I have been dating recently and found a really nice guy. He's very sweet and we have been taking things quite slow.
I recently split from my ex who was very controlling and left me as a shell of a person - very insecure and very anxious all the time. So I don't know if I'm seeing red flags here when there are none.
I've met up with this guy once - and it was really nice! He often sends me long messages though and I struggle to reply to them all. I've found recently that his messages are becoming more abrupt and tense (if that makes sense). Here's a (very edited!) example;
Guy im dating: so why did you train to become a dancer?
Me: I guess it's because of X, Y and Z, it's something I really enjoy
Him: I disagree with your reasoning there.
it's like everything has to be a debate! He's done this for quite a while so I just tend to ignore his replies that state disagreement - I find it really odd.
This week his messages have been more abrupt. He asked me about an event in the news and I gave my opinion on it - he then called me egotistical and said that he may have to re-arrange meeting up on Friday to next week.
I ignored his comment about being egotistical (even though I was offended) and said "sure, no worries at all".
He replied to me saying "are you sure about that?" and then when I didn't reply to that in the evening he sent a message "I expected a reply to my other messages too".
I panicked a bit and apologized (I know I shouldn't have, working on this in therapy!). He then tried to continue the conversation but I haven't replied yet ... I feel like my heart isn't in it anymore.
I spoke to my friend about this and she said I was overreacting and too sensitive. But something in gut is telling me to run!!
AIBU to think this is red flag behaviour?! And do I need to tell him I don't want to see him again or ignore 