AIBU to want to live as far away as possible from other people’s badly brought up children?

[francescadrake]

Today I took my child (nearly 3) to a small, free soft play area on our local shopping centre. There were a few toddlers running round. Fine. My DD wanted to go on the slide, so she got on and waited her turn. All the while, there are two little boys going up and down the slide, climbing up the inside as soon as they finished their turns, shouting in the face of the other children. My DD went down the slide, couldn’t get out at the bottom because they were blocking her and climbing up, and promptly burst into tears. She’s a shy child.

WIBU to tell the boys very firmly to go back down the slide, not climb up, then go and speak to both their mums, who were sat there on phones ignoring their sons’ behaviour?

They did apologise, but why don’t their children know how to use a slide? Why aren’t they stopping them frightening other children and climbing all over everyone rather than using basic turn-taking manners?

Last point: it’s nearly always boys.

AIBU to want to move to the Outer Hebrides so my DD doesn’t have to put up with this?

Not got a lot on today, have you? What does that have to do with you?

No I'm not busy today, it's not like I e taken my daughter to the zoo.

But I was referring your ‘perfect little angel’ who never puts a foot wrong.
Not all children are like that and even when they’re not it doesn’t mean they’re ‘naughty’.

Which I know. The problem - as I have said time after time - is when the behaviour isn’t dealt with.

You aren't doing parenting op, you restrain her in the buggy and look at your phone. That's desperately sad.

And desperately bollocks.

Sounds about right to me

Mumsnet orphan

Sounds about right to me *

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You don't have any behaviour to deal with, she's sat in her buggy that you push one handed while posting on here.

You told us that was what you are doing!

You don't have any behaviour to deal with, she's sat in her buggy that you push one handed while posting on here.

I didn’t. But yes, sometimes I do. And sometimes I don’t. We have just played a game together and now she is playing independently.

But again, this thread isn’t about my parenting. I know my parenting is fine. Thanks for your concern, though.

Op - I have a girl too, she’s not very shy but she’s gentle. In my experience boys are a lot more boisterous and my little girl was pushed several times in the playground, no girl had done that to her. But I have seen girls behaving badly too, so I think bad behaviour is not specific to boys but I agree that perhaps boys get away with this kind of behaviour a lot more than girls.

And I see parents sitting 20m away from their children on their phones or socialising with other parents completely oblivious to what the children are doing. I see this all the time!

You played a game for what, ten minutes? Give over.

But again, this thread isn’t about my parenting. I know my parenting is fine. Thanks for your concern, though.

It really isn't, just because your child plays nicely at the moment does not mean your parenting is fine. You have displayed an horrendous of amount of disengagement from your child for three days now..... that by no ones standards is fine.

Op - I have a girl too, she’s not very shy but she’s gentle. In my experience boys are a lot more boisterous and my little girl was pushed several times in the playground, no girl had done that to her. But I have seen girls behaving badly too

I also have a DD. The only time she has been kicked or hit, it has been by boys. There is also lots of kids in out street, majority girls. There hasn't been one physical fight between the girls, the boys on the other hand are constantly hitting, kicking and pushing each other.

It really isn't, just because your child plays nicely at the moment does not mean your parenting is fine. You have displayed an horrendous of amount of disengagement from your child for three days now..... that by no ones standards is fine.

Horrendous 😂 You have no idea whatsoever what we have been doing. You’re a nasty piece of work though, I’ll give you that. You sort of lash out like a cornered animal.

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I believe that, unfortunately.

Horrendous 😂 You have no idea whatsoever what we have been doing. You’re a nasty piece of work though, I’ll give you that. You sort of lash out like a cornered animal.

I do know you've been on MN constantly for three days, whilst one of them you're apparently at the zoo and posting every five minutes.

I think you're the one lashing out actually.

I'm saying don't judge others parenting, no one, especially you is perfect....

It doesn’t matter what you’ve been doing, you havent been giving your daughter any quality attention at all for three days.

That’s not brilliant parenting in anyone’s book (well except yours natch )

It doesn’t matter what you’ve been doing, you havent been giving your daughter any quality attention at all for three days.

Nonsense.

*It doesn’t matter what you’ve been doing, you havent been giving your daughter any quality attention at all for three days.

That’s not brilliant parenting in anyone’s book (well except yours natch* )

^^this!

I do know you've been on MN constantly for three days, whilst one of them you're apparently at the zoo and posting every five minutes.

By no means have I been on MN “constantly”. You also have no idea where my child has been or what support I have in looking after her.

Right now, she plays alone or she doesn’t eat later, because I am cooking.

Again, this thread is not about my parenting, and the fact that there is this little group of very unpleasant people trying to make it so, just underlines to everyone else that you know what I am talking about when it comes to poor behaviour as described in the OP.

By no means have I been on MN “constantly”. You also have no idea where my child has been or what support I have in looking after her.

You have been on mumsnet constantly!

You've stated you were at the zoo today, so I do know where you've been at least today!

I assumed you looked after her yourself as you seem to be taking all the credit for her impeccable behaviour.

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I have not been on MN constantly at all. You obviously don’t know what constantly means.

Yes, today we went to the zoo. That’s today. Why you think that qualifies you to comment on yesterday or the day before, or how much time she spent with her dad (who is off and had her for some time as well) I don’t know. I suspect it’s because you’re a bit nasty.

They're preschoolers they don't know all the social rules yet and I'm sure they do know how to use a slide but climbing them is often just as much fun as sliding down them.

Children don't need to behave simply because they are little?

Their mums not constantly supervising? Meh. They weren't hitting anyone or acting dangerously so I can't get worked up about it.

Or they could be teaching their little shits the social rules they should be learning.

I'm amazed people are pretending here that by and large boys aren't encouraged by society to be loud, bold and boisterous and girls encouraged not to be. It's happened since time began, why pretend it isn't a thing?

Yabbers

It’s just defensiveness.

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