do you say thank you, or gesture your appreciation, if a vehicle stops to allow you to cross the

[EleanorReally]

crossing?
some eejit yelled at me, after he let me cross,
Could have said thank you.
i'm shy
I dont necessary thank drivers,
its in the highway code surely?

As a pedestrian i always say thanks. As a cyclist, when I stop to let people cross i smile at them and very much appreciate it when they respond in kind but of course many don't.

I'm terrible for crossing roads, I will just walk out if there is no crossing nearby, if there is then I will wait and if they let me go then it's a nod of the head and a wave

So you're ok to say thanks when you're jay walking?

She isn't 'jaywalking' she's talking about crossing the road somewhere other than designated crossings. Which is perfectly normal in the U.K. and legal except in specific places.

jaywalk
verbNORTH AMERICAN
gerund or present participle: jay-walking
1 cross or walk in the street or road unlawfully or without regard for approaching traffic.

So you're ok to say thanks when you're jay walking?
If this happens in the UK there is no ' jaywalking ' laws. It's down to personal responsibility.

As a cyclist, when I stop to let people cross i smile at them and very much appreciate it when they respond in kind but of course many don't.

Cyclists are much more deserving of thanks than motorists as it takes them some effort to stop and start. As a pedestrian I'd be inclined to wait for a cyclist to pass if they were going uphill.

Responding courteously to other road users either as pedestrian, cyclist, horse rider or motorist, helps lower road rage and makes society a better place to live in.

I raise my hand if a driver stops for me, it just basic manners. Just as I'd raise my hand in thanks if driving and someone lets me pass.

@abgonk

No I don’t see the hypocrisy. People with no manners don’t deserve to be treated with them. I treat everyone with respect - until someone is rude and then my kind nature goes out the window because it’s so bloody infuriating . It literally takes no effort at all to acknowledge someone. Not doing so is rude, ignorant and downright lazy.

I don’t think it’s rude
I’m just concentrating on not getting run over

If the car has stopped surely that doesn’t take much concentration?

You must be easily distracted if a quick wave would make it hard to cross the road safely

@insancerre are you serious? You can't raise a
hand or it'll distract you?

I keep watching the road so yes, I am distracted
I don’t trust all car drivers to stop, so that’s my main concern

If your so easily distracted you can’t wave your hand or even smile at a driver then I’m not sure crossing a road alone is safe anyway!

I do, but don’t care if someone else doesn’t. He was indeed an eejit to yell at you.

I always do, it's basic good manners and courtesy. It's not hard is it? It annoys me when people don't and I always say "you're welcome" out loud (in the car, to myself).

If it’s at a pedestrian crossing then no, Sometimes I do at a zebra especially if if the car, as I’m Nearing the crossing doesn’t stop but the car after them does, if I’m not at any kind of crossing and chancing it then 100% yes I will say thank you as the driver doesn’t need to stop to let you pass!

Do you all wave an acknowledgment of thanks at all the cars who stop at ref lights and don’t crash in to your car?
If not, why do you expect pedestrians to do it to you at zebra crossings? It’s exactly the same
Except pedestrians are not as important as all you car drivers, obviously

I do, but if someone didn’t I wouldn’t think they were rude.

Usually a quick hand raise. Same if im on my bike and a driver lets me go first. Depends on the situation, if I'm carrying shopping and I'm also dealing with the dog, or there's little time if I'm on the bike, I might not. But I generally do.

insancerre has a point.
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with a wave of thanks, but getting offended when a pedestrian doesn't is a bit ott. If you stop at a crossing, it isn't because you're doing the pedestrian a favour, it's because you have to.

No way would I thank someone for simply managing to obey the law and stop for me to cross a zebra crossing. I find it ridiculous that people do this, when I stop for them. It’s the law, not a act of courtesy. If it was so I could cross without a marked crossing, and it was safe for them to let me go (no bikes / scooters coming alongside them), I would wave. I don’t wave when it’s a “yield way to oncoming vehicles” and it’s my right of way, nor do I expect it the other way around. Talk about low expectations!

I’d think it rude if there was no acknowledgment or thanks.

Talk about low expectations!
I dont think it's about low expectations but social graces.
No harm in little ackkowedments throughout the day to people.

People with no manners don’t deserve to be treated with them. I treat everyone with respect - until someone is rude and then my kind nature goes out the window because it’s so bloody infuriating

You sound a bit deranged @WillowPeach.

Not doing so is rude, ignorant and downright lazy.

I think people with good manners can imagine what it's like to be somebody else and appreciate that a stranger's behaviour is usually a reflection of what they are experiencing at that particular moment, which could be extreme grief, anxiety or stress.

If you look for rudeness in other's you will usually find it.