To make DD put the rest of her ice cream in the bin.

[IdaMay19]

DD is 11. This morning she has had two Magnum ice creams. I have just came in from the garden to find her sitting at the kitchen table, eating a third.

I was a bit annoyed, and told her that she shouldn't be eating the third ice cream as she had already had two that day, and she should think of leaving some for other people. I thought that perhaps DH didn't realise she'd had two earlier and was allowing her a treat, so asked if she had checked with DH if she could have the ice cream. She said yes. At that point DH wandered in and I said "you do realise that's her third Magnum today?" he said "I didn't know she was having it?"

DD then said "well I asked if I could have supper". I told her she was lying by omission, because supper has always, for almost a decade, been fruit or toast,as she knows well,and she knew that neither DH or I would have said yes to supper being the third Magnum of the day!

By this point I was annoyed that she'd been sneaky more than I was annoyed at the actual eating of the ice cream, so I made her put the rest of it in the bin. She's now stomped off in a huff.

AIBU? I know it's summer, but as well as the ice cream she's had fries and a Coke on our day out today, plus biscuits when we called to see a relative earlier, and that's on top of egg and toast for breakfast and a huge dinner. She's active and very slim, but that's a huge amount of sugar compared to our usual amount, so that was me relaxing for the summer!

Of course YANBU. The YABUs attitudes are the reason why there are so many flabby kids and adults and diabetes ia at its all time peak.

CookPassBabtridge

I'd agree with you ordinarily about throwing away good food.

But I don't really see how OP could have watched her DD continue to happily eat her 3rd Magnum, having flat out lied to her father.

Oh fgs so now I have to defend her entire diet.

OK, so the chips and coke is rare because usually we take a picnic or eat out properly, but we couldn't be arsed today and the place we were at was a chicken nugget type of place

Dinner tonight was asparagus pie with chicken and avocado salad and sweet potato cubes. I serve her an adult portion because she's 5'4 and extremely active, she does three sports and we're always hiking as a family. She gets a chocolate bar after swimming on a Saturday, we have sweets/popcorn at our family film night on Fridays, and I'll sometimes bake on a Sunday. Snacks are boiled eggs, cheese, crackers, veg croutons, hummus. Ffs.

4 x Magnum are £3.20 in Tesco, let's stop with the luxury item shall we? grin

So that's £2.40 in ice cream today. That would be a massive luxury to many families for whom £2.40 would need to be spent on dinner and I'm not just talking about those on the poverty line.

That would be getting on for £10 a day if all of a family of 4 decided to eat 3 magnums.

I would have told her she was eating more than is fair so that's my Magnum now, and would have had it off her.
No food wastage, she learns a lesson.

Your DD should not be eating three ice creams in a day, on top of other junk. You know this and you’re right. There’s nothing “controlling” about “controlling” the diet of an 11 year old to make sure she stays healthy. You’re her parent. That’s your job.

And supper is usually a slice of granary toast and a chopped up apple or a satsuma!

Only on Mumsnet will you be labelled a control freak and a bully for suggesting 3 magnums is not ok for an 11 year old

I read with interest threads about drug use and how common it is among Mumsnetters.

This thread is a prime example of people who much be on drugs

I was always starving hungry at that age. Agreed she shouldn't have lied but maybe she needs something more filling than fruit or toast for supper.

What time is that by the way?

Is that a posh word for what we call tea up here?

When you read is qualified as "healthy" on these threads, no wonder we have a huge issue with food.

The Magnums seem the least of the problems here - and the fact that people are more than happy to buy super-sized ice-cream summarise it well

I would bet good money that @ReanimatedSGB is overweight and blames her parents for restricting food growing up. It is totally normal for parents not to allow their DC to self-regulate. My 2-year-old would eat nothing but biscuits, toast and ice-cream if I allowed it - fortunately I'm not a total fucking eejit so he eats fruit, veg and wholegrains with occasional treats.

Making her throw it away is awful and shameful, that is not the way to set an example.

What you should have done is explained to her that it is wrong and that for the rest of the week she is to not help herself. You can then impose a limit per day or week that she has to follow. I am just disgusted you made her throw it away, what a terrible way to behave.

Also I'm surprised that for dinner she can only eat fruit and or toast?

I would have done the same it's pure greed, she clearly didn't need it and had so many treats that day she wasn't being deprived.
Just because it's there dosnt mean you stuff your face it sets bad habits for the future. Treats are great you make them last then you have it there when you fancy it.

thentherewascakes

But this was one, untypical day, as the OP says, and it's exactly because she doesn't think it's great to have so much junk, that she reacted about the Magnum.

What's wrong with fruit & toast, by the way?

My parents let us have as many ice poles and jubillees as we wanted in the hot weather to cool down. Magnums are a treat not an everyday occurrence in our house. My dad would definitely thrown it away (and I would have gone off in a mood).

You could make healthier options she can help herself to, freeze premise smoothies or make your own and freeze them. Blend frozen banana with various toppings such as honey and peanut butter or banana and strawberries in one serving Tupperware and reference to make a delicious healthy alternative to ice cream.

And she wasn't hungry she just wanted a bloody Magnum!

We don't usually keep ice cream bars in the freezer as a regular thing, my parents brought them round yesterday and we thought we'd have them while sitting in the garden earlier today.

Also to whoever compared a slice of toast to a magnum, God help your size ten jeans if three ice creams is your answer to low carbing

This thread has made me want a magnum

I’ve got a box of mini magnums in the fridge. Am I allowed one or two of them??

I think it’s pretty clear that ‘supper’ means a snack after dinner/before bed in this case. Those of you pretending that you don’t know what she means or pretending to think she’s feeding her child a single slice of toast and a satsuma for the main evening meal are not as cute as you think you are.

Oh christ.

Supper is not dinner.

Dinner happens between 5-6 and is the big sit down hot meal.

Supper happens around 7-8 and is fruit or evil, evil death toast.

Breakfast and lunch also happen, as do snacks.

Three Magnums will not happen again

I’m all for sugar and treats in moderation but 3 magnums is definitely ott add that to the lying, I don’t think ywbu.

I don't even like ice lollies but I could murder one now 🐷

This truly is one of the silliest threads for a while. Thanks for the laughs everyone.

Right, I'm off to feed my neglected, starving, toast-eating-soon-to-be-diabetic, bullied, controlled daughter another fifty magnums, just because she wants them.

Good food in the bin? No.

Bet you’d wished you’d not bloody asked OP

As she had already had Coke, fries, biscuits and two other Magnums earlier in the day, that probably put her right off eating anything resembling a healthy dinner.
Far too many 'treats' in one day!
YANBU but I would keep a close eye on the refined carbs.