To trust my instinct even though everything seems normal?

[trustmyinstinct]

Been dating this man for a few months now, he's really nice, seems really in to me. Only downside has been he gets very nervous when it comes to sex and a few times he has made a few comments that have made me a bit hmm. He also seen me on my birthday and didn't even bother to get me a card and whenever I cook for him at my house he has never once brought or offered to bring anything. Other than that though, he is consistent, he doesn't leave me wondering, he shows an interest in my life and speaks about the future and I'm very attracted to him.

But there is something inside me niggling at me that I can't quite place my finger on. It's probably been my biggest gut reaction I've ever had to anyone in my life. It is this knot in my stomach when I think about him or about seeing him. Not a nervous knot or butterflies, just this knot and overwhelming dread that something is not right but I have no idea where it's coming from as there's no obvious reason for it. I am meant to be seeing him tonight and again I have this knot of dread, there's something I just don't trust about him and I don't know why and there's never been a reason not to. I honestly can't explain the feeling, even in past relationships where I've been unsure it is nothing like this feeling. It's just pure and utter dread but when I am actually with him I enjoy myself and have a good time.

So AIBU to just trust my gut and get rid of this guy even though there is no apparent reason for my feeling?

Gut feeling only? come off it, OP. It’s like you’re trying to be coy.
What about those big red physical flags slapping you on the face? He’s shit so get rid.

Would I be within my right to just block him? No explanation?

YES!!!!

Doesn’t take me out and no card for bday would do it for me.

Dump

You have low standards op! I'd have dropped him by now for never offering to take me out or cook for me! Why are you doing all the work? Have you asked him why you can't go over to his for once? What does he say when you suggest going out for a meal or a drink? Are you sure there isn't another woman lurking? Hope it works out for you whatever you decide!

Did you meet him OP?

The behaviour around having male friends and suggesting you'd cheat suggests either controlling tendencies (run) or that he's projecting ie you are his OW, which would also explain why he seems nervous, you don't go out where you could be seen, don't go to his place, he doesn't spend money that could be questioned by his DW/P etc. Again, run. He's keeping you interested enough to pursue this relationship but at arms length enough for it to be on his terms. Something is wrong, you can sense it and the evidence agrees. Run.

Get rid. Life's too short for stingy boyfriends and shit sex. Next.

He NEVER takes me out,he always just comes over. This sentence leapt out at me. I've had (very) brief relationships with a couple of guys who were like this. Never wanted to go anywhere or do anything or spend any money. I got totally fed up with it in the end.
If it were the only issue,it may not be much of a problem to you. But the fact that you said also said sex is not very good,it's like he's scared to touch you,him not buying you a birthday card,and the snipey remarks about your male friends all ring alarm bells with me.

But most of all,I think that the fact that you have a 'feeling in your gut' about it all is most telling. Trust it OP. It's rarely wrong.

OP now you need to change the locks on your door as he sounds a right weirdo and you dont know if he has a copy of your key. Maybe not a good idea to have a person in your home until you know and trust them

Who needs gut feelings when he's openly disrespectful? He's jealous stingy and controlling and doesn't make you feel special in your birthday... Honestly all you need to know - is right there in front of you!

You obv have friends so you don't need him, it's too many red flags.

Can't believe he didn't get you a card for your birthday - he could have got you a cheap one if he's skint.

I do wish people would stop going on about gut feelings and birthday cards.
He said “no girlfriend of mine would have guy friends as they're all just looking to shag her”

That is real, proper danger right there. I hope the OP has dumped him.

This is why I don't bother with online dating.....op I think your standards got so eroded that this guy seems decent when they are really awful.
The fact that your gut is screaming get away...and you are ignoring it, despite him not having any redeeming qualities....apart from maybe having a pulse? Is madness.

Trust your instinct,it is there for a reason!
It's telling you a lot.this man is controlling,right with money,is not sociable and will lead you down a very dark park.
Run for the hills.

Run.