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To think DH's work food stash is weird and slightly annoying?

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FeatherySquawkington · 08/08/2019 08:34

So I do all the food shopping (we have 2DC) I make the dinner and pack the lunches. DH makes his own sandwiches for work and will take fruit but he actually buys masses of cereal bars, chocolate bars and his favourite crisps and keeps them at work in his desk drawers. I find it quite irritating that he has his own food stash when I do a good job at shopping and keeping everyone fed and would be more than happy to buy anything he put on the list. He says it's because it's easier than getting it out if the cupboard every morning, but he makes a sandwich and gets himself several pieces of fruit every day?

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userabcname · 08/08/2019 08:41

I have a work stash - mainly cuppa soups and crackers - but still take in sandwiches/ fruit etc. I like to have a work stash for those days when I'm starving and need an extra snack, for staying late and of course for when I forget my lunch! Most people do it, I think it's quite normal? And useful to take it to work and leave there so you know you definitely have it (no one is going to munch it at home of an evening) and you don't have to remember to grab it in the morning on the off chance you might fancy it later on.

HulksPurplePanties · 08/08/2019 08:41

Sandwiches and fruit go off so they are something you do need to make everyday. Granola bars and crisps aren't, so easy to keep at work...I have a work stash, most people around me do....

Singlebutmarried · 08/08/2019 08:41

Eh?

Does this mean I need to bring home my stash of quavers and mini cookies?

I tend to buy stuff and keep it at work. I even gasp buy a fresh bread roll and make my sandwich at work.

The tomatoes don’t have time to make it all soggy then.

EyeDrops · 08/08/2019 08:41

I don't see the problem either... Its non-perishable things he can keep stashed in a drawer and less to remember/carry on a morning.

Perhaps he doesn't always feel like a snack so prefers to keep it there so it's there if he does? I don't know. Seems a non-issue!

Is it that you don't approve of the snacks he gets, or think he's trying to hide something?

Merryoldgoat · 08/08/2019 08:42

What? How is this a problem?

NovemberWitch · 08/08/2019 08:42

I often drive long distances for work and keep a snack box in the car.
Odd that it bothers you. Do you have a job, or do you define your worth by how good a carer you are to your partner and children?

icelollycraving · 08/08/2019 08:42

I have a good locker at work so I don’t need to bring in bits all the time. I couldn’t give a shiny shit if dh did it too. I suspect he has a stash of crap treats in the car.
I don’t understand why you seem to feel this is some kind of slight on your good shopping skills.

mindproject · 08/08/2019 08:43

Errrm, I don't see the problem.

Without my snack drawer at work I'd never get through the day.

Sandybval · 08/08/2019 08:43

He can't keep fruit or sandwiches in his drawers as they will go mouldy quickly, otherwise he probably would for ease. I wouldn't say something that you can't see could be overly annoying tbh, unless you want to eat them, in which case that's probably why he keeps them there!

OrdinarySnowflake · 08/08/2019 08:44

What hes doing is normal. I have a food stash at work, it's for the days I get up late and dont have time for breakfast, or the other half of my job share is delayed so I dont get away for lunch at normal time.

You sound odd. Why do you want to control all the food bought? Why are you being annoyed that you are not being asked to take on the "wife work" of making sure he has the correct amount of snacks for work, and that hes managing that himself?

Are you, in fact one of those weird woman who go through their DHs pants and sock drawers and decide for them when they need new socks/underwear and just buy it for them, rather than assuming their dh is an adult who will source his own clothing?

Chilledout11 · 08/08/2019 08:45

It's not really of your concern- why are you controlling him so much? If he wants cereal bars in his draw at work what is the big deal?

FlaviaAlbia · 08/08/2019 08:46

YAB very very wierd about this.

It sounds like you're taking it as a personal slight

EskewedBeef · 08/08/2019 08:46

I think he's sensible. It doesn't affect you or anyone else in any way, so why on earth would you find it annoying? You're not even there when he eats these things!

Halloumimuffin · 08/08/2019 08:46

Not weird at all, everyone in an office has a food stash. I'm trying to be good so mine is currently almonds, dark chocolate and herbal tea. You seem to think it's some kind of insult to your shopping, which is definitely overthinking it.

PutyourtoponTrevor · 08/08/2019 08:46

Don't see the issue, I bulk buy stuff for work like cereals, fruit, bars, Diet Coke, wraps etc to leave at work. Saves me forgetting it or having to buy more when I do

Lastbustowhitehawk · 08/08/2019 08:46

I also have a stash of crackers and biscuits (i.e. things that can be stored in my desk drawer) that I get in the shop near work to save carting them from the supermarket home then to the office. I'm bewildered that DH might be annoyed by this!

Fortheloveofscience · 08/08/2019 08:48

I don’t like having to decide the night before how hungry I will be the next day - sometimes I don’t touch my snack drawer, sometimes I have more than 1 thing. I always want a sandwich and an apple though, so bring them with me.

DtPeabodysLoosePants · 08/08/2019 08:48

Do you have issues around food? Are you jealous he gets to eat all the treats but you can't? Are you controlling the family diet and annoyed he's doing his own thing?

Sparklyring · 08/08/2019 08:48

My husband has a snack drawer too, he takes his lunch in but sometimes is extra hungry or just fancies what's in his drawer as oppose to what's in the house. I think it's sensible.

adaline · 08/08/2019 08:49

Isn't this totally normal?

Everyone at my workplace has their own stash of food for emergencies - things like crackers, cereals bars, crisps and cuppa soups alongside supplies like painkillers, sanitary products, deodorant and similar.

Our office even supplies deodorant and such just in case people need it during the day!

Why does it bother you?

Bluntness100 · 08/08/2019 08:49

I'm also mind boggled by this.

Are you seriously complaining he keeps snacks at work?

Why? Why would this bother you or be any of your business?

CalamityJune · 08/08/2019 08:49

Totally normal. It's less to carry every morning. When I was pregnant I used to keep crackers in my desk drawers, and I usually have a tin of soup or two as well in case I forget to take something.

WeatherSchmeather · 08/08/2019 08:49

Odd. Are you annoyed because it’s junk food and you want him to eat more healthily? If so, it makes more sense but he is an adult capable of making his own choices. I stash little treats for myself at home and at work because if I don’t my husband will demolish them. Would you be annoyed with me?!

Findthewhitehorseonthehill · 08/08/2019 08:49

Really don't see the problem.

Dh keeps a stash in his work vehicle. He's out on the road and might get hungry.

Why do you care what food anyone else buys and eats?

Is it because it's unhealthy/he's spending family money?

IamtheOA · 08/08/2019 08:49

Desk food- totally a thing!

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