Text found on husbands phone

[roseyposeypuddingandpie]

Him: Can you do lunch next week?
Her: Yes I can do Monday.
Him: Just remember, you are brave and strong, life is a daily battle that you’re winning, Every day gets easier I'm telling you!!! You are beautiful kind, intelligent and hard working, nothing else matters
Oh and you have a good looking boss.
Xxx

What would you think?

Every thread seems to descend into several mini threads of fighting these days, it’s really fucking irritating.

Good luck, OP. If ever you feel like you’re losing your nerve and falling back into a routine with him, search out some of the similar threads in Relationships to give you some courage and inspiration.

Not guarding his phone like many serial cheats do suggests to me he wants to be caught: the saying he's done with your relationship 'many times before' made me think that he's been looking to leave before. The flirting 'good-looking boss' & kisses are the opening gambit for an affair & he's using her shitty time & need for support as an 'in'. Eugh.

Hope you're OK OP, People don't get that a thread isn't Eastenders. You can't have a few days to sit down and think 'ok what next' on mumsnet.

Been here fucking millions of times over the years. If somethings not going on currently then it's not far off. This is how it goes, without exception, just try and exit with your self respect and move on quickly that's my only advice.

Is this for real? You really need to ask if you abu? Kick him to the kerb!

To me it sounds like he's a narcissist. He's in his 'prince charming' phase with her. You - well, he already has you hasn't he, so he doesn't have to keep up the act any more. He owns and controls you.

And yes, I'm speaking from bitter experience.

Christ he sounds like my ex manager, he’d seek out the vulnerable women on his teams by going through their personnel file for reasons they’d been off sick and target those who had MH reasons stated (I was one of those targets and we all knew he was married at that time had two kids and a third on the way).

I’m sorry you’re going through this OP. It’s not professional and even if he is a ‘matey’ boss it’s still way beyond appropriate.

I second PP who have said he’s fishing. His response to you catching him out is Gaslighting and emotional blackmail. It’s so easy for others looking in to say LTB, but I get it’s not that easy, especially when you have a family.

I hope you find the strength to get yourself free of this man and his perpetuating unfaithfulness, you deserve better and take it from a person who came from a very broken family, I’d much rather have seen my Mum happy than being used as a commodity when I was a child

Glad you are going to dump him OP. You deserve so much better. Look after yourself and make sure you get everything you are entitled to.

You're an immature cunt!!!!? Good god what a absolute dickhead! I'm far from being a relationship expert but when your partner comes to you with a concern that's the last friggin thing you say to him or her! I'm a confrontational person anyway so If my husband called me a cunt i would of done one better and got her number and called her and asked her what the fuck is going on. That's how much of a cunt I can be!

They never seem to be friend/adviser/confidante to a woman who isn't young and beautiful.

As for calling you a cunt tell him to fuck off. Hopefully his crush doesn't want him in the way he thinks she does. & he's an unprofessional creep too by the way. For this and insulting you he deserves dumping, see how loves old dream would play out then.

I'd have screenshotted that text

Totally inappropriate. Not a professional working relationship, I'm afraid.

OP
I am sorry it has reached this point with him. You deserve better.
Good luck.

He sounds like a total wanker. 'You have a good looking boss'!?! Fucks sake.