To think that you should never marry a gamer

[Somersetlady]

A glut of threads on here recently reference DH being useless/not contributing/ not looking after kids because they are in the xbox. Often they stay up late on the xbox.

One but of advice for those dating would seem to be to steer clear of gamers as your future OH!

Oh dear, I'm a cyclist and DH's a gamer. Does this mean we have the most loathed hobbies 100% covered between us 😂

Don’t marry a sheep shearer either FYI 👍🏻

@MyWeaponofChoiceisWords I love cycling

My DH is also "hard working incredibly caring and intelligent"
He does most of the cleaning, laundry and cooking too.
But I should dump him because he's a gamer? 🤔

Haha I agree with his. I mean hardcore gamers though, not a guy who just likes an hour or two of a game after work for a bit of me-time.

I used to date a guy who was a 'gamer'. It was okay at first, having PS4 on and him gaming away and chatting. But then it was on every single night. Every time a new game came out, that was it for nearly a month. Gaming every night, on weekends gaming near enough all day, only stopping for food and to sleep. It became so boring and repetitive and he had no money to do anything because for a while he was in between work and new games are over £50 a pop. Even when he found work, after work until bed time was game time.

We broke up. He wasn't a 'bad' guy but living with him was absolutely miserable and there's nothing worse than it being a beautiful day outside and being stuck in staring at a screen while he becomes more and more annoyed at losing against the boss for the 50th time in a row.

@PaddyF0dder

With all due respect OP, fk right off.

Most men (indeed most people) play video games to some degree. If you insist on being so silly minded, maybe just don’t marry anyone and just be alone.
Maybe in your world, it actually not normal for an adult to play video games.
My DH has only played because his son is interested but it’s literally fifa for 30 minutes over the weekend then he takes him to proper sports activities.
If you’re an adult “gamer” you have serious issues!

I don't like cycling but i run and dh does triathlons.

@Yawninfinitum I've just got into longer distance riding (Audax). Love it! 🚴‍♀️💕

I completely agree with you OP. I even cited how much my exH wasted playing games as one of the examples of unreasonable behaviour on our divorce papers.

Personally I just think it's a complete waste of time rather than hobbies that are useful, creative or have an output such as improved health, or making something.

Whilst dating again, I actively discounted anyone who was a gamer as I don't have any respect for someone who classes wasting hours of time mashing a keyboard wearing a headset as a good use of time.

@Fibbke well it’s a weird choice that has served me well as I have lovely friends

And no way 50% of adults are gamers.
Just in your world

Gaming isn't the problem. Addictive and lazy personalities are the problem. If someone is inconsiderate they'll be inconsiderate regardless of whether or not they play games. It's not gamers you want to avoid, it's inconsiderate lazy bastards.

Sometimes I embroider, sometimes I read, sometimes I game, sometimes I bake, sometimes I just want to listen to music and play solitaire.

I'm also an ex-museum curator and so have lots of very traditionally high brow friends and interests. And if I won the lottery tomorrow the first thing I'd do would be to go to Disneyworld

My partner is happy with all my hobbies and interests.

I didnt say 50 percent of adults were gamers. I just said ypu might not actually know if your casual friends also play computer games.

Is playing candy crush on your phone any better or those silly Facebook games that loads of people aeem to play.

How many of the people who say that games are childish etc have played candy crush on their phone? Gaming on some level is very common in modern society. I dont think I know many people who don't game on some level. Even my mum plays fb games and she is in her late 60's.

Snap ginny

@Ghanagirl

If you say so. I don’t see the difference between games and other media and art forms. Do people who watch movies into adulthood also have issues?

My dp is a gamer. Apparently he would spend hours if not days on it during his single years! He is really good about it now though and has a set Wednesday evening for gaming then doesn't bother the rest of the time when I'm home.

Having said that if I pop out even for half an hour and he has nothing better to do you can bet he'll be straight in the man cave gaming. Moderation is key I think.

DH games. He is reasonable about his hobby, just like I am reasonable about mine. We strike a balance between personal and couple time and we both put our hobbies on the back burner when dd was young and again now when she is having some issues and needs extra attention.

My DH is a gamer, and to repeat pp, fuck off! He’s a brilliant father, works hard, doesn’t drink or smoke and doesn’t spend the weekend away on “golf trips”. Right now he is playing Hyrule Warriors on the Switch with our 6yr old, and when the boys are in bed and the jobs are done he will play on his PC with his friends who live on opposite ends of the country.

Maybe in your world, it actually not normal for an adult to play video games.
Over half of adults in USA game, I imagine it's similar here www.pewinternet.org/2008/12/07/adults-and-video-games/

Its an interactive medium sometimes with far more compelling story lines then movies, hardly just for kids, adults are the biggest consumers of video games.

Maybe in your world, it actually not normal for an adult to play video games. If you’re an adult “gamer” you have serious issues!

ODFOD.

Can we please get a list of approved hobbies for adults, OP. I'm sure bitching on MN about how others choose to spend their time will be #1 on it, of course.

Gooigi and what was my comment immediately after?

Can we please get a list of approved hobbies for adults, OP. I'm sure bitching on MN about how others choose to spend their time will be #1 on it, of course

I would actually like to see that list from the lemon lips types who are posting on this thread. There has to be something in mind

My partner is an avid gamer, but he fits it around work and family commitments like an adult. He makes sure I have time to go to the gym and see my friends, I make sure he gets time to game. The key is not to marry an arsehole.

Oh look, another judgemental thread created by an OP unburdened by any experience or understanding of the breadth and depth of the subject matter.

How quintessentially Mumsnet.

@Ghanagirl @Yawninfinitum @Treacletoots

newzoo.com/insights/infographics/the-u-k-gamer-2017/

So half of the UK people in the UK (including many on this thread), have serious issues, are not worthy or respect, are mindless, childish, and are pasty, overgrown children who should be steered clear of. If any one you happened to find out that someone you knew played games, would you call them any of this to their faces? Or do you prefer to hide behind a screen?