To think £ 100 p.w board is a little too much to charge ds?

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Ds returning from uni . We live rurally but he has managed to find f.t job for the summer , then plans to travel .
He eats a lot , showers a lot ... etc . We are on minimum wage and have to be careful
.
Dh thinks ds will get £ 320 pw , and feels we should charge him
£ 100 p.w . His thoughts are that rent alone would cost him that . This would be for food , electric and council tax and include food .
Am struggling with this idea but I do want him to learn responsibility and pay his way and whilst we can’t afford to keep him without a contribution , I feel £ 50
More reasonable ?
Dh says that ds will have £ 200
Plus pw to save for travel
If we charge the £ 100 pw and he will have much more disposable income even if he pays that ... Aibu ..

Dont charge him anything but he must buy and cook his own food. He can also do his own washing and ironing and also help with domestic chores. That's what we do with our DS.

behappy123 Water bill and electric will go up , and he can eat £ 50
Of food. However , I am
Going to ask dh to agree to 50
P.w .

Good luck finding a house share for £100 per week to include all food & bills. hed be eligible for housing assistance no?

No he wouldn’t be eligible for “housing assistance”.

BanditoShipman Electric and water will most certainly go up .

WE charged DS £35 P/W.That seemed about right ,he was just setting out as it were .(Didnt charge any thing at all during Uni trips home /summer breaks etc)

I just looked on gumtree - I live in an expensive coastal town in Dorset, you can get single rooms with all bills included in a flatshare for £80+ a week, double rooms for £100+ a week

Of course food would be on top, but you also wouldn’t be living at home.

Given that this is only for a few months, I would only be asking him to cover the extra that he costs you (so the difference in food, utilities, toiletries etc) and let him save up to go travelling.

I understand you can’t afford to cover his extra costs, but there’s no way i would be expecting him to contribute towards bills that won’t go up.

I think £75 PE is fair. Yes, you’ll have the word about snacking and showers/lights etc but he’s only just out of uni/has no real clue about how it affects mum and dad footing the bills. I also think £100 is not unfair, the adjustment is to help it sit better with you.

Being housed, fed and internet/water etc etc is bloody cheap compared to what it would actually cost. Those saying save it for him obviously don’t notice the increased cost to having extra people living with them.
How nice to be well-off enough to not need keep from your offspring.

*No he wouldn’t be eligible for “housing assistance”.8 idk it was a genuine question would he be entitled to any form of government benefit for housing?

Surely you just divide your bills by three and charge him one third? (Excluding your rent/ mortgage and council tax which you would have to pay regardless).

Theyroamoverhere Yes he is

That’s why I said 50
Would be good - increased bills ( water n electric ) and food . No ‘ profit ‘ am
Not into that !

£100 pw is very steep!

Is he your husband's son?

SinkGirl That’s why I decided on 50 myself ..

To people who mentioned charge in summer hols
We didn’t charge him
Over uni holidays of course not .. however . .. we did struggle . The charge is to cover costs and he does have a job .

How long is he spending in the shower!!

My daughter has just moved out after spending a year at home after university so I will be interested to see the difference in my utility bills. She paid me £50 a week and was able to save money to enable her to move to her own place.

Definitely have a chat about water usage and don't buy in special food - he eats what you and your husband do or buys his own special stuff. On that basis I think £70 would be fair.

He's going travelling, not saving for a deposit or anything like that. He has the time to go travelling so he can pay his way at home too. You need the money, OP; make sure that you and your husband come to agreement on the amount, don't let one be the 'bad guy'.

HollowTalk Yes

I just wondered because he sounds a bit jealous of your son. Would you say that's right?

No as a single person under the age of 25 earning that amount per week he wouldn’t be entitled to anything lake mountain.

food and electric are the only bills that are going to increase . base how much you charge him on that.
Your mortgauge,counciltax,insurances and water if not on a meter won't increase with him being there.
Depends if you want to make some cash out of him think £100 too much especially as he wants to go travelling .
Look at it as a gift to enable him to save for travelling letting him live in the family home rent free .
take just enough so you are not subsidising him.

If you do charge him £100, you can work outhow much extra he's actually costing and scenthe rest, which yo can give back to him when he leaves on his travels. It's what my mum did, when I was living at home but working so paying.

It was lovely, she handed it over when I left home and it paid for all my kitchen equipment and a couple of months' worth of frugal food.

HollowTalk
Sounds it a bit .
Dh had to ‘ stand on own
Two feet ‘ at 16 - left home .. think feels ds needs enter adult hood and world work at times .. feel his situation may make him
Fee at times Ds has it easy ( not all the time tho just at times !) . Other times happy to help .
Ds was going to be renting in uni town at @100 p.s. for room and then have to pay council
Tax on top , food etc , so I wonder if dh thought 100 a decent deal as much cheaper ..?
Wereas it was far too much in my view .

Apologies terrible typing !

rwalker I agree .