To think that it's unkind to leave one person out?

[Mammyloveswine]

So I work in a small team of 6, i considered us to be a close team and friends. We have a WhatsApp group and all message everyday. One of the staff had a big birthday today. I tried to arrange a little lunch out to celebrate this week but not everyone could make it so I sorted a collection from everyone and also bought a gift just from me. I knew birthday girl was having a day/night out to celebrate today "with close family and friends" and knew that 2 other members of our team were going. All fine. They are close friends. Anyway I've just received a photo to our WhatsApp group of our whole team (not just the ones that I know are really close) who are all out on the town together celebrating. I wasn't invited and the others never mentioned they were going when we were discussing weekend plans.

I know that it's her choice to invite who she wants but I considered her a friend! In fact she messaged me last night thanking me for being such a good friend lately! For the whole team to have been invited but not me just makes me feel like crap. How can you just leave one person out?

The rational side of me says to not overthink it and it's probably nothing personal but part of me feels like I'm back at school again! I just feel really hurt!

AIBU to think that it's a little bit mean to invite all but one person?

@OooErmissus, yes, giving the reasons above. She went out of her way to let me know her husband ‘got on the best’ looking after the 2 DCs. I could add more CFs from her but don’t want to derail the thread. I have little contact with her these days.

Awwww @Mammyloveswine I just want to give you such a massive hug!! Like many others it has also happened to me and it hurts like hell. Another thing that has happened to me is thinking you are getting along really well with a person (work colleague, school mum etc) then suddenly overnight they go cold and distant, it is so upsetting and for me, makes me so nervous about attempting friendships.

Good on you for focusing your energy into progressing your career, it really will give you something else to focus on whilst your there. Leave the bitches to it, one of them will be excluded next and they will know how you have felt this week.
I wish you worked with me, you sound like a lovely friend to have xx

Thank you @Auramigraine!

Have had a lovely family day today! (Overall..I spoke about it another thread!!) but it was mostly fabulous and I didn't think of work at all!

Do you have a family? Children? Like the others also grasping but if you do perhaps she thought you may not be able to commit to a night out

Actually you sound too nice OP. have had similar experiences. Not nice.

Hey Mammy just checking in, still in awe of your maturity and overall adulting!