To be pissed off that she keeps dumping clothes on me?

[LongIslandTea60]

A lady I know asked me a while ago what size my kids were in as she had some clothes that were too small and wanted to give them to me. My kids already have too much so I said no thankyou, but she insisted.

Today I have come home from work to find 6 bags of clothes in varying ages by my door. The majority are stained, have holes in, faded and smell damp. I literally could have cried when I got home. The local skip in our area is only open 1 day per week and its closed by the time I get home from work. I cant give it to charity, its not fit for anyone to wear.

I feel ungrateful but why the hell would anyone give someone clothes in that state? I dont know what to do with it all! AIBU?

If they are in a state, can you take them to a Cash 4 Clothes, then donate the cash h to a charity?

Just put them in a bin bag and put them out with your normal rubbish collection.

You lot need to calm down and give the OP a minute!

If they are in a state, can you take them to a Cash 4 Clothes, then donate the cash h to a charity?

Ffs why should OP be the one to fuck about getting rid of someone else’s rubbish??

If you can pop into a charity shop ask if they will have them to sell on. Some charity shops sell clothes that can’t be sold on to recycling companies that pay per ton. If you sign a gift aid form for them they make more money. But what a hassle I know. I go to the charity shop every other week because I get given A LOT of clothes and I live in a tiny flat.

Omg what a CF

'You are not helping me by dumping bags of stuff on my doorstep, please come and remove them'

And please can people STOP with the suggestions that OP takes them somewhere else. It's not OP's stuff to deal with. She needs to put an end to it now or she will forever be recycling this CF's rubbish

She probably thinks you don't have much and the clothes might do for mucking about. No need to be all offended by people thinking you're poor. Some people are poor and it's nothing to be ashamed of.

The problem is her not listening to your boundaries. just take them back with a breezy thanks but no thanks.

without actually seeing how bad the clothes are it's hard to judge if she is a CF. Assume best motives, establish your boundaries, move on & don't give it a thought.

I'd reply, "Situation? Haha, we're fine. I'll pop them back to you in the morning." job done. cheeky Fer

Oh OP how annoying!

I second dumping them back to her but if you don’t want the confrontation back then properly in two large refuse sacks and leave them at a charity shop with a label that says ‘for the rag man’.

I volunteered for a save the children years ago and they have massive piles for the rag man to collect I even think some pay for the volume.

Hopefully OP has dropped them back by now, she said she would drop them on her way to work, I think, and that should be the end of it.

I'd probably take them back and just tip all of the clothes out of the bags onto her doorstep.

Take them back to her house. She just doesn't want to trek to the charity shop I bet!

FFS she's being bloody ignorant, drop them back on her doorstep OP, can;t believe she left them after you said no! And in bad condition too

I think a response along the lines of ‘It’s kind of you but we really don’t need these, thanks. I’ll drop them off next time I’m passing your way’. With a safety smiley, perhaps?

I mean you could start probing about what she means about your ‘situation’ but that could end up stringing the conversation out, so I’d just go with polite, smiley, but firm. Definitely firm!

Cheeky mare!! What the hell does she mean by your “situation”?!

I would reply:
“I am sorry but I have no idea what you mean by my “situation”? Perhaps you have mixed me up with some one else. Thanks for thinking of us but as I told you when you first asked, I am swamped with clothes & desperately need to clear out my own outgrown & stained stuff so really don’t have the capacity to deal with someone else’s. When are you next passing? I will leave the bags out for you to collect”

After that message, if it were me, the gloves would be off and I would leave her under no illusion that her trying to be 'helpful' was nothing more than her dumping the unwanted clothes (stained and damaged) on me.
Definitely send the suggested message that @CoraPirbright put together.

Do you get those charity bin bags through your door, asking for old clothes that can be sold on by weight? Otherwise I'd just put them in my bin, I think.

I assumed she was dropping them on you instead of being arsed to take them to the charity shop/dump...but she drove SEVEN MILES?! Perhaps she really does think you need them!

put them in a bin bag and put them out with your normal rubbish collection

Damm sure I wouldn't be putting them in my bin. It's only collected every two weeks there wouldn't be room for my rubbish! And I wouldn't be storing 6 bags of mouldy clothes in my house either! And if its not in the bin it doesn't get taken here.

It's not kind and nobody needs dirty holey mouldy clothes!

Well, what is your “situation” as she might perceive it, do you think? She clearly sees something specific about you that suggests you might benefit, or she’s confused you with someone else.

Selling them on at 50p per kilo (whatever the current rate is) gets my vote

And a firm message telling her that you're not in need but that you've disposed of he clothes now but make it crystal clear that you don't want any more

What does she think your situation is??

I also came on to say H&M, they recycle the clothing and you get a voucher per bag.
Good for the planet and you get some money back!

I think that given the fact I wouldn't want anything to do with this woman any longer, I'd just take the bags and leave them on her doorstep.