To think DH is being a bit miserable on holiday?

[TheGoogleMum]

On holiday in Devon with parents, DH and baby (7 months). Its our first holiday with the baby (and parents kindly paid for the accommodation), but DH is being a bit miserable saying he doesn't really fancy doing anything and he has suggested the rest of us go out while he stays home tomorrow (he brought his ps4!). I know it's his holiday too but aibu for thinking he is being a bit miserable? Tbh I was really looking forward to spending time together as a family. Might not bother with UK breaks with him in future :s it isn't something we've done often as a couple to be fair so i guess it isnt his thing. He gets on fine with my parents so that isn't the problem. Going on walks isn't really something we get excited about so he's feeling like there isnt much he wants to do, but he doesn't really try and think of anything

So would most people, iolaus. It's hard work going away with people, on the odd occasion that I've done it I always needed a good rest when I got home.

I think the op's husband is feeling stressed, not being selfish.

As long as he is prepared to give the op uninterrupted time to herself at some stage, his request seems reasonable to me.

For me that shows intent to game, which is not the same as reading, where you can still engage with people.

I didn't know there was such a thing as multiplayer reading.

You can’t engage with someone who’s reading any more than you can with someone who’s gaming. My mum was an avid reader when I was a child and I hated it because she wasn’t “there” in the room with me and didn’t answer straight away if I spoke to her. Same as someone on a game really.

@BjornAgain81 if you came to play tabletop RPG with us you'd see multiplayer reading

Couldn't be with someone so childish that they still go on holiday with their parents and can't go a week without mummy and daddy. Utterly pathetic

Holidays are supposed to be about spending time together as a family, not acting like a child being taken out for walks or out to the beach by your parents.

Am I doing this right?

Am I doing this right?

Yup. That's how I'd feel about it too. Let the poor guy have a break from the cosy fucking togetherness FGS.

Surprised this thread is still going! This may turn some yanbu into yabu, but he wasn't sure on bringing the ps4 but I said bring it as I hoped we could use it to watch Netflix or Amazon prime as forecast was rain and we figured we'd be in for evenings a lot. Sadly the internet isn't good enough for streaming though :( I actually don't mind playing a bit myself. He has been playing a bit in evenings or when baby sleeps if we haven't gone out.
He's been a bit better last few days. Parents and I have suggested we do things separately and he has continuously said he doesn't mind (I asked when they weren't around too so no pressure!). He's basically said there's nothing around here he wants to do so will go with the flow, but he's cheered up a bit instead of seeming a bit sulky about it so I'm happy enough with that. He did not offer to give me a day off (or to stay home with baby) if he had one. We should get an evening out while my parents babysit we're both looking forward to that. I was just grumpy when I posted and couldn't sleep!

This may turn some yanbu into yabu, but he wasn't sure on bringing the ps4 but I said bring it as I hoped we could use it to watch Netflix or Amazon prime as forecast was rain and we figured we'd be in for evenings a lot

Oh I’m really looking forward to the “ugh I couldn’t be with a manchild crew” returning...

OP it sounds as though everything has brightened up. Hope you both enjoy your evening out!

Nice update op.

To be fair to your dh I’m often really bad tempered for the first day or two on holiday - it def takes time for me to get into “holiday mode”.

Hope the rest of your hol goes well.

I sympathise with your husband. Normally I'd say bringing a PS4 on holiday is ridiculous, but if you're not into walking/UK breaks where all there really is to do it walk to various places which might not be so easy or fun with a 7month old, then maybe he's sort of written off the holiday and just wants to chill with his PS4 for the week? Also maybe because your parents are there he doesn't really consider it you spending time together as a family and thinks you can spend time with them?

'He's basically said there's nothing around here he wants to do'

'He did not offer to give me a day off (or to stay home with baby) if he had one.'

Sounds like he's still behaving badly, TBH.