To think that you should never marry a gamer

[Somersetlady]

A glut of threads on here recently reference DH being useless/not contributing/ not looking after kids because they are in the xbox. Often they stay up late on the xbox.

One but of advice for those dating would seem to be to steer clear of gamers as your future OH!

I am so sick of hearing people need to grow up instead of playing games. You know the world is fucking hard sometimes beating the crap out of a monster makes it a little easier. It doesn't hurt anyone not even the person gaming but it's judged as something we need to out grow but watching rubbish TV, Drinking, going out to the pub/clubs is all fine and obviously very grown up.

Yup, i dont mind what others do, but I'd find drinking a bottle of blososm hill and watching love island far less mentally healthy than spending 45 mins on the pc doing one of my endless mindless tasks in game!

Both dh and I are gamers, Yabu, it's not the hobby that's the problem, an asshat would be an asshat regardless of the hobby. If they weren't gaming all day to avoid there responsibilities it would be something else, movies, cycling, football etc

@reapershowler Love Island couldn’t entice me for one episode and @Fibbke i haven’t had a drop of Blossom Hill since i was a student!

@Somersetlady i have definitely read a thread not that long ago about a husband who did lots of reading! Not only did he use it as an excuse to avoid his responsibilties but he also belittled his wife's interests because clearly he was so much more cultured and worldly than she, with her tellybox and phone.

Love Island needs to go in Room 101 with Naked Attraction

Oh god, isnt it bleeding obvious? Anything including mumsnetting that negatively impacts your family and or partner is probably worth knocking on the head . If it doesn't bother anyone then its fine.

@calamityjane missed that one. Have been on MN a lot this week as been on hospital so had more time and it’s the xbox that keeps popping up!

@CalamityJune possible this one? She mentions in a later post that he does next to nothing around the house:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3465987-Would-you-find-this-irritating

...and now I'm really irritated after reading that!

@Benjispruce Sense of humour bypass?
No, just don't take kindly to being blatantly insulted. Like most people I'd imagine.

@Yawninfinitum I'm glad I didn’t marry a gamer as personally I think it’s mindless and childish so I actually couldn’t stand being married to one But that’s just me obviously
Whereas mumsnet is so productive and mature.
I couldn't marry someone as judgemental as you. But that's just me obviously.

So are gaming systems other than Xbox's okay then? Or do they not have your approval either.

@CalamityJune and @MindyStClair that thread is not an issue with him reading but about his superiority complex is it not? She also references him pulling her up on cleaning and hanging clothes the wrong way!

My fiance is a gamer and he would play it for hours if I let him. Not because he's selfish though, it's his way of relaxing and mine is TV so we both do that in the evenings. We have both gladly given up time on our hobbies since having a baby. Weekends are family time. Works for us. It comes down to whether he's selfish or not, everyone is entitled to do what they enjoy for an appropriate amount of time.

Rtft Gooigi!!! Duh!!! Too much gaming?

Ha ha @Gooigi sorry I’m taken
Happily married to a non gamer

But good luck finding someone with no opinions at all.

@Benjispruce I did. You said "Gamers however are pasty, overgrown children and I would never date one." Not some gamers, no matter how much you try to back track or claim you were joking.

@Yawninfinitum There's a difference between having opinions and generalizing about a very large chunk of the population.

Bless you OP, any hobby that spills into family time is shit. Just because you look down on gaming (and you do, no matter how much you backtrack now) doesn't mean all gamers are lazy fuckwits who need to grow up. It's a fabulous way of winding down.

I say winding down, watching husband defeat the Horde of Chemult this afternoon was a smite nerve wracking

DP is a gamer, as a teen he played his pc/xbox every single day, for several hours. I played World of Warcraft every other day for a few hours.

When we moved in together, we didn't play as much and we cancelled our WoW subscriptions. Now that we have children he plays maybe 45 mins on his days off work, but only when the kids are asleep because we are his first priority. I don't play at all because I prefer to read/watch a series.

DB and SIL are mid 20s and are religious gamers. They still manage to work full time and get their apartment cleaned before sitting down to play though. We expect it will change if they have children though, because they're responsible.

The issue with the men on those threads are less to do with them being gamers, and more to do with them being inconsiderate, ignorant arseholes.

@Gooigi

personally I think it’s mindless and childish
is what I said
That’s an opinion

Gamers, fanatical cyclists tend to be selfish man child’s.
My DH is hard working incredibly caring and intelligent his main hobby is gardening, we are really happy😊

And I stand by it- I hate gaming- I think it’s just got so many issues about it and personally I couldn’t be friends with or married to a gamer.
It’s a choice and I’m entitled to hold it.

No way would I respect or be interested in DH if he was a gamer.
Just a choice.

of course its a choice it just seems to be a weird judgmental one with no basis in reality

you couldnt be FRIENDS with a gamer

and you think GAMERS have issues!

An opinion that insults roughly half of the population.

yawn, I hate to say it but you might be friends with a gamer without EVEN KNOWING

90% of my casual friends have no idea I play world of warcraft!