to not want my lodger's family to stay?

[Anotherbloodyname123]

Lodger announced his family (wife and two kids) are coming to visit in a few months a while ago and I'm not quite sure why I didn't think to ask immediately where they were staying. I did today as it came up and he says they're going to stay here, for two whole weeks!

(For context, he is lodging with me for a work contract, and his family live abroad)

This is a normal two bed flat and he said his family are fine to share the (double) bed and sleep on the floor.

I'm really not happy about this. He kept saying it'll be fine and the kids will be well behaved (I'm sure they will as he's very quiet and usually considerate and polite!)

He's not even really booking time off to spend with them. He said the kids and wife will stay in the flat all day Monday to Thursday as they'll be too scared to go out, and he'll go out with them on the two weekends they're here.

I said I wasn't keen but he just kept batting it back.

AIBU to not want them to stay? I'm a single woman and I DON'T want kids staying especially ones I don't know. I have a nice place and it's not child friendly. I don't have a garden.

Relevant bit of our contract is this: 'not to permit anyone else to stay in the Room, although the Licensee may allow visitors to stay overnight in the Room on an
occasional basis;'

But I also don't want to be an arsehole. He must miss them a lot!

Help.

I don' t think he has had notice. The notice period is one month, and that is what she is telling potential lodgers re a moving in date.

I'm a bit confused too. OP said he's on a month's notice but I can't find where she originally said it.
Can you clear it up for us please OP? I'm too invested in this thread!

I thought she meant that it's on his contract that she needs to give a month's notice, not that she had already given him notice.

@Anotherbloodyname123 can you clarify please? Have you given him notice now? Or did you mean that his contract states he'll be given 1 month's notice?

Well, if it's a mistake a lot of us have made it ... I, too, thought OP meant the lodger was entitled to a month's notice, rather than that he'd actually been given it

Yes, but someone else read it the other way!

Haven't given notice yet. Just a bit worried about doing so then not getting the room let.

I have a lodger; she's very long-term, but when/if she does want to move out I'll wait for her to leave and only then advertise and show the flat and the room. I think you should probably do the same –it'd give you a bit of useful time to clean and possibly refurnish/redecorate the room. IME people are generally keen to move in soon after seeing rooms, so you wouldn't necessarily be without a lodger and the income for long.

You can't have your cake and eat it, I'm afraid.
You need to give him notice and then tell potential new lodgers that the room is available from x date.
I would be really pissed off if I was your lodger and you started showing potential new lodgers around without even telling me.

Thanks for clarifying.

But yes, you can't show potential lodgers around, until you've given him notice. I also agree that really, you should wait until he's left, to give you time to do any updating of the room, so you can show it off in the best light. People might be put off, if he's left his room in a mess, even though it would make no difference to them. Some people can be funny like that.

Oh I see
No you can't show people round before giving him notice!

That's ridiculous and beggars belief.

I suspect that you are now in a lose-lose situation. You feel you can't afford to have the room empty so that is stopping you seeing what could happen. Up to now you have nothing concrete from him. He bats back all your objections. The fact is if he is still lodging with you, his family will be staying with you. Already they are staying at night, there is no way they will leave at 8a.m. and return at 6p.m. and be out all weekend. If they are from a warmer climate they will turn on the heating higher and longer than you would. You won't be at home to police it! I can't imagine you'll be able to work from home for those 18 days either. Five people in a two bedroom apartment! That is never ever going to end well. Give him notice now and by the time his family are due to arrive he's already gone from your life. This has the potential for disaster written all over it.

@Anotherbloodyname123 how are things? Still looking forward to the entire family arriving?

I don't really understand this. You've a good respectful lodger. And you're about to turf him for the unknown? Someone who could be hell?

And for what? The cardinal sin of him wanting his family to stay as he couldn't afford anywhere else and works from home on a Friday? Both of which he tried to find a compromise for?

You're off your head,

Old thread that OP hasn't come back to for almost a month. Pointless giving advice, or having a pop.

If your lodger not wfh on Fridays (or at all) is so important to you make sure in your ad you mention that because more and more people wfh, and def many don't take off sick and wfh instead. You are likely to see even fewer people interested in your room. In my current and the previous company Friday was one of those days when very few people are in the office.