To think that you should never marry a gamer

[Somersetlady]

A glut of threads on here recently reference DH being useless/not contributing/ not looking after kids because they are in the xbox. Often they stay up late on the xbox.

One but of advice for those dating would seem to be to steer clear of gamers as your future OH!

Agreed Candy crush, games on facebook, posting those if your name is on the list you are...... social media in general (proven to be bad for self esteem) all a total waste of time and mildly addictive I am sure.

Mumsnet unless looking for some of the advice threads pre and post children also of no consequence and a waste of time.

The distinction for me - and i am happy to be proved wrong - a team or individual sport that involves being active and getting some fresh air i understand the allure of sitting inside looking at a screen i don’t see the draw.

Maybe i should borrow a console whilst i am unable to walk for a few weeks and see if i can understand the attraction!

But there is no saying that people that game dont do other things. Like I said my dh cycles he also games. I run and play some games. Just cause you don't understand it doesn't make it a bad hobby. My mum does cross stitches personally I can't imagine anything more mind numbingly boring but she enjoys it so why should I care?

My Oh was a big world of Warcraft player when we met. He has always worked long hours but would spend a lot of time on it. He had to quit because it was too much.

He does still play other games but less so now.

If they are gaming constantly, not helping with any children, housework etc then that would be annoying. But if they game and also work, he’ll with the kids, around the house when they can. I can’t see the problem! It’s all about balance.

I find it very amusing how enraged and defensive some gamers are getting.

Many people find my chosen sport of horse riding a crazy, dangerous, waste of vast amounts of money. I don’t feel the need to defend it or attack them.
They are probably right but i love it, it gets me out and about is great for fitness and i love being around horses so the danger and expense is worth the trade off for me personally.
I wouldn’t think those who don't like horses/animals/speed /exercise should try it before they say it’s not for them and they can not understand why in their right minds people like to do it!

Yes but none of us came on here and specifically called you out for being a feckless tool simply because you like riding horses, did we?

"I find it very amusing how enraged and defensive some gamers are getting.

Many people find my chosen sport of horse riding a crazy, dangerous, waste of vast amounts of money. I don’t feel the need to defend it or attack them."

Nobody has started a negative thread about how you should never marry someone who rides horses though have they?

A selfish man can turn anything into family-avoidance. Even shitting

Hahaha. ^ this.

But you started a thread specifically to talk about how shit gamers are....did you expect people (majority of people) that play games to just say "oh you are right we are useless adults"

@gooigi

Youre incredibly defensive! And I believe all the things you've said are your words, not mine.

As for whether I'd say to someone's face, if they asked me my opinion directly as the OP has then, yes. If they didn't, of course not. However all the gamers I know are sat at home of an evening clicking buttons, so it's quite unlikely isn't it?

Dh is a big gamer, not gonna stop him as I play my own games and he's been playing world of warcraft for around 10 years way before me, why stop someone doing something they enjoy?

It’s in AIBU and obviously tongue in cheek @TrendyNorthLondonTeen!

What I can’t stand personally about gaming (apart from DH not being able to control himself) is the headset wearing and shouting/screaming at the scream with the manic mouse clicking (he plays WoW).

DH didn’t own a computer or a games console when I met him. I don’t mind him playing football as at least he is getting some exercise and I can have some peace and quiet in the house listen to conversations with his ‘WoW family’

If you’re an adult “gamer” you have serious issues!

My closest friend is a “gamer”. He also works in the industry and takes home a 7 figure salary. He gets paid for doing his hobby. Not so much with the issues

"It’s in AIBU and obviously tongue in cheek @TrendyNorthLondonTeen!"

Obviously. 🙄

no @Ginnymweasley i started a thread pointing out a common theme many women on mumsnet had about taking issue with their other halves who were gamers.

DH does Warhammer and computer stuff. He was more into PC gaming when we met and it was no bother to me if he stayed up late. With kids, he doesn't stay up late cos we're always knackered. Table top gaming is a lovely hobby. He might go out once a week to play or someone might come over to ours. Other weeks he'll have no games but can paint models at home.

I probably spend more time on the Xbox than he does

There's definitely a dark side to online gaming, it can be addictive but that's not the case for everyone.

I’m learning all the time @Littlemissdaredevil

What I can’t stand personally about gaming (apart from DH not being able to control himself) is the headset wearing and shouting/screaming at the scream with the manic mouse clicking (he plays WoW).

I assumed that gaming was silent and the player just stared at the screen clicking a fee buttons!

*Youre incredibly defensive! And I believe all the things you've said are your words, not mine.

As for whether I'd say to someone's face, if they asked me my opinion directly as the OP has then, yes. If they didn't, of course not. However all the gamers I know are sat at home of an evening clicking buttons, so it's quite unlikely isn't it?*

You're the one who said you could never respect a gamer. The rest are from people on this thread.

So are you telling me that if a friend mentioned that they bought a new game yesterday, for example, you'd lose all respect for them and promptly tell them so?
And of course half of the UK population don't spend their all of their evenings 'clicking buttons'. Although isn't that what you're doing by using mumsnet?

Few buttons not fee buttons.

I am blaming the opiate painkillers I am on for not being able to write or spell correctly!

"Mumsnet unless looking for some of the advice threads pre and post children also of no consequence and a waste of time. "
So why do you do it? Should nobody marry you because you go on mumsnet?

"And of course half of the UK population don't spend their all of their evenings 'clicking buttons'. Although isn't that what you're doing by using mumsnet?"

Bingo!

(Nice username for this thread btw @Gooigi ;) )

@Gooigi it’s a new experience for me this wasting hours clicking buttons (albeit on MN) I’d normally be out and about enjoying the evening or exercising but sadly i am bedridden after an operation this week!

@gooigi i don't do it for many hours at a time for days or weeks on end. If I was stuck to the phone none stop as a part of normal life I’d imagine I would be pretty unattractive as i find this trait in others (when in company) both rude and boring.

"@gooigi i don't do it for many hours at a time for days or weeks on end. If I was stuck to the phone none stop as a part of normal life I’d imagine I would be pretty unattractive as i find this trait in others (when in company) both rude and boring."

Because OBVIOUSLY anyone who plays games is like this.

@TrendyNorthLondonTeen

Once again your putting words in my mouth. @Gooigi made the reference to spend all of their evenings clicking buttons

I made no reference to time spent apart from when she questioned me about my own online habbits!