Pink highlights and husband is mad

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Hi - I went to hairdressers for cut and blow dry - my hairdresser had a cancelled appointment so I got my hair highlighted with pink and blonde. (It's more pinky than blonde). I'm 54, yes I guess I'm getting older, but I DO like it. So my OH has just come in and he's going mad saying 'how old do you think you are?' etc etc. I'm really kinda hurt but also angry and I guess I should have said I was gonna do a 'radical change' (it is for me I'm soooo boring) but how could I - I didn't know hairdresser was gonna be free and I did it on the spur of the moment. Now I'm feeling like crap boo hoooooooo

I asked my dh what he'd do if I came home with a hairstyle he hated. His response 'it's your hair'

he's calmed down and said he was sorry! Wish me luck at work today.

Good, and good luck!

Lol @user1491678180 going on about “reading comprehension” and then accusing a poster of saying the exact opposite to what she actually said! 😂

If my husband came home with a change to his appearance that I hated, I actually think I could control myself enough to not inform him that I hated it. But even if I really felt like I needed to tell him that I didn’t like it, I still wouldn’t insult him or make unkind comments.

So - according to you, it's OK for YOU to have an opinion on his hair and say it's horrid and you hate it, but not OK for HIM to say anything to you.? Because it's 'cruel' and 'unkind....'?'

Thanks for confirming what I said. Some women on mumsnet are fine with slagging off men and telling them they look shit, and their beard is vile, etc etc, but men MUST NOT CRITISIZE WOMEN.

Thank you also, for further reinforcing my argument, by illustrating PERFECTLY, the double standards on mumsnet!

Eh? No, that's not what @VivienneHolt said! Try reading it again. She said she could control herself to NOT tell him she hated it. And if she really felt that SOMETHING needed to be said, she'd say it in a kind way, without being nasty about it. So where are the double standards that you're crowing about, in that post?

Thought of you OP this morning, as I saw a lady with white hair and some lilac whisps around the bottom. It looked fantastic, I did tell her so

The alleged double standards are because 'Some women on mumsnet' are sometimes mean to men and therefore everyone else, including the majority saying something entirely different, are guilty by association.

I'll bet that looks lovely!
Your OH was a rude, immature, spiteful twat about it. If I were in your shoes, i'd be getting rainbow highlights next time

Well I had a flipping brilliant day and soooo many compliments. I'm gonna go get my eyelashes lifted and dyed next weekend and am gonna start doing all sorts of beauty things - thanks for all your comments. Hubby has calmed down and I think he's actually quite liking it now

Go you OP!
And well done hubby.... he knows what side his breads buttered on 😁

Good for you! Getting older doesn't mean we have to become boring and invisible.

Look up a blog called Advanced Style. There are lots of fantastic women on there, all over 60, and many in their 80s and 90s, who are rocking wild hair colours and flamboyant dress. I'd love to look like they do at that age!

motoko amen to that !

I didn't know hairdresser was gonna be free and I did it on the spur of the moment. Now I'm feeling like crap boo hoooooooo

I doubt anyone will notice after a couple of days, but I think its more noticeable that you write like a teenager!

Do you think the multi-coloured hair will be an issue for your employer?

You have the right to do whatever you like with your hair, and your husband has the right to hate it.

The correct answer was the third response in. That's all there is to it basically.