SO much cheating

[Somuchcheating]

Feeling a bit floored about how much cheating I’ve recently found out is going on amongst people I know

Don’t think this is just my circle is it? The below are a mix of friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, friends of friends etc

Just a few examples -

High up local official, family man, currently sleeping with three women other than his wife

Married man with baby engaging in gay foursomes of a weekend

Friend of dh having affair, wife oblivious

Married Woman at work sleeping with our mutual colleague, everyone but her dh knows

Don’t consider myself particularly naive but was really shocked at just how much cheating is going on, and know for a fact their other halves are clueless

Makes me both and 😡

I think that more people cheat than should, but not the majority - most people don't want to risk hurting others. More would do it if they knew for certain it would never hurt anyone - but that's not possible, of course, so they don't.

I also think that those who so certainly and loudly proclaim that "almost everyone's at it", are actually at it, themselves (or have been), and just really need to believe everyone else is like them.

Well I'm male and I have a huge issue with morals and principles, I'd make Snow White look like a slut!
Me and my partner of 20yrs often say if either of us went the other would probably stay single. Just couldn't be bothered with all the preening and small talk. I'd rather stay at home and chill.
Clearly I'm getting old!!

I don't believe most people cheat. I believe some people do because they're selfish and stupid, but I don't buy the whole "everyone's at it" mentality.

Most people don't cheat. It's not the norm. People who cheat like to tell themselves that everyone is at it because it makes them feel better. I also think people who have been cheated on like to tell themselves this because it makes them feel better. I know that sounds harsh and it isn't in any way their fault, but I do think it's true. Misery loves company. (I say this as someone who was cheated on by a dirtbag ex, I'm genuinely not trying to be a dick.)

It's a bit like when people say "everyone does coke these days". No, they don't. Everyone that you know does it because those are the sort of people you associate with, and you tell yourself that everyone elss is doing it to legitimise your own decisions and avoid having to face up to the fact that you might be making bad choices.