To give ds the benefit of the doubt and believe him

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Ds’s girlfriend is 11 weeks pregnant, they are both 17 and although when they found out about the pregnancy there were lots of tears and reality checks they have decided to go through with the pregnancy.

2 weeks ago it came to light that ds ex-girlfriend is pregnant and she is claiming that ds is the father, ds is still friends with his ex and he has now admitted staying over at her parents house with her a few times but he is denying sleeping with her.

His girlfriend has ended the relationship with him because of this and refuses to answer any of his calls so he decided to give her some space in the hope that she would calm down and speak to him.

He went out with his friends on Saturday night and his girlfriend phoned me in tears because someone sent her a snapchat of ds kissing his friends cousin and she said she’s also heard that he slept with the cousin, I was furious and when ds got home I questioned him about it and he denied it all and told me that I either believe him or stay out of his personal life.

She sounds batshit. I'd go with your son

I don't think she sounds "batshit." She's a pregnant 17-year-old who just found out her boyfriend is potentially fathering a child with another girl and having sex with a third girl. I wouldn't take that well and I'm 42.

Eek! It all sounds pretty messy, with at least one, possibly two babies on the way.. My ds is the same age, and I’m really not sure what I’d do in your shoes.. I guess you need to balance supporting him, and loving him unconditionally, with not necessarily approving of his behaviour.

@steff13 I agree.....17 and potentially about to father two children....now rumours of a third girl?

Tattoo are you for real?

OP...don't believe anyone. Support the Mother of your son's child and get on with that. All that matters now is the child. Encourage DS to arrange paternity tests for both children. And tell him to keep it in his pants FFS/

Poor girl, she's not the one who sounds batshit, she should dump his arse, she'd be well rid

So pregnant girlfriend just imagined this all?
Right.

So your DS could potentially be a father-to-be to two children to two different women at the age of 17?

Agree with PP

The girlfriend sounds like she needs support. Your son sounds like he needs to be made aware of his responsibilities ASAP

You know your son best but it seems more plausible that a young lad would sleep with these girls and then deny it to his parents than a young girl would make things up.

Is the other girl continuing her pregnancy? Would he be willing to do a paternity test? Could you sit down with him and her parents?

So is he the father to the ex’s child also?

Honestly I would be doing some soul searching with your DS,m. It really doesn’t matter if he is telling the truth about sleeping with a friends cousin! TBH that’s just a drop in the ocean compared to the fact he is 17 and has two different girls pregnant whilst clearing being promiscuous the rest of the time!

You need to sort your DS out. I understand he is 17 and nearly (technically) an adult but something needs to change or his (and many girls) lives with be utterly ruined!

If he is adamant that you interfering means he doesn’t want you around or whatever silly threat he made, then ask him to leave and give him the push to grow up. He is clearly not behaving in a reasonable way.
I would give it a week before he came home asking for help, it might be the wake up call he desperately needs.

Girl with a dragon seriously? Bet your one of those women who lick the arse of the men in your life and put other women down/shit on them so you can keep in with the boys. What a dummy, you can't seriously read this and think anything other than yep another irresponsible sex crazed teenage boy doing what many have done before them.

He doesn't need the benefit of the doubt, he needs a (metaphorical) kick up the bum and to learn responsibility. He is having at least one baby, potentially two and now there is a 3rd girl involved?

Sounds a bit of a shambles. I wouldn't necessarily be giving your son the benefit of the doubt; not being harsh but at 17 he is potentially fathering two children, and potentially messing around with a third? Doesn't seem very responsible to me. And as far as him saying " stay out of his personal life" - all well and good until his personal life is showing up at your door with babies and calling your mobile in floods of tears!! Maybe he needs to stop creating the dramas and thinking that he doesn't need to answer for it!

Did she get pregnant at the birthday party? Awfully coincidental timeframe.

I'd side with the gf on this one - she's about to become a single parent at 17. Your son needs to have a serious, serious word with himself.

Maybe recent ex and old ex could form a support group.

Did you not teach him about safe sex?

She sounds batshit. I'd go with your son

I'm sorry but how does she sound batshit? The OP said nothing about her other than to confirm her son had stayed at her house?

Your son sounds like he needs to be made aware of his responsibilities

Your son sounds like he needs to be made aware of condoms

Honestly from an outsiders POV it seems more likely your son is lying about the night out and sleeping with his ex. I mean do you really think it's more likely that the ex is lying about sleeping with him than the other way round when you know he stayed over night and she's pregnant?

It's pretty shoddy to be off snogging people when you've just broken up with your pregnant girlfriend, even if he's telling the truth. Especially if he wants her to 'calm down' and reconsider.

And what the hell is happening to contraception and STI advice in your area?

+Your son sounds like he needs to be made aware of condoms*

This.
Is he going to provide any financial support to the 17 year old whose baby he admits to fathering?

So your son could possibly have three pregnancies to deal with at the same time? I say three because obviously he doesn't use reliable birth control!
Stay out of his business? Wow he's seriously jeopardizing any hope for a successful future behaving this way! Personally I had a sister with an unplanned teen pregnancy at 16 and it seriously screwed her future and tbh her daughter's as well.

I would be so upset and disappointed if this was my ds. A 17yo little twerp running around impregnating girls and going out kissing others - sounds like the wrong sort. Before you are quick to back you ds up- look at what hes done.

Him saying to stay out of his personal life or else would piss me off. You do that and don't offer any support for these babies he seems to enjoy making .

A dna test will clear it up