To think no couple goes to bed at the same time?

[themimi]

Watching a programme tonight with DH and saw another example of a couple lying in bed at night having a conversation after clearly retiring at the same time. Mentioned to DH that we never ever go to bed at the same time (I'm an early to bed early to rise person and he's the opposite). DH said that no couple does - it's just a plot device to facilitate dialogue. I think I agree and couples who go to bed at same time don't exist. Anyone out there (past honeymoon stage) who does?

When we're at home together (DH to be works night shifts) we always go to bed at the same time. We sometimes don't have much time together, if we're at home together, we tend to be in the same room. We both like getting into bed, watching tv, reading etc etc.

We do.
I never did with my ex and it used to annoy me. He's stay up then sleep through when the kids got up early in the morning 😠

We do every night

You can hear our TV from the lounge in the bedroom - so not possible to watch TV with the other upstairs. Also lights on show under the doors.

so, we go a the same time!

How does the sex happen op?

Yep we do

We used to, and got out of the habit after our sleep resistant ds2. I'm lobbying to get it back, because I miss snuggling up before sleep, and DH always ends up pottering about doing not much for hours on end, then complains daily about how tired he is. We got a lot more action when we went to bed together too, I'm hoping that's enough of an inducement for him...

Been together 13 years and we go at the same time unless one goes stupidly early for some reason eg. illness.

We don't, and I think it is very detrimental to our marriage.

Sometimes we don't but sometimes we do. Many a happy hour sipping hot drinks and trying to solve sudokus together or trying to do the BBC 7 questions news quiz (never get more than 5!). Or just reading separately.

We've a baby so I've started not to go to bed or at least sleep before the first night waking as I only get half an hour before I'm woken again. So DH is sleeping and I'm on MN!

We do. Occasionally we do separate things but this is 2/3 nights a month max.

We usually do. Every now and then one of us will be watching something and stay up later, but generally we go up at the same time. I wouldn't be upset if he didn't, though; it's whatever works for you.

We do and I have always gone to bed the same time with all of my boyfriends. It’s actually my favourite time of the night; sex, cup of tea, book and then a cuddle (god I sound bloody old and boring!).

Nope. I always go after him. I like an hour spread out on the sofa on my own. If i go before him, he is usually on the xbox, which happends about once a blue moon. If I get in to bed and fancy a 'cuddle' I will give him a nudge

We are still early stages considering some couples on here (been together 3 years) but we always go at the same time unless one of us is away/out.
Its our time to talk about complete rubbish and make each other laugh

Same time every night and always together

How does the sex happen op?

Err - after my normal working day, I just want to 💤. Actually, one of the reasons I go first is so I am in deep sleep before the snoring starts 😆

We do we never haven’t. And hopefully never won’t or I’ll know there’s something seriously wrong. Thought DP does get up whilst I’m asleep to raid the kitchen.

We do and we’ve been together 12 years, we don’t chat once we’re in there though, I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.

We didn't use to, but a few years ago I had surgery and long recovery. DH didn't like to leave me alone and go to bed, so I started going at the same time. I got used to it so still do!

We've got to get up at the same time and we both need an average amount of sleep - surely we are not that unusual? Obviously shift workers will have different sleep patterns but we both work standard office hours and kids have school so everyone is on roughly the same timetable.

We do. Except at the moment because we're taking shifts with the newborn. I miss goodnight snuggles

Pretty much always go to bed together unless one of us is out. Or if one of us is watching a film that the other isn't bothered about. But usually we go to bed and have a snuggle before nodding off.

We haven't always but we do now. He often falls asleep before me though. If he hasn't come to bed yet I find it hard to sleep knowing I'll be disturbed later.

We did until DS was in our room, and we'd read/chat listen to a podcast, but since he's been in with us it's straight to sleep when we go up, at the same time about 5 nights a week roughly. But this weekend DS has moved into his own room, so for the first time in eight months we're in bed with the lights on! DH is reading and I'm MNing, too tired for a book tonight.