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to think that asking if you can go head with just a few items in the checkout queue is fine?

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CassianAndor · 09/07/2019 16:44

Following on from another thread, I'm really surprised to find that people think that asking someone with a full trolley if you can nip ahead of them with your 3 items is 'incredibly rude'.

I've had people ask me this and I've let them go ahead no bother.

Sometimes I can see they've only got a few things so I ask them if they want to go ahead as I'll be ages and I'm not in a hurry.

And sometimes I've been the one asking if I could just pay for my pint of milk ahead of their 275 items - and it's never been a problem.

So (and I hope I phrase this right for the voting buttons!) AIBU to think it's fine to ask if you can queue jump someone with a full trolley when you just have a couple of things?

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ChicCroissant · 10/07/2019 16:29

Our nearest Lidl has self-scan tills which I always use because I only get a few items. The nearest Aldi only has the staffed tills and I have never bought anything from there

I always use the scan as you go handsets.

verticality · 10/07/2019 16:32

I think it's OK to ask if there is another circumstance, beyond just having fewer items that you're prepared to explain - "I'm really sorry, I desperately need the loo!" will get a sympathetic grin from me every time.

I will always offer others a place ahead of me if they have significantly fewer items than me, but I wouldn't expect others to do the same as a matter of course. I'd definitely wait to be asked!

MyCatHatesEverybody · 10/07/2019 16:42

I let a lady go ahead of me with her one item once, which she accepted. It turned out she was bringing the item back and wanted a refund which took ages to sort, I was bloody livid. Nowadays I look at what the person has - something simple and I'll offer; if they have clothes, electricals or similar they can wait their turn.

Karlwho · 10/07/2019 16:44

I usually offer to let people ahead. I'm slow at packing

NaturalBornWoman · 10/07/2019 16:46

I don't think you should ask, it's very cheeky. Why is your time more precious than mine? Honestly if I'm on my way home from work and queuing in a supermarket it wouldn't occur to me to look how many items you had. Having said that I'm only likely to have a smallish shop myself and I wouldn't expect anyone to give way to me either. I do get pissed off when there's a massive queue and the person in front strikes up an actual conversation with the check out operator, that happens quite a bit in M&S. If there's a queue you should be efficient, no faffing about and gassing.

Scattyhattie · 10/07/2019 16:55

I think its kind when people offer, there's not a quick alternative option at aldi/lidl so can take ages.

I don't think its offensive to ask either as if I was busy unloading trolley full, i'd probably be off in own thoughts & not notice to offer Blush even though wouldn't mind.

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