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To make DD put the rest of her ice cream in the bin.

315 replies

IdaMay19 · 22/07/2019 19:58

DD is 11. This morning she has had two Magnum ice creams. I have just came in from the garden to find her sitting at the kitchen table, eating a third.

I was a bit annoyed, and told her that she shouldn't be eating the third ice cream as she had already had two that day, and she should think of leaving some for other people. I thought that perhaps DH didn't realise she'd had two earlier and was allowing her a treat, so asked if she had checked with DH if she could have the ice cream. She said yes. At that point DH wandered in and I said "you do realise that's her third Magnum today?" he said "I didn't know she was having it?"

DD then said "well I asked if I could have supper". I told her she was lying by omission, because supper has always, for almost a decade, been fruit or toast,as she knows well,and she knew that neither DH or I would have said yes to supper being the third Magnum of the day!

By this point I was annoyed that she'd been sneaky more than I was annoyed at the actual eating of the ice cream, so I made her put the rest of it in the bin. She's now stomped off in a huff.

AIBU? I know it's summer, but as well as the ice cream she's had fries and a Coke on our day out today, plus biscuits when we called to see a relative earlier, and that's on top of egg and toast for breakfast and a huge dinner. She's active and very slim, but that's a huge amount of sugar compared to our usual amount, so that was me relaxing for the summer!

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MissingTheMissletoe · 22/07/2019 19:59

YABU. So long as she’s not overweight and is relatively active what’s the issue? She’s 11 fgs

JollyAndBright · 22/07/2019 20:00

DS is 12 and I would have done exactly the same thing.

SomewhereInbetween1 · 22/07/2019 20:02

I don't think YABU. that's a ridiculous amount of sugar.

MidnightLoo · 22/07/2019 20:02

YANBU

Actions have consequences and she lied. She's old enough to know better.

I'd do the same.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 22/07/2019 20:02

YANBU, I would have done the same thing because of the being sneaky above anything else.

ohfourfoxache · 22/07/2019 20:02

The lying would do it for me more than the actual amount of ice cream (although I agree 3 magnums is a huge amount of sugar even if she is “slim”)

Dontrainonmyparade · 22/07/2019 20:03

You sound quite the control freak over what she eats. She’s 11, it’s summer. By all means tell her you aren’t happy about the third ice cream and why, but then I would have dropped it, why on earth did she have to throw it away half eaten? That just smacks of you controlling at all costs.

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 22/07/2019 20:03

YANBU the sneaky behaviour is what I’d have been irritated with

IdaMay19 · 22/07/2019 20:03

Posted too soon- even though she is slim and healthy I don't want her thinking eating three big ice creams in a day where she's had quite a bit of junk is OK, because although she can get away with it now, it'll catch up with her in future and is so unhealthy. Also she knew we'd say no.

She isn't denied sugar and junky foods by any means, but she is still only 11 and I feel we are still responsible for helping her make healthy choices.

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littlepaddypaws · 22/07/2019 20:04

throw it away that's petty, why would you do that ? just make sure she doesn't make a habit of it, but it's not the end of the world.

JeanieJardine55 · 22/07/2019 20:04

I would have let her finish it but told her that she had finished her treats for this week.

CrackOn · 22/07/2019 20:04

I can't muster an opinion either way tbh.i probably wouldn't have done it myself as I hate wasting food and have been just as bad on occasion, but I wouldn't say it was totally awful of you either.

Halloumimuffin · 22/07/2019 20:05

I mean a one off day like that isn't going to hurt her, but I'd be annoyed at her sneakiness and bad attitude. Saying that, I don't think I'd have made her throw something half eaten away, it's just a waste.

IdaMay19 · 22/07/2019 20:05

I made her throw it away because of the sneaky behaviour, I was going to let her finish it otherwise, though I had pointed out that she had had plenty of ice cream that day. At no point did I shout or raise my voice or anything like that

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Lovethetimeyouhave · 22/07/2019 20:05

Yanbu! I would have done the same! The lying and sneaky ness is what would annoy me too!

greasyspooncafe · 22/07/2019 20:05

Yanbu. Totally agree with what you did.

Why's she helping herself to ice cream (or anything for that matter) anyway without asking you or hubbie first?

MadeForThis · 22/07/2019 20:06

I would have done the same. Both for the greed and the lying.

HavelockVetinari · 22/07/2019 20:07

I can't believe anyone thinks you're unreasonable! No-one, child or adult, slim or obese, should be eating three Magnums in a day. That's a ridiculous amount of sugar and fat, especially for an 11 year old child!

Yes, she might be slim now, but if she is allowed to eat like that she'll be an overweight teen/young adult. Not to mention dental problems and the risk of type II diabetes.

YANBU at all OP.

HerRoyalNotness · 22/07/2019 20:11

I wouldn’t have done it. But also wouldn’t buy any more for a week or two after they run out. The consequence of having 3 ice creams in a day is none available for the short term future

IdaMay19 · 22/07/2019 20:12

Yes, that's what I thought. Of course we can all be greedy at times, but it's essentially not OK to eat three Magnums in a day, I wouldn't want her thinking that was normal eating just because "it's summer".

She's allowed to help herself to fruit and toast, of which we always have a large selection, but anything like ice cream, biscuits etc she has to ask.

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Dogmatix34 · 22/07/2019 20:18

Mini magnums or full size? If full size I’d have done the same as you. I can totally imagine DD (8) doing the same thing.

IdaMay19 · 22/07/2019 20:20

Full size!

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Bunbunbunny · 22/07/2019 20:22

Ok full size is not on for an 11 year old! I agree with you OP you done the right thing, she didn’t need the 2nd or 3rd ice cream and she lied that would have angered me more as well

MsMightyTitanAndHerTroubadours · 22/07/2019 20:23

I probably would have gone down the route that she'd be done for treats for the rest of the week.

and maybe buy more for the rest of the family to ram the point home, esp considering her sneaky lying.

Cheeserton · 22/07/2019 20:24

She’s 11 fgs

Quite, which is why THREE magnums is bloody ridiculous, especially on top of the rest of it.