AIBU to want to live as far away as possible from other people’s badly brought up children?

[francescadrake]

Today I took my child (nearly 3) to a small, free soft play area on our local shopping centre. There were a few toddlers running round. Fine. My DD wanted to go on the slide, so she got on and waited her turn. All the while, there are two little boys going up and down the slide, climbing up the inside as soon as they finished their turns, shouting in the face of the other children. My DD went down the slide, couldn’t get out at the bottom because they were blocking her and climbing up, and promptly burst into tears. She’s a shy child.

WIBU to tell the boys very firmly to go back down the slide, not climb up, then go and speak to both their mums, who were sat there on phones ignoring their sons’ behaviour?

They did apologise, but why don’t their children know how to use a slide? Why aren’t they stopping them frightening other children and climbing all over everyone rather than using basic turn-taking manners?

Last point: it’s nearly always boys.

AIBU to want to move to the Outer Hebrides so my DD doesn’t have to put up with this?

@francescadrake me and my friends all parent our children, the children harbour various levels of bratty-ness , as they should as they’re children and I don’t expect my children to behave like adults.

Why are people letting their DC climb up sliders? They are to slide down? Climbing up them can cause injuries, I have witnessed first hand a bad head injury from a pre schooler hitting slide head first climbing.

Most soft plays have a sign up saying not to do it, so stop allowing your DC to do this.

It’s funny how many people have said about poorly behaved children who have active parents too.

Get her out of the bloody buggy- if she's not asleep she shouldn't be in it.

I think we've found out why this child never misbehaves and you can ignore her to post. Also why she has no confidence when confronted with a pack of raucous toddlers.

You really have no reason to preach about parenting, none whatsoever.

And you called ME ignorant

@fancescadrake If you're genuine fair enough.
You're not listening to anyone's POV or experience with boys.
I believe you're very smug, I say this as an ex smug mother, until DS, unless you're not planning anymore, you are going to really struggle if you give birth to a difficult child. Don't think for a moment it is your excellent parenting skill alone that makes your DD placid.

I'm sure some people would judge you OP for being on your phone rather than playing with your kid at the zoo.

Rather than all judge each other, why not try to ease up and realise that everyone is parenting differently but most people are really trying their best.

Your parenting is not for everyone, mine either...why don't we just chill with the judgement because we're all probably knackered parenting toddlers anyway.

@EmeraldShamrock 🙌🏻

Get her out of the bloody buggy- if she's not asleep she shouldn't be in it.

😂

She’s had plenty of time in and out of the buggy. Genuinely desperate stuff.

Don't think for a moment it is your excellent parenting skill alone that makes your DD placid.

I don’t.

You clearly do, you’ve said it a few times.

the children harbour various levels of bratty-ness , as they should as they’re children and I don’t expect my children to behave like adults.

Children aren’t meant to be brats. If you think that, no wonder we have problems round and about.

You constantly berate and blame other children’s behaviour on parents too. Stop contradicting yourself and ‘own’ your own opinions.

Christ...

You clearly do, you’ve said it a few times.

And we are back to comprehension 101.

@francescadrake why have you say you're at the New York City zoo? I am assuming you mean Central Park zoo?

*when you say

You think children should be well behaved and manners at all times?

How are they meant to learn if life is that strict?

It is normal for children to sulk, get upset, irritated, tantrumy- they are children and don’t understand the world or the emotions they are feeling.

You are insane.

why have you say you're at the New York City zoo? I am assuming you mean Central Park zoo?

I didn’t.

Fucking hell, is it the heat? Why can’t people read?

@francescadrake so you did drive?

How are they meant to learn if life is that strict?

It’s not rocket science. You tell them. If they don’t stop screaming or going up when they should be coming down, or standing on other kids, you warn them. If they do it again, they go home.

“Insanity” is letting them do all those things, in the strange hope they will learn you actually want the opposite.

@francescadrake of course, I don’t know anyone who would tolerate that behaviour. But I was referring your ‘perfect little angel’ who never puts a foot wrong.
Not all children are like that and even when they’re not it doesn’t mean they’re ‘naughty’.

Getting in before the 1000 cut off.

YANBU. There's a mountain of evidence that the different sexes are socialised differently from birth. You weren't reinventing the wheel in your observations. It IS desperate stuff..

francescadrake so you did drive?

Not got a lot on today, have you? What does that have to do with you?

Not got a lot on today, have you? What does that have to do with you?

You aren't doing parenting op, you restrain her in the buggy and look at your phone. That's desperately sad.