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What makes a person 'common'?

926 replies

Karlwho · 10/07/2019 20:37

In your opinion. Just interested.

OP posts:
RosaWaiting · 10/07/2019 22:18

WTF even is “common”?!

Have a word with your snobby arse, you talk out of it so maybe it has ears too.

MrsSarahSiddons · 10/07/2019 22:20

Holding your knife like a pen.
Holding your fork in any way other than prongs facing downwards with your first finger along the handle and the handle concealed in your palm.
(The above are UK cutlery rules. US is different).

Tattoos.

Using the words "common" or "chav" in this context. You can think them. You can't say them.

Anychance123 · 10/07/2019 22:20

Screaming at your children in public.
Drinking in Wetherspoons at 10am.
Having a sofa in your front garden (not awaiting collection).

Someone upthread said ‘lack of education,’ I don’t think that’s true at all. Plenty of people who have massive drive and common sense don’t have formal qualifications.

summerofladybird · 10/07/2019 22:21

Does that make Michael Gove a common little oik then?

Michael Gove is every derogatory term going, no justification is needed.

Loving the comment about the antichrist dipping bread in mint sauce.

Fresta · 10/07/2019 22:22

Calling someone common doesn't make you the common one- judgemental, maybe, but not common.

Common isn't having a northern accent (southerners can be equally as common), it isn't having no money, living on a council estate, swearing, being poor or being rude.

Common is when a person looks cheap and tasteless- they might wear something considered tacky like a velour tracksuit, a mini skirt with fishnets, and lots of leopard print, football tops for every occasion, too much makeup, fake tans, footballer type haircuts with patterns shaved in, shirts off at the first sign of the sun in a beer garden. When they lack good table manners, use poor grammar with lots of slang, smoke and drink combined with the above, etc. etc.

It's not one thing in isolation, but a combination of several things.

Isthebigwomanhere · 10/07/2019 22:22

Sitting in the front garden gossiping , smoking and drinking according to my mother

TroubleWithNargles · 10/07/2019 22:22

Swigging lager from a can whilst sitting outside a cafe at half-ten on a weekday morning. And that's just the women...

MrsSarahSiddons · 10/07/2019 22:23

Have a word with your snobby arse, you talk out of it so maybe it has ears too.

Phrases such as the above.

Burpsandrustles · 10/07/2019 22:26

In my mind someone who lacks manners, isn't aware of the impacts of thier behaviour and perhaps doesn't care, eg the person who happily has long bonfires on hot days in built up areas, the person who always blocks drives parking, perhaps the smoker who could slightly move away but doesn't.. The person who continually blares loud music out all the time in summer.most teens excluded of course Grin

People who don't consider other people's feelings and always plunge in with their own views without opening things up for others to get a word in. Assuming without asking... The know it all type....

People who seem to lack sympathy, empathy or understanding of those with disabilities or other issues...

TanselleTooTall · 10/07/2019 22:27

My two pence worth:
Screeching at full volume in public.
Littering.
Really low morals with no care how it impacts on others around them. (Like leaving broken alcohol glass bottles IN THE GRASS IN THE PARK!!)
Dog fouling.
Spitting.
Crude jokes and lewd behaviour within earshot and sight of minors.

I wouldn't count sports clothing as chavvy/common. I KNOW what people are getting at but, seeing as sports clothing ranges from Superdry to Nike to The White Company to more expensive fairtrade brands aimed at posh yoga types who've money to burn (sorry! Sorry! I hope you know what I mean!), my point being that sports clothing is nowadays stylish and coordinating when chosen right. Joggers are amazing outside of workwear.

BeardedMum · 10/07/2019 22:27

Agree with the poster who mentioned eating a turnip in the cinema!

longwayoff · 10/07/2019 22:27

Referring to someone else as "common". Beyond the pale. Don't do it.

shinynewapple · 10/07/2019 22:28

@AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet net curtains aren't common. The wanna-be-middle classes have net curtains at their windows so they can hide behind them and judge other people for being common!

StroppyWoman · 10/07/2019 22:31

Common/vulgar/trashy/chavvy/whatever - doesn't the UK have a lot of ways to judge people!

Things I think are naff:
Lousy grammar, heavy makeup, "special" spelling of names, pouting selfies, fake flowers strapped to places people died, heavily sentimental responses, tattoos of children's names (how drunk are you expecting to be that you need a reminder?) and large greeting cards.

ZiggyB · 10/07/2019 22:33

Muck. Common as.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 10/07/2019 22:34

I have just come back from NY and all the ladies that lunch wear sports wear all the time. It's a statement, as in, they are literally ladies of leisure. They would be horrified to know they are thought of as common!

I haven't taken offence but the use of the word common wasn't the best choice, particularly as we are still in a classist society. Some of these things make someone inconsiderate but not necessarily uncouth / common.

Tigger001 · 10/07/2019 22:34

Language, manners, attitude and the way they carry themselves.

It's not about money.

bluebeck · 10/07/2019 22:35

Saying "pardon" instead of "what"

Eating/drinking/smoking in the street

Poor grammar

Tattoos

Karlwho · 10/07/2019 22:36

I didn't know what other word to use to get my meaning across (didn't work anyway). I'm still learning!

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GimmieTheCoffeeAndNooneDies · 10/07/2019 22:42

Out of condition men fighting outside Weatherspoons especially if in the afternoon and a woman is shouting 'leave it Gary, he ain't worth it''

llangennith · 10/07/2019 22:44

Bad manners
Antisocial behaviour
Sloppy speech (and I don't mean dialects)

ThighsRelief · 10/07/2019 22:45

It's all about the accent.

Drawl, don't brawl.

I wear scrunchies! What's wrong with scrunchies, they're sensible.

I go out in my PJs in my own back garden (and sometimes late at night to the shop for fags) Grin

PooWillyBumBum · 10/07/2019 22:45

My boss is upper class and I love her - she’s given me quite a comprehensive list over the last couple of years:

Having your ears pierced more than once
Pronouncing don’t without the t sound
Only speaking one language
Naming your child Lee, Gary, Stacey, Tracey or - more recently - Hartley or Bentley or similar
Naming your child Arlo
Actually just naming your child anything that isn’t Genevieve, Venetia or similar
Not being able to ride
Drinking all types of tea with milk
Buying anything on credit
Buying a new build
Having a feature wall (got to agree I think they’re horrendous)
Strappy tops
Leggings, in any context
Anyone who goes on holiday to a static caravan (we are actually regular Eurocamp goers so probably common)
Actually probably anyone who hasn’t been to private school

Things I find icky:
Having a large TV in a small room unless you’re visually impaired
Having a tv that obscures a window
Having TVs all around the house
Smoking
Lots of tattoos - bonus points if you have your kids names and/or DOBs tattooed on you. Triple points if in Roman numerals.
Men who are topless anywhere but a holiday resort or pool
Going to pubs that show Sky Sports and have an England flag on them and where most people drink Fosters
Drinking bright pink “row-saaaaay”

LadyRannaldini · 10/07/2019 22:45

999Jeremy Kyle or Judge Rinder viewers,

Phew, no Judge Judy!

longwayoff · 10/07/2019 22:46

Oh, everything gets someone's goat (common usage) EXCEPT the cinema turnip. I am a woman of immense taste and refinement and I shall be purchasing (don't say this. Buying. Bought) a turnip to take with me to our local arthouse cinema. Organic though, none of your Aldi moneysavers. Yum.