To think £ 100 p.w board is a little too much to charge ds?

[ginorwine]

Ds returning from uni . We live rurally but he has managed to find f.t job for the summer , then plans to travel .
He eats a lot , showers a lot ... etc . We are on minimum wage and have to be careful
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Dh thinks ds will get £ 320 pw , and feels we should charge him
£ 100 p.w . His thoughts are that rent alone would cost him that . This would be for food , electric and council tax and include food .
Am struggling with this idea but I do want him to learn responsibility and pay his way and whilst we can’t afford to keep him without a contribution , I feel £ 50
More reasonable ?
Dh says that ds will have £ 200
Plus pw to save for travel
If we charge the £ 100 pw and he will have much more disposable income even if he pays that ... Aibu ..

In my gap year before uni, my mum charged me 1/3 of my income. She did have council tax go up as she lost her single person discount when I was working and she lost some benefits. I bought all my toiletries and luxury items, mum bought the regular food items we'd usually have. I would use our basic shower gel but if I wanted fancy stuff, then I had to buy it.

It was actually good for me and I have been very good at budgeting. I've had friends who have also found it beneficial when going for private rentals as they have got proof of paying a regular 'rent' while being at home. I think it's also helpful to really encourage saving and a benefit of living at home for a much cheaper rate, because it's a good habit to get into when you have quite a bit of disposable income.

Why not say 75. If you think 50 he thinks 100 meet in the middle. If ds eats you out of house and home tell him it's going up to 100. If you find your bills don't go up as much as expected lower it to the 50. Say your trialing it for a month to see how the bills are affected.

I always wondered how the Men posted about on here came into being.

The one's who live with their Mum, then find themselves a Woman already set up in a house (usually a LP) and start to sleep/eat there a few times a week, yet think as long as they buy one takeaway/bottle of wine a week, that covers it.

It also explains why so many 40+ year old Men still live 'at home'.

There's also been some shocking examples of babysitting etc entitlement.

When do Women get to have their life back and get to keep what money they can earn to themselves?

Giving Birth doesn't mean you've got to be completely self sacrificung for the rest of your life.

OP I don’t think you’d have been mean whatever you’d asked for - he had other options. But I think the arrangement you’ve come to sounds good for both of you.