To think no couple goes to bed at the same time?

[themimi]

Watching a programme tonight with DH and saw another example of a couple lying in bed at night having a conversation after clearly retiring at the same time. Mentioned to DH that we never ever go to bed at the same time (I'm an early to bed early to rise person and he's the opposite). DH said that no couple does - it's just a plot device to facilitate dialogue. I think I agree and couples who go to bed at same time don't exist. Anyone out there (past honeymoon stage) who does?

Oh, should have said, we've been together 7 years, married for 5.

Been together 20 years and pretty much go to bed at the same time every night even though he is mostly in the spare room due to his snoring!!!

Have a chat, watch TV, snuggle then when it's sleep time he disappears off.

We mostly do. We tend to watch something in bed for a bit, or both read, or I show him hilarious memes (cos I’m very funny). We’re by no means still in the honeymoon phase, but we would never have sex if we went up at different times.

Oh, sorry. Together for 5 years. And sorry if I lowered the tone talking about sex. I haven’t read all the replies. I’ll go do it now.

Its funny i would have said the same op but only based on my dad and step mum, my step mum would always go to bed about 8.30 while my dad would stay up till at least 11.30 if not much much later.

My mum and step dad however have always gone to bed at tue same time.

Other than that the only couple i know who chose to not go to bed at the same time (rather than one working shifts therefore needing to be up earlier or go to bed later) it was actally a sign that their marruage was about to colapse. Not saying if you do have different bed routines it is a sign of trouble but pretty much every couple other then them and my dad and step mum di go to bed at the same time

We usually do, but don't make a point of it so not if one of us is out late, has a particularly early start or just fancies sitting up later than usual.

15 years down the line we always go to bed together. Can’t see it ever changing tbh. It is a great time to just lie and chat and cuddle without the distractions of tv and phones. He falls asleep fist (like right now!) and I get the IPad out 😊

Together 10years and go to bed at the same time every night

We hardly ever do. DH is an owl and I’m a lark. I like to be asleep by !0.30, he rarely comes to bed before midnight. We are clearly incompatible and will probably go our separate ways after our next (33rd) anniversary.

We used to but over the years a pattern has developed, he at the stroke of ten, gets up has a shower puts tv on in bedroom and goes to bed. I got into the habit of tidying up, finish reading a chapter of a book, chat to teenage son. When the children were small I would feed them, bed time, tidy up and fall into bed long before him some days.

He has always been a lark up with the sun, I have always been an owl. Our eldest is a lark, middle one an owl, teenager deffo. an owl at the moment.

OH thinks it is lazy to stay in bed on a glorious summers day which has caused some rows over the years.

We do every night!

Wow, I'm surprised by this thread.

We have absolutely no night time synchronisation. I usually leave him on the sofa, asleep or watching some dreary ish (Marvel's S.H.I.E.L.D, I'm looking at you!)

Married for thirty six years. We always go to bed at the same time - we get ready for bed together - putting the dogs in/out, closing up the house etc. I can't imagine it any other way.

So do you all have a set bedtime then? Let’s watch Newsnight then up the wooden hill? If one wants to watch a film and the other doesn’t do you draw straws?

No - but we always go to bed 'too late' so if one of us is ready to go to bed, the other would probably be up will 3-ish if they watched a film! One of us will sometimes stay up to work, but we usually try and get it done in the evening. My husband sometimes works away, but then I struggle to go to bed at all because I need someone to tell me when it's bedtime otherwise I just stay up till the wee hours and regret it the next day!

Yep, most of the time we do. Faff about for a bit - watch the telly, read, chat, flick through phones, then to sleep.

Almost never. DH gets up at 5.30, so tends to be in bed by 9.30. My job is home based, so I am up until 11-12, up by 7ish.

We always did.

We always go to bed together. Even if it means one of us napping on the sofa until the other is ready to go up. We don’t like going to sleep without each other after twelve (?) years. Bleurgh I know.

We’ve been together 15 years and always go to bed together,
snuggling before we go to sleep is my favourite part of the day.

We used to before we had DC. Now one of us takes DC to bed and the other takes over about midnight so the first person can go to bed.

My parents always have done. I love it. They even hold hands sometimes on their way to bed. 😍

No, we rarely go at the same time. DP is a terrible snorer, so I usually go before him so I can try to get to sleep. When we go together it’s nice to have sex/cuddle/chat, but then it takes me ages to fall asleep. If DP is particularly snore-y - has a cold or whatever - he will often actually sleep in the spare room.

We always go to bed at the same time. Sort animals out, lock up then head upstairs. Never given it any thought tbh it’s just the way it happens

Almost always at the same time. Well, I usually get into bed earlier, but I then spend some time watching TV or reading, putting on lotion, etc. before he comes to bed. If one of us is ill or completely exhausted, they might go to bed/sleep earlier, but generally, it's just part of our routine to spend some time watching TV/talking/reading together before sleep, and it prevents one person from waking the other in the process of getting into bed.

DS1 is an owl and DS2 a lark. We take one each so never go to bed at the same time, or else DH would never get more than 5 hours sleep.