To ask do you trust your OH 100%

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I see a lot of post's on here about people & their DH/DW about phone passwords and trust etc

So AIBU to ask do you trust your OH 100% and if not why/in what way?

I know if my DH went on a night out with the lads or similar I could trust him 100% to not even look at another woman! But I would be sat wondering if he was tempted to take drugs... So I guess it depends what way you look at trust!

Until i can get in to his own head, know his own thoughts 24/7 i will trust him 99%...

I trust him to always do the right thing by me and DD, whether thats leave me before an affair or tell me straight away, or not gamble all our money on trap 4.

Yes.

Yes, I trust him 100% not to keep any secrets - he can't keep a thought to himself for a moment anyway! We share all our finances and know each others phone codes etc. The only thing I don't trust 100% is his ability to keep his temper. We've been together over 25 years and while we've had plenty of arguments he's never given me any cause to not trust him.

I trusted him 110%, until Friday when I found out he'd been sleeping with prostitutes for the last three years.

However i dont trust him to not put the empty milk back in to the fucking fridge!

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@formerbabe all the lolz? Are you 15

It's irony at your naivety.

If you think he wouldn't cheat, then fine.

You must be totally deluded if you think he doesn't even glance at other women.

In terms if cheating, yes, absolutely. I know his phone passwords, etc. (not because I insist on knowing but because his passwords for everything are either his bank PIN or the same password he's used for like 10+ years and I know those just for practical reasons because he asks me to use them to access things). Drugs and things like that I don't really care about. What he might do on a rare weekend away (we don't have local nights out as our friends live too far, so it's always a weekend away if we go out), isn't an issue. He's a grown up and I don't really have an issue with drugs personally as long as he doesn't get in trouble or do anything stupid (to be fair, I think he's used drugs maybe three times since I've known him which is 11 years!). He also knows he can tell me because it's not a big deal to me.

The only thing I only about 90% trust him on is things related to his family. We have a strained relationship with his mum and are completely no contact with his step-dad (due to issues related to abuse). We were NC with his mum for a couple years as well. His family is quite dysfunctional (in a high functioning keeping up appearances sort of way). He knows this, but still struggles with guilt (the usual sort of FOG stuff), so I know he sometimes does things in relation to them that he probably isn't totally honest with me about. I sort of accept it and grin and bare it through MIL's once every 3 months visit though.

No..you just never really know..not 100%

No. Because he is human. And situations change and people change.

I'm not sitting at home worrying when he is away with work or on a night out or anything as I do trust him. Just not 100pc

Yes, 100%. Quite frankly, he's more trustworthy than I am, lol. Do I trust him not to make mistakes? Hell no. He's human, just like me. I trust him to trust me when he does, so that we can sort out what needs to be done together.

I don't trust anyone 100% but it doesn't affect how I live my day to day life. However unlikely it may seem, anyone can cheat.

I completely trust my dh not to cheat.

No

Oh, and I completely trust that he still appreciates other attractive women. In a mature and respectful fashion. As I do other attractive men.

We're married, not dead.

Yes. We’ve been together 30 years and married for 29 of them. He is a good man.

No

No, I wouldn’t trust anyone 100%, that’s just naive.

But I am not in the slightest bit ‘worried’ or even thinking about it.

I don't trust anyone 100% no one. I have been hurt too many times over the years and learnt that you can't trust anyone including yourself. I don't think it's normal to trust someone 100% because you can't know what someone will do..especially if they aren't themselves because they are drink, not in the right frame of mind to make the right decisions and many other reasons

I honestly don't think you can trust anyone 100%. People fuck up spectacularly. Good people. Every single day.

@formerbabe its normal for men or women to look at others but what I mean is, I know he wouldn't look at another woman in a sexual way, or sit there and say to his friends "oh shes sexy" or similar...

I’m with @SoWhat21 I don’t 100% trust anyone for the same reason, we all mess up and at some point will do something that we normally wouldn’t do. I trust him as much as I trust anyone but it depends what is meant by trust. I don’t think he would cheat, I don’t think he would do anything I found morally reprehensible, I find he’s reliable but if I ask if to do something that isn’t urgent do I trust he won’t get distracted by the F1 race, no I don’t
As for phone passwords, we both have them and neither knows the others, I think we both have a right to private conversations and the person we are conversing with has the right to assume what they tell us is private and won’t be read by our spouses.

I trust him 99.9%. I do not trust him to remember to feed the cats and to put the bin out on bin day!

I don't trust anyone. I know of too many upstanding 'good' married men (and women to a lesser extent) who have done despicable things.

No. You can never fully know another human 100%

My oh has broken my trust before - he didn't cheat or anything but he kept something from me that hurt a lot when I found out. We have worked through it but the trust issue remains and even though we are happy it rears it's head from time to time and causes problems.

@BestUseADifferentName I am sorry. It is shocking when it happens.
You must be totally deluded if you think he doesn't even glance at other women
I agree. Most men look and use the image even briefly.