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MIL stuffing her face at ours

336 replies

jamiecooks · 14/07/2019 10:15

I probably ABU BUT MIL driving me mad! She never has any food at hers (pleads poverty but that's a whole other story) - came to ours the other day to look after our baby (we pay her for doing this despite SIL having 5 years of free child care) and basically chomped through almost a whole packet of chocolate hobnobs. They were in a tub in the corner of a cupboard so she also obviously went looking for them.

Previously she'd also been in my cupboard and helped herself to the posh chocs my DH had bought me for my birthday! After that, I started having to hide nice food but didn't get chance to this time as her coming to ours was unexpected - logistical reasons which DH organised without telling me.

She's also previously looked at financial documents in our house (I know because something had been left out and moved and she is very nosy by her own admittance) and I had been doing a tax return the other day so had left out my folders with all my statements/payslips etc in at top of stairs to put away - had I known she was coming I'd have put it all away but I didn't know and when I got home it was clear she had been looking at it as docs were popping out of folder which weren't before, specifically my pay slip so she now presumably knows what I earn

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RedRep · 16/07/2019 10:55

The biscuits wouldn’t bother me. The posh chocolates and going through your bank statements would

ralfeesmum · 16/07/2019 11:43

So, you have a very nosey glutton for a MIL - that's a nightmare combination.
I can only suggest putting landmines in the kitchen.

Funguy · 16/07/2019 12:21

I think she maybe gets on your nerves but don't focus on the Hobnobs! It's very common for people to pry, bloody annoying. My ex's Mum used to read her daughter's private letters and then tell her what to do! But it was born of protectiveness.
I think maybe buy her a treat and point it out when she comes. It may be she wants to feel appreciated, even if she is annoying!

Attitude84 · 16/07/2019 14:55

Buy a good sized safe to keep all your goodies and paperwork in!!!!! Keep the pin on your phone in a disguised name!

BertrandRussell · 16/07/2019 15:14

If I found myself putting hobnobs in a safe I would definitely think the problem was mine not the other person’s....

Celestine70 · 16/07/2019 15:31

Buy a lockable filing cabinet. Tbh her eating food shouldn't really be a problem imho, you are getting cheap childcare.

LaurieMarlow · 16/07/2019 15:43

If I found myself putting hobnobs in a safe I would definitely think the problem was mine not the other person’s

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chocorabbit · 16/07/2019 16:38

Posters asking what's wrong with knowing how much the OP earns clearly do not have ILs who use that for their own benefit, like pleading poverty and favouring other "poor" siblings by allowing them to stay in their house free of charge or offer free childcare or even use the money they get from you for their own completely unecessary benefit and purchases or even sibling's benefit MIL might be buying and giving SIL free hobnobs

chocorabbit · 16/07/2019 16:39

Of course begrudging buscuits is ridiculous but the OP knows it.

plasterboots · 16/07/2019 21:12

Of course begrudging buscuits is ridiculous but the OP knows it.

I think she realised that three days ago and decided not to return ever!!

Enclume · 16/07/2019 21:54

begrudging buscuits

Always nice to see New Zealand posters on here.

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