To give ds the benefit of the doubt and believe him

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Ds’s girlfriend is 11 weeks pregnant, they are both 17 and although when they found out about the pregnancy there were lots of tears and reality checks they have decided to go through with the pregnancy.

2 weeks ago it came to light that ds ex-girlfriend is pregnant and she is claiming that ds is the father, ds is still friends with his ex and he has now admitted staying over at her parents house with her a few times but he is denying sleeping with her.

His girlfriend has ended the relationship with him because of this and refuses to answer any of his calls so he decided to give her some space in the hope that she would calm down and speak to him.

He went out with his friends on Saturday night and his girlfriend phoned me in tears because someone sent her a snapchat of ds kissing his friends cousin and she said she’s also heard that he slept with the cousin, I was furious and when ds got home I questioned him about it and he denied it all and told me that I either believe him or stay out of his personal life.

Blimey

I think the army might be the answer tbh!

Ffs! I hate this attitude. The role of the army is to provide a defence for this country, not to provide a parenting service to kids whose parents couldn't be arsed. My son, and DH (although he's RAF) have a hard enough job keeping people motivated who do want to be there. And, fwiw, the rest of the world don't need this kid thinking it's his god given right to have kids in every town he'd get deployed to.

I'm sorry.

I expect you did everything with his best interests at heart, but it turns out that he's a gaslighting, lying, abusive prick. They all have to start somewhere.

Poor girls. This was the best they thought they could do.

Oh well, he'd better start looking for ways to increase his income so he can pay the CMS, hadn't he?

Christ that's a messy situation. I'd be inclined to believe the girlfriend honestly. Your son sounds like a nasty piece of work, 2 kids by 2 different mums at 17?! Does he not know about condoms?

Oh and that's my opinion, I'm 20 years old so I'm sure he's got a reputation around your area!

So your ds lied about his ex at first? You say he finally admitted.

What an idiot. He needs STD testing for sure.

Why do you believe him? He's that cavalier about shagging, why not kissing?

Goodness. Sounds like it s time for a proper chat with your so about how he is going to support the children.

Your son is 17 and you are putting your head in the sand!
You have had 2 girls come to you with the same story!
Unless everyone in the universe is ganging up against your son, it’s safe to say he’s not telling the whole truth and is putting it about, anywhere he can!
I have 2 teens aged 16 & 18 and have educated them that both people involved should be taking care of their own protection, so this doesn’t happen.
Social media is the Bain of our lives, the poor girl has seen a picture that someone posted ( doesn’t know the full context) and in her hormonal state feels betrayed.
Why should she be the one expected to calm down?
Your son is behaving like a right idiot and you are condoning it!
If he wants to live without your guidance and help/ support, let him.
I don’t think he would last a week. No home, food, bills, phone, lifts, clothes etc......welcome to the real world.
If this was my son, 18, I’d of been so disappointed in his attitude.
And if someone else's son had left my daughter, 16, pregnant, a second girl maybe pregnant and shagging about with a third. He’d of had a bobbit, she’d have a termination and we would move to make sure she could have a chance of a better life.
The rest is up to you

Id say calm down and walk away.....thats to everyone responding to this. I just dont believe it to be true.

I would be absolutely furious if that was my son. He needs to learn how to treat women. He is potentially a father to, two unborn babies and he is still kissing someone else

No sign of the OP again...?

If it were me, I'd contact Kody Brown from Sister Wives and get some advice on living with multiple women and then I'd buy the cabin and everyone move in and then you could also contact TLC and ask them about making a programme on your expaniding family.

Could someone pass me the maltesers please? Thank you

Thadeus couldn’t agree more. A phantom OP, with phantom son. Not worth anybody’s time.

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The shameless glee in some of these replies is pathetic.

OP - first things first, DH needs to get his head out of the sand and do some parenting. This isn't solely your responsibility so make sure you're not dealing with all of this on your own.

Secondly - stay out of his private life? I'm sorry but who the fuck does he think he's talking to? Please don't take that nonsense from him. I'd be telling him that when he grows up, learns how to use a condom, gets a full-time job and moves out on his own he will be more than welcome to a private life, but right now he's still living under mummy and daddy's roof being supported by you and he's quite possibly gotten two girls pregnant so you absolutely do have a say in this. The bloody cheek of him! He displays no signs of maturity so doesn't deserve that level of autonomy, he's clearly not old enough/mature enough yet.

In regards to him saying you need to believe him... I'd probably play ball here and tell him I'm on his side. I'd say "ok, you say the baby isn't yours, fine, I believe you. But nobody else does so you need to get a DNA test done asap to put this matter to rest." And be absolutely insistent that he does it. Your house, your rules.

If it comes out that the baby is his then he's made a dick of himself and you have every right to be extremely angry and not trust him again for a long time to come.

2-3 payments of child maintenance all starting at once.
Wow

@girlwithadragontattoo are you high?? He sounds like a right litttle toe rag! There is photographic evidence. He needs counselling and pronto.

There is no need to give him the benefit of the doubt. If he is the father of the ex's baby he will need to at a minimum pay child support so if he is adamant he isn't he should ask for DNA test . Tell him that and his reaction will tell you if he has two. children on the way or one.

If I were his current girlfriend ( not for much longer though it sounds) I would not be happy at all either.

What a mess.

Can’t believe people are still discussing this so seriously

Make sure he has paternity tests and help him/encourage strongly applying for jobs because he’s about to potentially need to provide for 2 children

I think OP has ran off to Thailand and taken her money with her 😂
That's what I'd do for sure!

Be fair, it's probably hard for OP to get signal at a log cabin