AIBU to have a problem with a man being short?

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This sounds - and is - shallow. I know. But it really does bother me that the man I'm seeing is shorter than me. By about an inch. He's 5'5''. We met online, good chat, been seeing each other IRL for about 6 weeks. I wasn't that keen in the beginning, but he's kind, he likes me, he makes me laugh, sex is good and he accepts my weird living arrangement (sharing house with ex due to kids + finances). And I'm beginning to really like him, but his shortness puts me off! And when I talk to friends they tend to agree that height is a tricky one to compromise on...
So has anyone had similar (shallow) issues with their DP and got over it? Or am I just a really really bad person...

I will have him mate. I'm 5'6.

Oh, I love a tall man! I'm on the online dating scene, but they come along disappointingly infrequently.
You can't help your preferences, and YANBU. That said, if he was a good 'un, I would definitely compromise on this. They don't come along that often either!

Just to add though, I definitely couldn't be with someone shorter than me (I'm 5'4). Never in a million years.

If it bothers you, you should probably finish it.
I am very small so height has never been a problem for me!

A decent, kind, loving man who makes you laugh,and is good with kids? I'll take him! This guy sounds like diamonddust, I wouldn't ditch him just because of his height?!

I don't really fancy short men. Might do once I got to know one.

I can't find short men attractive at all. YANBU

If you think about him, how do you feel?

You’re not into him, stop trying to talk yourself into being physically attracted to this guy. It’s a physical feature that irks you for a sexual partner & that is OK. I myself am 5’2 so he would be fine for me! But I wouldn’t be physically attracted to someone shorter than me & that is OK because my dating decisions are not a charity case situation.

Are you bothered about how others see you as a couple, or is it a genuine lack of attraction?

I must be shallow as well as this would bother me too. I’m 5 3 and would much rather be with a tall man. My ex was 6 foot. DH is 5 9, so not tall, but still taller than me. I would struggle with a man shorter than me, but there aren’t many around tbh!

my dating history so far rarely goes below 6' so I'm used to the feeling of being enveloped and protected and safe.

I wouldn't place too much emphasis on that- I used to work with a 6ft6 guy who hid at the first sign aggression from a customer (rough bar).

Also have had at least 2 friends/ acquaintances who've ended being badly beaten by their 6ft plus "protectors"

Give me a 5ft 5 guy with your fella's qualities over them anyday. The real question is, if someone did start on you, would he have your back?

Not that a taller man can't have great qualities as well of course.

P.S. If I was single, I'd snap him up!

It's not shallow at all. As others have said we all find different things attractive. I'd completely understand if a man didn't like my size just the same as I don't find skinny men attractive. And I don't find men under a certain height attractive. Just the way it is.

I’m 5ft 9 ish and my family are all tall. My husband is about 5ft 8 but is also quite slight as he’s a runner. I look bigger than him in every which way because he is just smaller in every way. Sure I’ve been ribbed about it and so has he - all his life as it happens. But he’s also the only man who has ever treated me the way he does, the only one who has made me so happy and the only man I’d have ever considered having a child with or marrying.

His height doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I don’t wear heels anyway. I do remember on our wedding day bending down to kiss him and everyone laughing about it - I had heels on then - and it gave us one of the best photos of the day.

I couldn’t give a rats arse what people think. And I’d have been stupid to not stay with him because of it - but then I fell for him in every which way which it sounds like you haven’t.

Don’t blame his height if it’s just that you don’t like him as you think you should.

And why is it “short for a man”? Height isn’t something that men fail on surely!!

A very short boyfriend of mine reckoned that all men are the same height with their cocks on their heads.

@Arthur2sheds 😂😂😂

You're not alone, OP. Lots of shorter men use OLD (and fib about their height), so that must indicate it's an issue for other women too. You're entitled to a preference, we all have them. But it might be a shame to give up an otherwise lovely man.

Just imagine a thread from a man "AIBU to have a problem with a woman being fat", would you all agree that it's fine and just down to preference? I'm not sure how I feel either way but something about this thread doesn't sit right with me.

Just imagine a thread from a man "AIBU to have a problem with a woman being fat", would you all agree that it's fine and just down to preference?

I think I would, yes.

Would I agree that it’s ok for someone to prefer one body type over another? Yes, I would.

I’m 5’ 4.5 and I dated a guy who was an inch shorter than me. He was TINY. It didn’t help that I was overweight and he was whippet thin, so I felt like a hippo next to him. It made me feel bad about myself and it just eroded any feelings I had for him.

DH is 6’ 3 so no height issues there!

These threads come up every once in a while. As a short guy I feel a bit sad that you all hate me. Luckily I snared a wife irrespective. However, it interests me as a universal quality that women seek. I can't think of any other in built unchangeable characteristic that seems so detrimental. Is there a single woman out there who would rather take a 5'6" guy vs a 5'9", all other things being equal?

DP is teeny tiny. He says 5'5, I'd say 5'3. Yes, I'd like it if he was taller as my ex was nearly 6ft and that was traditionally my type.
However, ex was also a dickhead. Dp is loving, kind, generous and supportive in ways I feel extremely lucky to have. He's my little sex thimble