To ask do you trust your OH 100%

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I see a lot of post's on here about people & their DH/DW about phone passwords and trust etc

So AIBU to ask do you trust your OH 100% and if not why/in what way?

I know if my DH went on a night out with the lads or similar I could trust him 100% to not even look at another woman! But I would be sat wondering if he was tempted to take drugs... So I guess it depends what way you look at trust!

Yes I trust him. I mean, I never think about it. I never check up on him.

Yes absolutely. I wouldn't trust him not to get pissed, or to come home precisely when he said, but I would 100% trust him not to do drugs, look at another woman (or man given another thread today), go to a strip club etc etc

I do. Because he's a good man, with very clear morals and values which match with mine.

I'm not arrogant enough to assume he'd never fall for anyone else, but I do believe he'd leave me before acting on it.

He doesn't take drugs, fucking hates them after his Army days.

We don't go through each other's devices but have the same passcode for all of them.

Yes I trust my DH 100%.

I trust no one 100% including myself. Humans fuck up all the time and often that results in others getting hurt.

Since it's been brought up he definitely wouldn't go to a strip club, or anything like that. He's very much a feminist ally, but then with me and 3 DDs I'd be surprised if he wasn't.

It depends on you as an individual I suppose, and what kind of relationship you have.

But personally for me trust is important and couldn’t have a strong relationship without trust.
There’s always gonna be temptation for any little thing and anyone can give in to it just depends how you take it.
My OH has a history one million percent we’ve been child hood sweet hearts and split and so on and so forth but do I judge him on the past?
I do trust him because he’s never given me a reason not to and until he does yes 100%

I did, totally 100%, then he cheated on me so I'm now with SoWhat..

I don't trust anyone 100%, to do so would be naive. In my experience the 'good guys' who would never do x y z are the ones who take advantage of their partners trust.

I don't trust anyone 100%. Everyone I have ever trusted has let me down. So nope.

No.

I don’t believe you can ever know fully what another human being will do.

You can trust they’re a good person, but nothing in life is certain least of all relying on someone else’s behaviour.

No.

No. I used to. He always preached about never cheating and how much he hates it and so on and then I caught him texting someone from work. Nothing in it per say but crossing the line by his own standards. Never trusted him after that and never will.

I trust him, but I’m also human. I think it’s silly to say “I trusts him to never look at another woman who they find attractive” - we can all appreciate someone else who is attractive, but I’d trust him not to act on that, even if propositioned. I saw a very attractive man yesterday and thought “wow, he is beautiful”. I was with friends and asked if they’d noticed him too - they had, but I wouldn’t have done anything about it.

We know each other’s passcodes for phones and I don’t feel the need to go through it etc.

We each have our own separate accounts and a joint one for house stuff. I trust him, but I’m also very sensible and wouldn’t put all my money into one account, particularly after reading threads on here - always need a buffer, just in case.

Depends what you mean by trust. I trust him 100% not to have sex with anyone else, but I wouldn't put money on him not snogging someone. He gets over excited and carried away, particularly when he's around someone he likes.

Similarly, I wouldn't trust him with a secret, as he just can't help blurting stuff out when he's excited.

He's adorable, but a bit like a giant puppy sometimes.

I trust my partner 99% & know him since 18. Never had an issue with drugs, other women etc but I wouldn’t trust anyone 100%.

I trust my DH as much as it is possible to trust another person.

I don't think it is possible or healthy to have 100% trust in anyone, I don't think DP would cheat on a night out after 13 years, but I am naive enough to think he couldn't fall in love with someone else or fall into an emotional affair, if he was in constant contact with them, like a colleague.
Human nature is what is it, I've no intention to cheat or start an emotional affair, I still can never say for 100% it couldn't happen.

No.
He had an emotional (and physical) affair while we were going through a rough couple of years.
Treated me like shit and I accepted it and tried to please him.
Said he was going to leave.
We are still together and I don't 100 % trust him but he reckons he wouldn't do it again.
And I am scared of him leaving us.

No. I would never make myself that vulnerable for anyone

Yes I trust him. He has never given me any reason not to. We have a DS and not a lot of babysitters so most outings tend to be as a family or not at all. Nights out separately are usually just at Christmas or visiting friends in their homes or occasional meals.
I don’t know his phone/computer password nor he mine.

It's naive to trust another person 100%. You never know what anyone else is capable of, no matter how much you think you know them.

Yes I do. But I didn’t always due to the mental scars of my previous relationship being abusive rather than anything my partner did wrong.

I would try to never judge anyone on their insecurities and not trusting their partner because I have been through that but I’ve also learnt that it’s no way to live.

Yes.