People who disappear and you wonder what happened to them...

[BobbolinaTheBitchyBrat]

Anyone else have one of these?

About ten years ago, when I had my first, there were a lot more parenting forums, as opposed to just mumsnet and Facebook groups. I was on one which was quite attachment/natural parenting focused, and there was this one lady who was a bit of a guru to the rest of us. She had a gang of kids, homeschooled, ran a quite well read blog, and they were always off wild camping and that sort of thing. Very hippy/alternative. The forum had group meets, so we did in fact meet up as part of a group quite a few times, and she knitted my eldest a really lovely hat.

Then she disappeared. Posts wiped. Blog gone. Everyone deleted. Nobody knew what had happened. A year or two later there was a rumour her husband had left her, which was shocking as she'd often written about their marriage, all really positive stuff.

I've often googled and searched to see if there's any sign of her online, but there's absolutely nothing. Zilch. Like she never existed. Yet she was all over the online parenting circle at one point, she blogged nearly every day.

Not sure what I'm getting at... Just that it's strange really, how people can just drop out of view, even these days!

Which reddit? I think there are two MN subs

The smaller one.

Handbag was great! A lot of people migrated to The Mock Turtle and a private forum called the Lounge, don't know if that's still going.

I used to follow a blog called Whooppee. She was such a great writer and so funny. It was before I had kids and I'd love to read some bits back as she was so honest about it. She locked the blog and then I think deleted it. She was very honest so I can imagine she'd want to close it once her kids were older but she was bloody brilliant and hope all of her family are keeping well.

@continuallychargingmyphone thank you.

Loftyswops988- Witness protection program?

There could be one of many reasons.
A,got fed up.
B,shes spending too much time on this sight by Husband.
And lastly C,and I hope I am wrong,she isn't here anymore.

I found an old friend (through her mother) who had dropped of the face of the earth after high school. She had slept with most of the village and had quite a reputation for being easy and easy to get drunk or give drugs. I think that she was vulnerable back then and taken advantage of but people keep on gossiping. Well, turns out she found a good man from somewhere else, didn't introduce him to anyone, moved there, married, had children and has a normal, middle class life. She changed her first name and took her husbands last name. So she has a totally different name, no ties to anyone who she used to know and lives somewhere else. I think it was a good choice to start over. She seems happy.

It is strange though
Some posters no matter how often they name change are utterly recognisable

hobnobs maybe namechangers know full well they are reognisable under some names?

Can't you just be nice and enter into the spirit of the thread. Must people like you and continually always get your sly and unpleasant digs in?

You need some tomato sauce for that big chip on your shoulder.

I used to be on Handbag early 200’s and often attended the meet-up’s in London that almost always ended up in Sway Bar in Covent Garden

JuniLoolaPalooza I remember Whoopee too! She was great. I hope they are all doing okay.

I wonder this and also wonder from the point of view of others, about 4/5 years ago I decided to get rid of everything I had on social media, if you google me now nothing comes up, I only have this Mumsnet account and it's not got my name on it anywhere, I sometimes wonder if old school/uni friends etc think I just dropped off the planet! grin I had no reason other than I didn't want my children on social media and thought the best thing, as well as not wasting time, would be to get rid of everything!

It's quite hurtful actually if there's been no falling out.

One of my oldest friends has done this. The Christmas cards become round robin Christmas emails, written by her husband. One said they had moved but didn't include the new address. So I replied asking for the address (I still send actual Christmas cards) but no reply. And then nothing. Her husband and brother are still on FB, although we're not friends, but no mention of her or pictures or anything.

It's quite a feat to wipe yourself from the net!

I have an old friend who deleted most social media and did a flounce to the countryside thing a couple of years ago. She was always on social media, but, and I think this is key, used it very differently to say, me. She compared herself endlessly to others, her blogs and posts were contrived to present herself in her dream life and I think it was exhausting. She was starting to show signs of cracking before deleting it all. I also think her relationship was not great and he didn’t like her SM obsession either.

Blimey @GetOffYourHighHorse I was just trying to be nice and say that people don't always disappear in horrible circumstances and if you look carefully they are still on here and happy
Blimey must be miserable to have such a negative way of looking at other people's posts
No chips on my shoulder lovely 😂

Waterfallgirl - I'm fairly sure that that poster (I think she had 'Cath' somewhere in her name) still posts updates at very irregular intervals. I seem to remember having read one about a year ago. She was resettled in her home area and seemed OK (well, as OK as you can be given what had happened to her). I'll see if I can find the thread.

Waterfallgirl No, sorry, it's all much longer ago than I thought. She was called Cathpip and her daughter Pippa. Her friend Mouse used to post for her sometimes.

It would be good to know that she had finally found some peace in life. Heaven knows, she'd been through enough.

A friend from school. We weren’t actually close until the last couple of years when we were in the same classes. Had each other on Facebook throughout uni but never kept in touch or met up, then I think he deleted his account. I added him on LinkedIn and we exchanged messages a couple of years ago, but his account seems to have been disabled now.

Then she disappeared. Posts wiped. Blog gone. Everyone deleted. Nobody knew what had happened.

If it is who I think it is, she emigrated.

@TableDesk Are you thinking of nickelbabe? Alive and well on FB, to the best of my knowledge.

Yes! Nicklebabe! I'm delighted to hear this - truly!
Is this the one @StealthPolarBear?