To think uninvited guests are annoying?

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Curious to know if people are okay with uninvited guests?
Are you more accepting if it's a blood related family member? What if its inlaws?
What if they just turn up with no warning beforehand? How much warning is needed? Is it still annoying if they announce they will be visiting you on a certain day without checking if its okay first? Does it depend on how long they stay? Does it depend on what time of day it is? Where is the line for you from acceptable to annoying or cheeky?

Absolutely detest uninvited visitors. I don't answer the door, I let them knock and wait for them to go away.

If people want to drop round then they need to contact me and ask.

Don't care if people think i'm rude.

It's rude no matter who they are.
I always expect a day's notice at least.
I'd never dream of turning up on someone's doorstep unannounced.
If they did it to me, I'd pretend I was out as it would really annoy me.
It's invading personal space.

Luckily I don't have uninvited guests but if they texted to tell me they were coming ie not asking, and I didn't want them to I would say sorry we cant' do that time. And either leave it or suggest a better day/time.

If someone just turns up on the doorstep, oh god how awful if you aren't in the mood! If I knew people who might do this I would have it in my head to be ready to say "oh sorry we are going out in a minute" and not let them over the threshold.

What has happened to you?

I'm basically fine with it....I'd always answer the door and if it was really inconvenient I'd say and arrange another day. Unless they'd turned up from miles away.

I'd always text and call someone before just turning up though.

It's nice that people have made the effort.

Obviously it depends on who they are and how often they do it (and how long they want to stay!) But in general, visitors should be made welcome. You'll soon moan if no one ever wants to see you.

I only know one person who does this. She has no boundaries and is generally a bit if a dick anyway.

My grandparents invited them selves around to my house when I wasn't even in!! DH and I were at the gym for an hour and my parents were baby sitting. They were all sat in our living room when we got back fucking detest it and I respectfully told them so. They haven't done it again.

It depends. Sometimes I hate it, sometimes I really don’t mind.
I grew up in a house with people constantly stopping by and it was lovely. Lots of impromptu family dinners and it’s the same whenever I visit my parents now. Constant stream of family visitors and it’s great.
At my own house, it really does depend on my mood, the time, who it is, what’s going on at home at the time. If it’s almost bed time for the kids it’s not so good. Lazy Saturday afternoon at home where we are all pottering and it’s fine.

We don't do univited guests, we are very busy with work and travel and animals and get very little time to ourselves so we like to manage that time carefully.

If we aren't expecting someone we have the advantage of having electric gates so just don't open them - you can't see if our cars are there so it just looks like we are out and means no-one can get to the front or back door but we have a camera so can spy!

In fairness all of our family live hours away apart from FIL, he does have form for popping round but that's ok as it is just for 2 mins max - he doesn't require catering or entertaining so we will let him in.

I never turn up uninvited to someones house, friend or family!

People I know know not to show up uninvited. I need a text at least 10 minutes before they show up. Then I'm OK. But I do prefer knowing further in advance. I'm introverted. I need to prepare mentally for company.

My parents always had an open door policy so people always stopped by whenever they were near, either for supper or just a cuppa. I'm a little like that now and am happy to have people drop by.

DH is quite different and likes to know who's coming and when, and ideally how long the visit will last. It must be partly a family thing because he and MIL both plan with military precision while I'm more "we'll just roll with it".

The DCs often have friends over who haven't planned stuff; they just turn up. As DS1 is getting older I love that they are comfortable coming here and spending their time here as well as being out; I love having a house full of teenagers to feed, there's something very mother earth about it.

Equally, I would need show up anywhere uninvited.

I can’t say it ever happens, everyone I know would always check if it was convenient before just ‘dropping round’, years ago an old friend did turn up totally unexpectedly on my doorstep, it was a real shame as I was just off to visit my grandmother so I genuinely couldn’t spend more than 20 minutes with her.

Equally I would never turn up uninvited.

Fudge each to their own, can’t think of anything worse than a houseful of teenagers or being ‘Mother Earth’ .

I hate it!

Most of my family live over a hundred miles away. Yesterday my cousin who was working nearby totally surprised me by turning up on my door. I'd just got in from work and had 3?kids to feed but I was absolutely overjoyed to see him and was so pleased he came. He stopped for an hour had a cuppa and a quick catch up and went back to work. It really made my day to see him.

I hate the "pop in"
Have been known to hide.

I find it a bit irritating when people turn up uninvited (it's normally just my BIL and SIL - the rest of my family live too far away) but I always welcome them and offer them a drink.

I don't think anybody's ever just told me they're coming to see me on a particular day. Surely you'd just tell them if it's inconvenient?

My DM hated uninvited guests & it made it difficult for me as a child. So I've gone the other way & have an open door style policy 🤷🏻‍♀️

I detest it.
My Nan randomly turned up the other day, walked through the front door, sat down and told my husband “I’ll have a cup of coffee”
I said no you won’t, we’re off out and sent her on her merry way. I told her if she called she could have come earlier and we’d have had time for a coffee but now she’s missing out because she’s too pig headed to make plans in advance and thinks she can call in to anyone when she likes, because that’s how they did it in her day and were very weird for not liking uninvited guests 🙄

It depends why. If they were passing at the weekend and decided to pop in for a quick chat/cuppa, that’s fine.

Anyone who turns up during the week when I’ve just got in from work, and have supper to cook and homework to supervise, I’m not keen.
And ex who thought he could pop in whenever he liked and expect a glass of wine got the thin end of bugger all. He always was a bit free-loaderish.

It depends on whether I like them and on how busy I am.

Chamomileteaplease recently had my Sil announce that she will be spending the night at ours because she is working in the area on that day. I was shocked by how cheeky that is and when we told her no it's not convenient she said we should pay for her to stay in a hotel. She also expected to spend the night at our house the night before our dcs christening and was annoyed when we said no.

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. It was completely normal when I was growing up. The kettle’s always on in this house.

I hate hate hate uninvited visitors. I had a baby 6 months ago and I live in a small villiage right opposite the junior school. 3 weeks after having DD2 A few friends with older children knocked at my door at 9am after dropping their kids off..you can imagine what I looked like. Thankfully the complete look of shock on my face was enough to deter them from doing it again but...WHO DOES THAT?