I'm cross that the clean bed luxury has been ruined

[StealthPolarBear]

I've changed our bed today and it was overdue. I put the sheet and pillow back on but the duvet cover is a bit damp so has stayed on the airer.
I just went in to find DD lying on our bed, on the sheet in her outdoor clothes.

Wowzers, I am actually speechless that someone is affected by something this trivial to the extent that they have to vent on Mumsnet. Personally, I'm just grateful that me and my family have beds and get to live in sanitary conditions. Talk about 1st World problems.

I can't tell whether you are sending up previous posters?! I can no longer tell which posts are tongue in cheek!!

Poor old OP was just having a tiny vent.

Sozzler , I don't think the Op was suggesting it was a life and death thing. And anyway, the cheap luxury of freshly laundered bedding is pretty much a universal feeling. Having lived and worked in unsanitary developing world places, I'm pretty sure most people there felt it too.

I have just read this post & have never before realised that some people don’t lie about on their beds with ‘outdoor clothes’ on. Additionally we have three cats & they all laze about on the bed with their outdoor clothes on as well. Not often all at once as they don’t all like each other. In case anyone is too worried, we are all well as are our DC, all grown up apparently unscathed.

I get you OP. My DH sometimes reads DS his bedtime story in our bed. Really riles me when it happens on bed changing day, I love climbing into a freshly made bed with clean sheets and covers but the fact DS has already snuggled down on my side of the bed and left it crumpled takes it away somehow. Yes, it is a first world issue that I'm lucky to have but still gets me every time 😂

I haven’t RTHT but I think this is cultural. I get where you’re coming from OP. In fact my teenage daughter did this to me recently. She came in from her commute on the tube and got into my freshly made bed, under the covers. She had to completely make my bed again.

And for those posters who question outdoor/indoor clothes, yes we do have house clothes which you may call lounge wear.

I still don't get why people have special house clothes or why it is bad to get into a bed with your outdoor (normal) clothes on. What do you people think is going to happen?!

@epanoui for some people, like me, bed is just a place that is supposed to remain the cleanest place in the house. I'm from a Caribbean background and the practice of not getting into bed with outdoor clothes is well engrained. It's not seen as disgusting, just unclean behaviour. We wear older clothes, PJ's, or plain clothes inside.

Even now, my husband is from West Africa and after sex, you do what you can to avoid a wet patch in the bed without being militant or obsessive about cleaning everything up. It went without saying that that's what we'd both do after sex, so for me it's cultural as well as a cleanliness thing.

My son isn't expected to be clean, he's only little. But as he gets older, he will be expected to keep a clean bed but I'll leave him to decide whether he wants to go in his own bed with outdoor clothes or not.

I really really wish I'd never used the phrase outdoor clothes. I had no idea it would confuse the masses.
It was my lazy shorthand way of noting she had been outside (to the park) in these clothes. It was wrong and I am sorry. I will never use the phrase again

Fear not @StealthPolarBear , I knew exactly what you meant.
I have MS and occasionally that means I have to stop what I am doing, give in to MS fatigue, and lie down in bed. I often am so fatigued that I don't have the energy to, say, change into a big old comfy T-shirt before I get into bed and "recharge my batteries". I'm also conscious of not giving into fatigue and writing off the whole day by getting into stuff I would wear to go to bed at night. And so, i might get under the duvet in my everyday clothes (minus shoes) and crash out. And I really hate it when I wake up again and have my .... well ... "outdoor clothes " on. But I was too fatigued to do anything more than literally crash out.
Doesn't happen too often thankfully.

OP I think it was quite clear what you meant by outdoor clothes.

I also don’t get the point of the “what do you think is going to happen...?” comments.

I’m particularly fastidious about bedding, towels and tea towels.

Lots of people just have lower standards thank you clearly! 🙂

I really really wish I'd never used the phrase outdoor clothes. I had no idea it would confuse the masses.
It was my lazy shorthand way of noting she had been outside (to the park) in these clothes. It was wrong and I am sorry. I will never use the phrase again

It was perfectly clear what meant, Stealth. It’s not rocket science. Outdoor clothes are ones which you have been wearing outdoors! These are bound to be covered in germs even if you haven’t been rolling in the mud. If you sit on a park bench or even a seat on public transport, the odds are some delightful person has had their feet on the seat, having walked in goodness knows what. As for any animals on or in beds, it’s just revolting. Have you seen what animals walk through and roll in? Do you really want that in your bed, clean sheets or otherwise?!

Only read the 1st page..... are you being serious? You won't let your DD sit on her bed unless she is in her pjs....what happens if she has friends round and they are playing in there...
DD: sorry friend, but you can not sit on my bed as you only have outdoor clothes..
Friend:???....

I'd understand if they were wet or really dirty but come on, you telling me after sorting out washing you've not sat or laid down on your bed to check phone or to read a magazine when you've finally got 5 mins to yourself... I think you are bu,

In the bed
In the bed
In the bed

Still don't see the problem with her being IN your bed, my DDs always in my room watching tv or playing computer and I'm constantly finding them under my covers.... never thought it was anything I should get annoyed about...

in the bed

No, on the bed. Your op says "I put the sheet and pillow back on but the duvet cover is a bit damp so has stayed on the airer."

So there was no top layer that your daughter lifted and placed herself underneath of, just a bare sheet and pillows on a mattress.

But to me that is in the bed. She's on the sheet, jot sitting on top. You're splitting hairs now.
Also I have corrected this multiple times now.

When I trained as a nurse (back when Flo Nightingale were a lass) we were not allowed to wear our uniforms to or from work, unless we were on the district - it was considered to be an infection risk. Our uniforms were washed in the hospital laundry, and we changed at the hospital.

They definitely believed in indoor and outdoor clothes back then!

Despite that I still predict three more "wtf are outdoor clothes we just have clothes? And how dare you beat and disown your daughter for this you evil heartless bitch" posts before midnight.

Does anyone wear outdoor shoes indoors?
I often have to tell people to take their shoes off. The other day a mum came to pick up her DS from the playdate and just walked in to the play room (bedroom) without taking her shoes off. So disrespectful. Why do people think it's ok? And some people even wear their outdoor shoes in the bedroom. Yuks. They then walk barefoot to the bathroom and back to clean bedsheets.

"When I trained as a nurse (back when Flo Nightingale were a lass) we were not allowed to wear our uniforms to or from work, unless we were on the district "

Same rule for nurses in Wales, which is regularly flouted because the nurses don't have lockers at the hospital.
But a hospital is not a house...

"Does anyone wear outdoor shoes indoors? "

Yes, that was the norm growing up. In the 80s and 90s only posh people or Scandinavians made you take your shoes off.
Do you take your shoes off at work or school?
Also, this subject's been done to death on MN.

Do you take your shoes off at work or school?

You can't compare home and work/school.

This is very, very fussy to my mind but then again I’m probably a fussy cow about things you wouldn’t even notice. Each to their own foible.

Stealth, your post was clear as daylight. It is obvious (to me, and I'm quite dense sometimes) what you meant.

Only the cat gets to get near the sheets - clean or otherwise - with her outdoor clothes on. She does provide lots of help (not) with changing them so feels she has worked for the pleasure. I would be quite put off if DGS's got on the actual sheets with their 'outdoor clothes' too. I am not quite as fussy as DH, who insists that school-age DGS showers and changes when he comes in, so that he can then laze about wherever without leaving gifts of school/play dirt all over.

Clean sheets are the best feeling, only made better by totally clean body and hair. Aaaaah. I know I'm going to that tonight, and can't wait to finish work!

Not batshit. No.

I didn’t say a hospital was a house, @Gwenhwyfar - merely that this policy seemed to back up the concept of outdoor clothing.