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do you say thank you, or gesture your appreciation, if a vehicle stops to allow you to cross the

211 replies

EleanorReally · 25/06/2019 18:24

crossing?
some eejit yelled at me, after he let me cross,
Could have said thank you.
i'm shy
I dont necessary thank drivers,
its in the highway code surely?

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TapasForTwo · 25/06/2019 18:25

Of course I do. Why wouldn't you?
I have been brought up to have good manners. Being shy is no excuse for being rude Hmm

skippy67 · 25/06/2019 18:25

I do. Basic manners I think.

Chancewouldbeafinethlng · 25/06/2019 18:26

Yes I do. It doesn’t take much to raise your hand as a thank you or flick your hazards on. It’s polite.

Auramigraine · 25/06/2019 18:27

I always say thanks, I find it rude not to when they have stopped to let me cross.

EleanorReally · 25/06/2019 18:27

i am a pedestrian, i have no hazards to put on,

would you yell after those who didnt?

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tomtom1999xx · 25/06/2019 18:27

I do a quick hand raise yes.
But the driver was completely out or order to yell at you like that.

WhiteLightTrainWreck · 25/06/2019 18:27

I always thank them, usually twice, once as they stop and again as I cross in front of them. It's general good manners...
I'm also one of those drivers that thank people for letting me pass even when it's my right of way/pitch black and they can't see me.

ALongHardWinter · 25/06/2019 18:27

Of course. It wouldn't occur to me not to! I just raise a hand in acknowledgement. Never had anyone rant at me yet.

spannerintheneck · 25/06/2019 18:28

Just put my hand up to say thanks, same as most people, it's quite rude that someone did something for you and you didn't say thanks to be honest

starzig · 25/06/2019 18:28

I don't. I find it funny that people do. It's like thanking people for stopping at a red light.

Fuzzysocksies · 25/06/2019 18:28

I always do, just a quick hand up as I cross to signal thanks, the same way I would when driving if someone stopped to let me pass.
If it’s a crossing where they've stopped for a red light, then no, because they have to. But pelican crossings etc I would.

EleanorReally · 25/06/2019 18:28

well no one will rant at you if you raise your hand in acknowledgement.

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Chancewouldbeafinethlng · 25/06/2019 18:28

So raise your hand or do a quick nod of acknowledgement.

ImFreeToDoWhatIWant · 25/06/2019 18:28

If I'm not absorbed in something else I might raise my hand but otherwise, no. If I've right of way oon a crossing then I'm not bloody groveling obsequious thanks to a driver...

RestingBitchFaced · 25/06/2019 18:29

Yes I would smile or wave, of course it's rude to just ignore them!

EleanorReally · 25/06/2019 18:29

as a driver i dont expect any thanks tbh

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Junowhat · 25/06/2019 18:30

I live in a town that swells x 20 during holiday months. I think it might be cultural so your driver is b u. Most people, even in a very distraced way, nod or raise a hand in a thank you salute but some groups of people don't even loom my direction even when I see them coming and stop before their foot is on the crossing.

So yanbu as it is not law but it is nice manners to salute or nod. Having said that, I'm not sure if do this in a city.

aPengTing · 25/06/2019 18:30

I raise my hand and give a little nod. Would be incredibly rude to not thank them.

Friolero · 25/06/2019 18:30

I give a wave of thanks at zebra crossings or when someone's stopped to let me cross when there's no crossing.

TonTonMacoute · 25/06/2019 18:31

Yes, they have had to stop to let you cross. I also acknowledge pedestrians who stop for me on country lanes too. It's common courtesy.

I wouldn't rant at someone who didn't bother though.

Junowhat · 25/06/2019 18:31

Look! Not loom 😂

sussexmum · 25/06/2019 18:31

you're totally right it's your right of way crossing on a side road drivers turn in to, but no one seems to know that where I live. so yes I generally drop to my knees and weep with gratitude if anyone stops for me my 3 kids and dog.

EleanorReally · 25/06/2019 18:33

it is probably the heat, making us all fractious

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notacooldad · 25/06/2019 18:33

Too shy to raise your hand and say thank you?
How do you mansge when people hold doors open for you, pick something up you've dropped, do something kind for you? Ignore them and make out your shy?
No , that's just rude.
Ok the driver is obliged to stop at a crossing but small gestures make the day a little more pleasant.

WitsEnding · 25/06/2019 18:34

If it's a crossing, no - and they don't thank me if I stand back to let them go first either.
If it's not a crossing I decline the opportunity to cross until they have gone and the road is clear. They are usually stopped for no good reason blocking my view of the other lane/s.