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People who disappear and you wonder what happened to them...

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BobbolinaTheBitchyBrat · 01/08/2019 14:02

Anyone else have one of these?

About ten years ago, when I had my first, there were a lot more parenting forums, as opposed to just mumsnet and Facebook groups. I was on one which was quite attachment/natural parenting focused, and there was this one lady who was a bit of a guru to the rest of us. She had a gang of kids, homeschooled, ran a quite well read blog, and they were always off wild camping and that sort of thing. Very hippy/alternative. The forum had group meets, so we did in fact meet up as part of a group quite a few times, and she knitted my eldest a really lovely hat.

Then she disappeared. Posts wiped. Blog gone. Everyone deleted. Nobody knew what had happened. A year or two later there was a rumour her husband had left her, which was shocking as she'd often written about their marriage, all really positive stuff.

I've often googled and searched to see if there's any sign of her online, but there's absolutely nothing. Zilch. Like she never existed. Yet she was all over the online parenting circle at one point, she blogged nearly every day.

Not sure what I'm getting at... Just that it's strange really, how people can just drop out of view, even these days!

OP posts:
DelurkingAJ · 08/08/2019 17:01

Had a school friend who stayed in sporadic touch until we were 30. Coming to our wedding with new bf...didn’t show. Vanished to the extent that her DM rang me because she didn’t know where she’d gone.

Mutual friends speculated that she’d joined MI5 or similar due to her linguistic abilities.

Suddenly resurfaced 6 years later plus husband. Pissed everyone off and vanished again. I was glad to have seen her as we’d all been genuinely worried.

EmeraldShamrock · 08/08/2019 20:43

Is it “the norm” to keep the same username for years and just be vague about things so you’re not outing or do more people change their usernames periodically?
IME lots keep their username, lots change it slightly, you can still recognise lots of them as a poster.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 08/08/2019 21:20

What happened to the poster NoddyHolder? She was an interior designer and was a prolific poster and then disappeared into thin air, shame as I used to enjoy reading her take on the latest fad in decorating.

TerracottaLeggy · 08/08/2019 23:07

I change my name every month or two now. Have done since the data breach.

BIWI · 08/08/2019 23:11

@BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo noddy moved over to Twitter, along with others like Cod and CybilLiberty. Not sure if she's still posting there though as I don't really use Twitter these days

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 08/08/2019 23:20

Thank you BIWI mystery solved!

Shalligo · 08/08/2019 23:28

Alpacathebag I was a H but not a DW.

BlackCatSleeping · 09/08/2019 04:48

What happened to Bupcakes and Cunting?

BlackCatSleeping · 09/08/2019 10:43

Ok, I checked and it’s been like 7 years since she posted. I never realized it’s been so long.

NoGravyForYou · 09/08/2019 13:16

@IHaveBrilloHair happy to hear that Derek is doing well!

TerracottaLeggy · 09/08/2019 13:17

Never seven years!

UterusUterusGhali still around?
LRD?

Cheeseoncrumpets · 09/08/2019 16:16

When I was 18 I went back to college after working for two years to do a GNVQ course. Most of the other people on the course were only 16 and had come straight from school, and so were still quite immature. There was one other girl who was 18 like me and we ended up becoming fast friends. We'd spend all out lunches and breaks and free periods together. She lived about an hour away in a seaside town and used to travel in on the train each day.

About December time she told me she was pregnant. The course was only a year long and she fully intended to stay on with her family and boyfriends support, but after the Christmas holidays she simply didnt come back. She didnt respond to texts and didnt answer the phone. The course tutors couldnt contact her either. This was before social media and it was as though she vanished. I've looked for her on Facebook a few times over the years and have drawn a blank. Assuming she carried on with the pregnancy her baby would be about 16/17 now.

I'd love to know what happened to her.

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