do you say thank you, or gesture your appreciation, if a vehicle stops to allow you to cross the

[EleanorReally]

crossing?
some eejit yelled at me, after he let me cross,
Could have said thank you.
i'm shy
I dont necessary thank drivers,
its in the highway code surely?

I live in a place where it's considered very rude not to wave at every single car you drive past, so yes, I'd wave! Luckily there is very little traffic here apart from bastard idiots in bastard massive bastard campervans (obviously a different thread!).
Btw, it's lovely and sunny here in the NW of Scotland, it's rare for us to have good weather and other areas have rain.

At a zebra crossing yes, I always wave and mouth thanks. At a pelican crossing no, as the vehicle has to stop at red anyway.
As a driver, when I stop at a zebra crossing for a pedestrian and they acknowledge it, I always smile and nod back, God knows why.

They are obliged to stop for you. You are not obliged to wave to them.

It's so rude not to say thanks but I'm one of them people who says thank you about 80 times when buying something
Me just this please thank you

Cashier: that's £20 please
Me: here you go hands over note ,thank you ,waits for change thank you
Cashier: that's okay have a nice day
Me: you too thank you
Aaah I'm so bad for it

I'd thank them (why wouldn't you?) unless it's a zebra crossing and they speed up in the hope of getting there before I get physically on it so they don't have to stop. That guarantees I stick my foot out onto it quickly and then I walk smugly across, completely ignoring them (I'm petty like that)

Do a quick acknowledgment but as it's on the school run I'm usually in a rush

I don't thank people for stopping at a crossing as they're not doing it for me, they're doing it because it's the law. I don't expect (nor have I ever been!) thanked for this (must live in a very rude area judging by all the posts by sticklers for courtesy on here!)

And if it's not a crossing and I'm waiting for a chance to cross and some car stops and waves me across magnanimously then I HATE IT. I'd much rather wait until I think it's safe and then go in my own good time, but now I have the pressure of this hero waiting for me to cross whether the other lane is clear, I'm ready to go over, or if I was even planning to go over rather than just standing near the kerb having a stare at a shop across the road! Ffs get on with your own life and let me get on with mine!!! 😬

no, and I'm surprised at everyone saying they do, because very very rarely has anybody thanked/acknowledged me for doing so when I'm the driver.

However I always acknowledge when people do something they're not obligated to do - let me pull in off a slip road/cross when not at a crossing/pull in to let me pass when parked cars are blocking the road, etc., and in non driving contexts, holding doors open, always saying please and thanks when asking for/receiving something in shops and so on, so I think I'm generally a polite person! I just see someone stopping at a crossing akin to them stopping at a red light or turning their lights on when it gets dark - something the driver legally has to do (in this country) so it would be bizarre to thank them.

Teacake please can you stop doing a fast little walk to let motorists know you don't want to hold them up.
You have every right to cross the road at your normal walking pace.

Yes, I always thank the driver/s every time. It doesn't make crossing the road take any longer, & why on earth wouldn't you? Manners cost nothing.

Those of you who wave at a zebra crossing; do you wave at drivers on either side of the crossing?
So start to cross, wave, smile, mouth "thank you" at driver on your right, then half way across repeat your show of good manners to the driver on your left?

A slight gesture. That's all that's needed..

It is more rude to berate a pedestrian though

Smile, raise my hand and mouth thank you. Even if they had to stop its just nice to be nice.

i know AJP

I do @abgonk.
I realise I must look like a mobile windmill on speed.

I don't. They aren't doing me a favour, they have to stop. I always do if someone waves me across in front of them at a junction or something, where they're letting me cross but don't have to.

Definitely yes.

Bit rude not to.

YABU @EleanorReally

Yes I do it’s called being polite, especially at zebra crossings where you rely on cars stopping, less so if it’s a crossing with lights dictating. Shyness is not a reason for being rude

See I’m totally baffled here by the comments about not saying thank you when crossing at a Zebra crossing because drivers are apparently obliged to stop... they’re only obliged if you’re already physically on the crossing. If you’re stood at the side of the road they are not obliged at all, and therefore I think it’s only right to say thank you. But then again I say thank you when someone stops to let me cross, or when people let me out at a junction, let me into a lane in busy traffic etc, it’s just good manners!

@AbGonk

Those of you who wave at a zebra crossing; do you wave at drivers on either side of the crossing?

So start to cross, wave, smile, mouth "thank you" at driver on your right, then half way across repeat your show of good manners to the driver on your left?

Yes. That is EXACTLY what I do.

Every.

Time.

I always do. I do it before I cross, sort of an indication that I'm going to cross, more than anything. Then I thank them as pass.

I raise my hand or smile at them if I am happy losing hands with the dc.

Holding!*

I sometimes call ‘you’re welcome’ out of the window if a pedestrian has been rude.

I have been surveying how people cross zebra crossings. Generally women will scurry across and wave thank you. Generally men will saunter across, taking their sweet time. Many fewer men than women say thank you.

Anyone else noticed the same?