Pink highlights and husband is mad

[BBCONEANDTWO]

Hi - I went to hairdressers for cut and blow dry - my hairdresser had a cancelled appointment so I got my hair highlighted with pink and blonde. (It's more pinky than blonde). I'm 54, yes I guess I'm getting older, but I DO like it. So my OH has just come in and he's going mad saying 'how old do you think you are?' etc etc. I'm really kinda hurt but also angry and I guess I should have said I was gonna do a 'radical change' (it is for me I'm soooo boring) but how could I - I didn't know hairdresser was gonna be free and I did it on the spur of the moment. Now I'm feeling like crap boo hoooooooo

I love your hair @NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace !

Sure, I judge women with pink or whatever hair... I judge them to be women who aren't dull conformists, they nearly always look great, and if they don't at least they're not boring like me.

I've liked your hair on other threads @NiceLegsShameAbouttheFace, but nice to see it again!

I think people doing what they want with their hair (and dress etc) is good to see. Sod what anyone else thinks.

I'm 47 soon and I've had pink hair for the last 6 months. Some people seem to really like it (mostly younger people apparently) and some of my older colleagues clearly hate it, and go all pursy lipped when they look at it. HA to them, I say. Mine's long too, which is also apparently all wrong for someone as old as me.

I have blond hair with pink bits in - sometimes purple/blue etc DH isn’t keen and does say where’s my lovely blond wife 🧐 but is mainly joking and I don’t give a stuff anyway!
I bet you look fabulous!

A woman I know from camera club has pink hair. She's in her late 60s.

If he doesn't like it then that's fine but it's your choice since it's your hair. Tell him to bugger off.

Aren`t men weird about hair my OH and DS aged 17 are not happy I let my grey grow out, my hairdresser has put blonde streaks through as it grows out so as to blur the effect of roots showing. Helen Mirren was pink recently it looked fab. I will look at pink further down the road.

I suddenly want pink highlights

How long do these colours usually last?

@BBCONEANDTWO I’m a similar age than you and you’ve just given me the impetus to do the same !

Pink doesn’t last so long-but all depends on how much you wash your hair-maybe 6 weeks? But will gently fade. Blue on the other hand...

@Heatherblue I had to have blonde ombre put in as my brown hair was too dark to take any colour. The first time I dyed it I had it done in the salon, but since then I've been adding the pink myself at home, using Crazy Colour. Pink does fade really quickly - mine goes from a bright vivid pink to a pastelly pink in a couple of weeks, and then keeps a pinky tinge for a good few weeks more. I recently let it all fade out totally to blonde and that took about 8 weeks to go completely.

This is my faded pink, maybe 10 days after the previous pic.

@user1491678180 I judge you for being ageist, boring and dull. Life isn't over when you're over 50. You might think everyone should be dressed like a Country Casuals model from the 80s but actually most of us ancient crumbling relics quite like to still have fun, including doing stuff with our hair.

Viva @VivienneHolt 👍

54 isn't 94 sweetie. 54 isn't too old for anything. (except soft play, but you're way past that!) Do whatever makes you feel good. It has nothing to do with anyone else and anyone who thinks it does have something to do with them needs calmly reminding otherwise. People who think themselves old become old before their time. In my head I'm still 28. According to my birth certificate I'm 46. I never lie about my age but I just don't feel it and kind of forget. I'll be reading about a sports person still competing at 40 and I'll think. "That's really old!" and then it will dawn on me that it's a good few years younger than me. But for some reason 28 is where my brain stopped, just after I became a mum for the first time at 27. And that's fine with me, I intend to be mentally 28 for ages yet.

I have pink hair. It varies from shocking pink to candy floss depending on how recently it was done. I have been stopped on the street and in shops several times by people telling me how much they love it - never happened with my natural colour hair.

I bet it looks fab. Good for you for trying something different.

Is user1491678180 the same person who thinks that people of a certain undefinable age are too old to go to live music gigs and festivals?

I'm in no doubt that there are people who are judging me - whether for my pink hair, or my fat backside, or my driving or my clothes or whatever. But you know what? I don't give a monkeys. There are only a handful of people whose opinion matters to me.

Just asked my DH (42) he said 'I'd tell you go for it if you want to ' ... I agree ...unless you have a very serious job
That doesn't lend itself to pink hair!!

I would add your changing husbands next and watch his reaction !

From what you’ve said I bet you look amazing! Tell him to bore off xx

I think a high % of pp saying that op can do what she wants with her hair, would actually have something to say if their dh came home unexpectedly with green hair, a mohican or a face piercing.

LOL if a man did this we would be all warning OP that he was having annaffair.

I thought we were passed asking our husbands permission to do things with our own bodies. If I wanted rainbow hair my DH would say whether he liked it or not and that would be that. Likewise if he did the same to his

It's not up to him to decide how you have your hair. I suppose he's entitled to his opinion, but that's all it is, his opinion! Don't let it make you feel rubbish. Your hair sounds very nice and up to date, not 'too young' at all. At least youre making an effort with your appearance and aren't scared to try new things rather than getting stuck in a dated time warp and keeping the same old look for years. Good on you i say!

Your hair, your choice with what you want to do with it. If my DH got grumpy whenever I changed my hair colour, he'd pretty much be a grumpy git all the time. I'm 53. I don't intend to stop colouring my hair whatsoever. If you like it, then he can just sod off

"LOL if a man did this we would be all warning OP that he was having an affair."

A woman only has to post about her dh going out more, buying new underpants, joining a gym or coveting a sports car for mn to start shouting mid-life crisis!

I think a high % of pp saying that op can do what she wants with her hair, would actually have something to say if their dh came home unexpectedly with green hair, a mohican or a face piercing

So what? It's completely fine to have an opinion and NOT like something. To 'go mad' and shout how old do you think you are? etc. is out of order. Big difference.