It never ceases to amaze me when i see/hear/read women minimising controlling and abusive behaviour from their partners.
This 'lack of respect' is actually symptomatic of his abusive attitude and behavior.
we definitely watch his preference of film/TV show. I don't think he's ever offered to watch a film with me that I wanted to see
Due to its insidious nature, abuse doesn't have to be overt/in your face for it to exist.
This is why a lot of things make 'sense' only when you look back at the things you were socialised to brush off as being 'petty', 'not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things'.
Dig deeper - there will be more to discover.
He sees you as an object to be owned and used as, when and how HE pleases.
You don't exist as an autonomous human being in his mind.
This is why he laughs in your face when you try to validate yourself.
This is why he has no respect for you or your body.
In his mind you're the 'little woman' who is easily manipulated and he proves this to himself everyday.
He doesn't even bother pretending to hear you, that's how huge his ego is.
He CHOOSES to use coercive techniques to grind you down into acquiescing.
He's ensuring that you can't do right for doing wrong, so anytime you try to set boundaries he will twist that into being the 'cause', so it will always be your fault that you 'can't handle' his perception of 'normal'.
He knows how to gaslight you.
Pestering you for sex even after you've made it clear how you feel about his behaviour, should tell that you that this guy is NOT a good man.
His other characteristics - making you laugh, 'helping' you round the house etc DO NOT 'make-up' for his otherwise abusive behavior.
I guess he would be happy for his mother/sister/daughter to be treated like this by a man?
Stop making excuses for him.
He needs professional help - or dumping if he won't change his ways.