at a wedding I was at.

Masalatea · 08/08/2019 21:15

I've been to a wedding where this happened. She's a good singer but it was awkward. So awkward.

Sagradafamiliar · 08/08/2019 21:16

I'm screaming, shaking and hyperventilating at the mere thought of this.

RoseGoldEagle · 08/08/2019 21:17

It makes me squirm with embarrassment to just think about. But I think that says more about me than anything else. If it means something to you then go for it!

piglet81 · 08/08/2019 21:17

Hmm. My sister and bil are singers and at their wedding he and some friends sang to her. I thought it was lovely actually but I can see how it could be cringey/cheesy. It's your wedding though, so do what makes you happy!

Stompythedinosaur · 08/08/2019 21:20

I think it is really cringy too, I'm afraid.

Sing to him in private if you want, but making a room full of people watch comes across as a bit arrogant and very cheesy.

ReanimatedSGB · 08/08/2019 21:22

I don't understand why all you whining funsponges are so horrified by the idea. I really, honestly, don't. Is it part of the collective MN horror at the idea of anyone expecting any attention to be paid to them on their wedding day, or something?

TheFairyCaravan · 08/08/2019 21:22

I'd find it cringy. And I wouldn't be able to make eye contact with certain members of my family because we'd all start giggling like school children. Sorry, OP, it's a no from me.

CarolDanvers · 08/08/2019 21:23

I'd find it excruciating.

PolkaDotted · 08/08/2019 21:27

Again, SGB people are not fun sponges just because they have the audacity to have their own opinions and not agree with you, and I don't give a shit if that makes me one of the so called "Mundanes". As for whining you do more of that around here than most people.

user27495824 · 08/08/2019 21:29

I probably would find it cringey but a duet could be really good!

HarriesofHarrogate · 08/08/2019 21:30

If it would make you and your partner happy, go for it.

It might not be to everyone's taste but they're not the ones doing it so it doesn't matter.

tomtom1999xx · 08/08/2019 21:31

I’d die a bit inside if I witnessed something so cringe.
Please don’t.

ollo · 08/08/2019 21:34

I would cringe at this no matter how good a singer you were. However it is your wedding, so go ahead if that's what you really want to do!

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 08/08/2019 21:34

I did it! However I didn't plan to.

My best mate was our DJ. Nicked a video I had posted of me singing some of "marry you" and mixed it in with Bruno Mars.

Surprised us on the night. Cringe at first then he played it at end of night. Actually bloody genius of him. Top mate. Husband and kids loved it as did the guests.