AIBU to want to live as far away as possible from other people’s badly brought up children?

[francescadrake]

Today I took my child (nearly 3) to a small, free soft play area on our local shopping centre. There were a few toddlers running round. Fine. My DD wanted to go on the slide, so she got on and waited her turn. All the while, there are two little boys going up and down the slide, climbing up the inside as soon as they finished their turns, shouting in the face of the other children. My DD went down the slide, couldn’t get out at the bottom because they were blocking her and climbing up, and promptly burst into tears. She’s a shy child.

WIBU to tell the boys very firmly to go back down the slide, not climb up, then go and speak to both their mums, who were sat there on phones ignoring their sons’ behaviour?

They did apologise, but why don’t their children know how to use a slide? Why aren’t they stopping them frightening other children and climbing all over everyone rather than using basic turn-taking manners?

Last point: it’s nearly always boys.

AIBU to want to move to the Outer Hebrides so my DD doesn’t have to put up with this?

*bolding

And yes, almost invariably this involves a period when the self involved teenager is an utter dick. I'd almost be concerned if it didn't. . .

This morning whilst at the zoo you were mumsnetting on average every 6 mins, that's not "normal levels" you must've been on your phone constantly, reading replies, copying, b
Pasting, bolting etc! Totally and absolutely too much whilst on an outing at the zoo, no matter how independent your child is! Would you do this if you were out with a friend, or would that be unacceptable? So why treat your DD like that?

It’s not a social occasion. My child needs care, regular attention (which she gets) and to learn about the world around her. She does not need my constant attention and this would in fact be bad for her.

Here's the thing, as they get older, they must of necessity, be empowered to develop their own identity, which comes out of parents stepping back, and them stepping up.

I am well aware of this. My daughter is developing her own identity now. But when she is 15, I will still be responsible for her behaviour.

It’s not a social occasion. My child needs care, regular attention (which she gets) and to learn about the world around her. She does not need my constant attention and this would in fact be bad for her.

Agreed but by definition of your level of posting she got NO attention. That's wrong on every level!

This morning whilst at the zoo you were mumsnetting on average every 6 mins,

But this is a cracker. You went through my posts and timed them.

😂

At 15, she should be responsible for her own behaviour. After all, you're not going to be with her when she goes to school, are you? Are you going to allow her to go out with her friends without you? What about school camps?

The whole point is that by 15 you need to have really done most of the moulding and developing of their characters and behaviours that you want or feel you need to do, because by that time, believe me, they are getting increasingly resistant to you trying to imprint your values, beliefs, and ideals upon them.

Agreed but by definition of your level of posting she got NO attention. That's wrong on every level!

Well, no, according to you, she got 5 out of every 6 minutes of my attention. And at times that was 15 minutes, and at times it was 2, because that’s how averages work.

She certainly seemed delighted with the whole thing.

At 15, she should be responsible for her own behaviour. After all, you're not going to be with her when she goes to school, are you? Are you going to allow her to go out with her friends without you? What about school camps?

Day to day she will be responsible for her own behaviour. But ultimately, I will be responsible for her until she’s an adult.

*But this is a cracker. You went through my posts and timed them.
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😂

I counted them, counted the amount of hours and divided, gave me an average! Didn't take long (your posts are a different colour) a lot less time than you spent on Mn.

I was that shocked at the level of posts I felt completed to

#savethemumsnetorphan

#savethemumsnetorphan

Count me in

I counted them, counted the amount of hours and divided, gave me an average! Didn't take long (your posts are a different colour) a lot less time than you spent on Mn.

I’m not sure whether I should say a prayer for you or contact the police.

*compelled too

#savethemumsnetorphan

Send the money in bitcoin.

'Responsible for her behaviour', is very different from whether you can or cannot allow them to be a dick.

Heh heh. You'll find out. No, I'm sure, you'll be absolutely fine. Heh heh.

I’m not sure whether I should say a prayer for you or contact the police.*

I think maybe self refer to social services?

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Let’s make it a grand, folks, all about a wee girl and a slide.

#thirteenmoreposts

I think maybe self refer to social services?

They’ll be thrilled, I’m sure, to meet my kind, beautifully behaved, clean, intelligent 2 year old. They’ll know exactly why I need help, I’m sure.

By the way @francescadrake it's a public forum, why would the police be interested? It's there for everyone to see!

Lots and lots of posters have notified, it's not a secret, it's really obvious.

By the way @francescadrake it's a public forum, why would the police be interested? It's there for everyone to see!

I don’t actually think they would be interested. I think they would tell me there are cranks all over.

They’ll be thrilled, I’m sure, to meet my kind, beautifully behaved, clean, intelligent 2 year old. They’ll know exactly why I need help, I’m sure. 

You forgot the word ignored!

@francescadrake spend less time on mumsnet!!!

@francescadrake spend less time on mumsnet!

You forgot the word ignored!

Nope. She gets plenty of attention, thanks.