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I dumped him (nicely) wibu?

192 replies

BustedToaster · 23/06/2019 19:03

'You're only the 3rd person I've ever been inside' - said to me whilst dtd!!!!!! That little gem came from a 54yo man I've been dating for the last month. It was an unwarranted bit of info. I was like wtf?????Hmm Who talks like that? Instant passion killer. He was doing ok until that point. It was the 'been inside' bit that really put me off.

And if that wasn't enough, he had a collection of over 50 pairs of winklepickers Shock - yes really. And he bought me 6 pairs of lacey white stockings to wear.. bleurghhhh. Tell me I'm not alone & that that'd make your toes curl too.

OP posts:
Knittedfairies · 23/06/2019 19:38

Do you think he counted the time spent in utero?

Floomph · 23/06/2019 19:38

I was once shown a guy's bed and told 'I've shagged A LOT of people in that bed.'

It was such a turn off. I mean, good for him, but not sure I want to know about that!

KM99 · 23/06/2019 19:41

Tighnabruaich I just snorted so hard laughing at your comment my husband thought I was having a fit 😂😂

tomatostottie · 23/06/2019 19:42

Oh yuk.. cringe... good that you got rid.

I dumped someone once for saying "Do you want to make love tonight?" (We hadn't had sex with each other before and that was his way of asking). I absolutely hate the term "make love". No idea why - but.. cringe.... got rid of him.

tomatostottie · 23/06/2019 19:43

Do you think he counted the time spent in utero?

Dying laughing here.
So he's had sex with one person before the OP and he's 54 and has 50 pairs of winklepickers...
Suspect the OP's the last person he's going to be inside for a very long time.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 23/06/2019 19:44

Horrible and so yucky!

ILiketheNiceCereal · 23/06/2019 19:46

Nowt wrong with not having many sexual partners but that was a v. v. cringe away to mention it....

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 23/06/2019 19:46

God I had a boyfriend who used to talk about how long it was since he had been inside me - I hated it.

SuperSara · 23/06/2019 19:47

Completely off topic (I think?) but what does EW or EWW or similar mean? Ex something?

Can't for the life of me work it out but lots of people posted it.

Trebe · 23/06/2019 19:48

Not only sounds like a passion killer but an expectations killer to. How the hell would anyone know what they are doing with a woman if they have only been inside three? The third person 'I was inside', probably laughed with her friends about my performance in bed.

Even if he had lots and lots of sex with the two previous women, not all the 'tricks' work the same way on different women. It's actually relatively difficult to understand what is working on what woman at what time without some experience.

SuperSara · 23/06/2019 19:49

@tomatostottie I agree 'make love'? Yuck.

Like 'sleep with' yuck to that too!

Blumtre231 · 23/06/2019 19:50

Ew or eww is like ‘ugh’ - just a sound of disgust Grin

Op YANBU, this is so cringey

What is it with some men and saying some variation of ‘inside you’?! I’ve had it myself and it’s so unsexy

Blumtre231 · 23/06/2019 19:51

‘Inside you’ just makes me involuntarily picture them climbing inside me like I’m a tent or something

OralBElectricToothbrush · 23/06/2019 19:52

Ewww! Lacy white stockings? Cringe. I'd have dumped for that alone.

Unburnished · 23/06/2019 19:53

Oh god no! Ick! Did he ask you to wear the ‘lacy white stockings’ for him?

SuperSara · 23/06/2019 19:53

Thanks @Blumtre231

Trebe · 23/06/2019 19:58

On the 'inside you' debate, I think it's worth noting I've had more than one woman say they want me inside them. It's hard to know who saying you want to be inside will affect and how.

mbosnz · 23/06/2019 19:59

Oh dear. He wasn't Kiwi was he? He sounds awfully like my ex. Well, when it comes to the winkelpickers anyway?

TenDays · 23/06/2019 20:01

The third person? Possibly including his mother?

Justaboy · 23/06/2019 20:04

Humm not my stylee too many to mention but hey!, it was a long time ago the Sixties and well the seventies and the bands and booze and the .. well never mind;!

SeasideSoul · 23/06/2019 20:06

The inside me thing can be quite sexy if said right!

Crying laughing at the beautiful union Grin
I once had sex with a guy who talked throughout, to HIMSELF. Encouraging himself onward. Yes Steve, come on Steve keep at it Steve she's loving this, you're nearly there Steve. I didn't have sex with Steve again after that. Grin

Trebe · 23/06/2019 20:07

I'm here so I may as well ask the women on here, is it worse saying you've been with a lot of people or a few people?

It's not something I've ever thought about.

ILiketheNiceCereal · 23/06/2019 20:10

No talking about previous partners at all, at least for a while, is my preference.

Trebe · 23/06/2019 20:13

I'd agree nicecereal, also I suppose it's like a toss up of whats worse. Hi I have very little experience in pleasing a woman. Or, Hi, there's a good chance I have chlamydia.

amatsip · 23/06/2019 20:14

Crying laughing at the beautiful union grin
I once had sex with a guy who talked throughout, to HIMSELF. Encouraging himself onward. Yes Steve, come on Steve keep at it Steve she's loving this, you're nearly there Steve. I didn't have sex with Steve again after that. grin

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