Petty things you still can't forgive people for

[Milkbath]

I have two

First one is my SIL (husband's sister)
She means well, but we're very different people, and she can be brash and overbearing. We're constantly working on maintaining boundaries for her, as otherwise she'd stamp all over them.

When I had my baby, she arrived unannounced a few days after we came home. This coincided with the community midwife visiting, and instead of making her excuses and leaving, SIL sat there and listened as the midwife asked me all the usual questions, some of which were extremely personal. Meanwhile SIL's toddler DC was trashing the house. In hindsight I wish I'd said something, but I was so weak and exhausted. The midwife should have as well, she kept glancing over at sil with that sort of expectant "time to fuck off now" look but sil has the hide of a rhino. Midwife was younger than I was at the time and I think she was a bit intimidated too. Even sometimes now I think back to it and it infuriates me!

My personal view is that the midwife should have said - as the professional with nothing lose in terms of relationship with SIL - "Would you mind taking your child for a walk (or some such) so that I can speak professionally and confidentially to Milkbath?"

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The second time was once when I'd been asked to take notes at a PTA meeting, and as they were all talking so fast, I naturally shortened a few words, obvious things like "Gemma had no.of q, eg where bake sale money will go"

We passed the notes on to the main PTA Queen bee who hadn't been there, and she delivered it back into my hands complete with "spelling corrections". I seethed for weeks!

I will never forgive Idris Elba for not thanking my DD for collecting an award on his behalf.
If I ever meet him I will tell him how bloody rude he is. Still refuse to watch anything he is in and the event was 7 years ago.

Years ago.
Worked as DV advisor. We got a new boss. She used to touch us...as in, hand on shoulder, across to middle, down back, remain while she finished speaking.
Team members all commenting.
Eventually I said something and guess who got shit for it?! In a DV charity!!!

If you're reading a) dont touch me at work for extended periods of time and b) dont make yourself the victim when I bring it up.

waited 10 years to see Bruce Springsteen live again. Finally he went on tour. 1988. Sheffield, Bramall Lane.
Went with DH, my mum and a few others.

HE DID AN ACOUSTIC VERSION OF BORN TO RUN
Wankspangle.

Still fuming ( though i wish i could STOP) at my so called friend who is a Christian, she dropped me after 20 years of friendship because of something ( not towards her) immoral i did. A real friend wouldn't do that

DS1 when he was little wrote to Jamie Oliver asking for an autograph (as per instructions on the website). He put an SAE in just to make sure.
Never received a thing.

My pet hate is people who 'apologise' then make detailed excuses as to why they did something, so it exonerates them from being responsible. Just say sorry! I don't care why!

Along with people who commit me to things without agreeing with me first!.

Grr!

@Mipiace Still fuming ( though i wish i could STOP) at my so called friend who is a Christian, she dropped me after 20 years of friendship because of something ( not towards her) immoral i did

But this forum is always telling people to dump friends because they disapprove of their lifestyle or choices eg 'oh I couldnt be friends with someone who goes fox hunting/has affairs with married men etc"

Years ago I helped at a community festival, walking behind a "walking tour" group of adults to keep them in line. It was hot, I was 6 months pregnant. When the tour ended and the group was off for a drink at the local, I asked the leader if I could head home now. No, she said, they needed escorting down a residential street to the pub .

I don't have any petty grievances I've nursed for ages. I save up my grudges for the really big stuff. That way, my revenge will be all the sweeter the day it comes.

Friend let me down with only a week to go before my wedding, about being my Matron of Honour.

I had bought her a dress and hand made a headdress too. She still has them.

I've tried over the years to get back to normal, but I just can't get past it.

Lenny Henry, the absolute bastard, for taking the piss out of stammerers with his Kings Speech parody for Comic Relief....I will never forgive him for that.
And if anyone knows him, ask him to get in touch with me, so I can tell him properly as neither he or the BBC replied to my several complaints.

My sister for pulling the head off my 'penny puppy walker doll'.
37 years ago
Cow

I woman I worked with tried to get me sacked while I was off sick (I was in hospital and before this I had a 100% attendance record) she went and told my boss that I spend a lot of time online shopping whilst at work. Her accusation led to my computer getting checked and them finding nothing (I had a very heavy workload and no time to be online). Her accusation also led to her computer being checked and lo and behold, hers was full of online shopping, holiday searches, grocery shopping etc etc. I know she got in a whole heap of trouble for it but I have to pretend I’ve forgiven her and sit next to her in our office with a smile on my face. I’m still seething about it (and kinda waiting for her to fuck up so I can get my own back).

A 'friend' calling my ddog a 'little rat'.

I went to the same chiropractor practice as a friend of mine. The guy who I had was drop-dead gorgeous; obviously I told my friend about this, and she told HER practitioner who was this guy's wife!! Friend couldn't understand why I felt awkward going back 🤷‍♀️

My best friend took the gold shoe for which i had the other one of in my hand. She wouldn't give it to me so i smacked her and then i got into trouble & was made to paint instead.

I had the gold shoe FIRST!!

We were 3, that was 35 years ago. Still stings.

My closet friend got very drunk at my DC's wedding, she alternated between loving me to cursing the day I was born.
Her husband, fucking coward, wandered off leaving me to cope with her drama.
She managed to spoil the last hour of the wedding with her selfish behaviour.

Are you still friends with her, @Warmhandscoldheart?

For my twins’ 3rd birthday, MIL gave one girl an Elsa barbie doll and the other girl a knitted monkey.

My bil announced the birth of my first child on Facebook (DH messaged him while I was recovering) before I had chance to tell my family. 10 years, I never said a word and have seethed since.

Three people said they'd being their child to DSs birthday party the other day and didn't show. Only one gave an excuse!
I was more annoyed by that than the parent who didn't rsvp but turned up anyway (his kid is very cute).

I actually don’t think that your first example is petty at all - I think that’s appalling behaviour by your SIL!

I can't forgive the girl who ran into my lane in the hurdles final, robbing me of victory (38 years ago at sports day).

Ditto mother in law getting vicar to name every. single. member of my family at her mother's funeral, including my kids, but excluding me on the basis I wasn't married to her son at the time. Pious old bitch.