To be annoyed MIL gave my baby water?

[loudnoises1]

AIBU to be annoyed here? Or am I still a hormonal mess?

So my 13 week old DD has a very sensitive tummy. Dr has advised us to feed her in small doses etc. She is a super lovely easy baby, rarely cries and sleeps through (most) nights.

A couple of weeks ago on a very hot day, MIL suggested we give DD some water in her bottle as it was so hot. I said no, babies don't need water and with her tummy being so sensitive I'd rather she didn't have anything she wasn't used to.

This past weekend MIL had DD for a few hours while we were at a wedding. When she dropped her back off with us DD was screaming completely inconsolable. Again, a very hot day and MIL had changed her into a vest, sleepsuit and a blanket. I was already a bit annoyed about this so I stripped her off to cool her down and noticed how bloated her stomach was.
I text MIL to ask if DD had been okay throughout the day and her response was 'I think she was a bit too hot but I gave her a 6oz bottle of water so she'll be fine'

DD was fine (after a couple of bumsplosions) of course but AIBU to be fuming that MIL did this or do I need to ignore it. I'm mostly annoyed that she did something I specifically said not to do. It's just some water this time but what will it be next time, feeding her solids? Giving her sugary drinks?

Is it possible that there is a special mil water that is more dangerous than normal water?

Indeed- MILs literally water board their DGC

And force feed water to be consumed all at once in a single gulp

I'd have wondered if juice was added to the water hence the sore bum but OP had mentioned that it was 6oz in one go which is too much. My Ds is 18 and the advice was 1-2oz of water in a go on hot days.

Had it been boiled (and cooled of course!)?

If you leave your daughter with your MIL, it is perfectly reasonable for her to make minor decisions that she thinks are in the best interest of the child.

Please take baby to the doctors asap. That amount of water can be fatal.

Absolutely no water should be given before 6 months.

Between 6 and 12 months it should be a total of 2oz per 24 hours.

@TheDandyHighwayman
It’s a shame she's fucked her chance of having a relationship with your daughter, because there are no circumstances she should be allowed anywhere near her, the stupid cow.

You seem lovely...

I agree 8 ounces is a lot but surely it wasn't all at once . If it was hot baby must have been extremely thirsty to take something she isn't used too.

As a maternity nurse I would always suggest boiled water to bottle fed babies in hot weather. Sometimes babies are just thirsty rather than hungry.

I wonder if you would have posted had it been your DM ?
Lots of hate towards MIL’s on Mumsnet.
Very forgiving of your mums, but not your husband’s mums it seems !!

Jessie94 this happened a couple of weeks ago and the OP has said the baby is fine.

Please take baby to the doctors asap. That amount of water can be fatal.

Absolutely no water should be given before 6 months.

That's not true. I had my children in a different country and there it's normal to give babies water from newborn. All babies have water, all the time.
No one's died from that yet.

I'm assuming it was cooled boiled water? If so, I would let it go. 6oz is a lot, but maybe it wasn't all at once? And if the baby was overdressed in hot weather she was probably thirsty enough to drink it all. It's annoying she did it after you said not to, but if she was worried about baby dehydrating in the hot weather, and only being fed small amounts at a time, I would say that concern for dehydration trumps everything else adn was not being unreasonable. Babies can dehydrate very fast.

Absolutely no water should be given before 6 months

Did you just make that up? Babies have been given boiled water forever.

I think it's 2 oz a day max

I think this comes down to whether you think grandparents are always right because they didn't kill their own kids or not.

A baby wouldn't take 6oz unless it needed it?

What a shame she's fucked her chance of having a relationship with your daughter, because there are no circumstances she should be allowed anywhere near her, the stupid cow.
Sometimes I think I’m living on another planet when I read things on mn and this is one of those things .
I can see the dm headline now.
Mil gives baby water

Sometimes babies are just thirsty rather than hungry.

Let it go @loudnoises1

I think it was too much all in one go, it does sound like the baby was thirsty and needed some water but had the MIL checked with the Op first she would have been told either not to give it or just a small amount. That’s what the OP was annoyed about. I get that.

Times change and your MIL thought she was doing the right thing... I know she disobeyed you but her heart was in the right place.

Just get the DH to explain why she mustn't do things like this and give her another chance, it wasn't done in malice.

As for @TheDandyHighwayman... WTAF? If you're short of people in your life, you might want to look in the mirror.

Nothing wrong with this. This is what I was told to do with both my children using a baby cup. This was in 1989 and 1991 and I was breast feeding.

The thing is though MIL knows that her GD has a "sensitive" stomach, so you would hope that she would have given just a little at a time if she really thought that her GD needed it.

Was it at least cooled, boiled water OP?

What were her other options?

And wrapped in a blanket?

Oh wow, think mil might have had reasonable thoughts about dehydration etc but 6ozs is crazy! A couple of sterilised teaspoonfuls would have done the job, having said that she should have had your permission anyway!

If it was just an oz or a few spoonfuls that's one thing but to give 6 oz at once is stupid

Mine did a lot, if he wasn't thirsty he just wouldn't suck. It was a hot day as you said,I'd be more bothered about all the layers tbh

You don’t have to put have to up with people risking your daughters life, at all

It's gems like this that makes me stay on Mumsnet😁.