I want to go grey, but DH says no!

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Who is being unreasonable?
I'm in my 40's and fed up of the constant dying of my hair. I've said I'm going to stop, but he says no. He really doesn't want me to. I've pointed out that he is going grey, but it seems it's one rule for him, and all that.

Out of interest, does constant dying your hair make it go grey quicker?

Obviously it's your hair and you get to decide what to do with it. But personally I listen to my DH's opinion because if he fancies me less, we have a problem. And vice versa.

This is true, even though many wouldn't like it to be.

I guess I chose my husband well, he says the source of sex appeal is between the ears - and he’s not talking about hair.

I guess I chose my husband well, he says the source of sex appeal is between the ears - and he’s not talking about hair.

That's great. Do you feel the same?

Absobloodylutely.

Honestly I’d give it a go - grow it out for a couple of years and if he really hated it after that to a point where it was affecting his attraction to me (unlikely) then I’d re-evaluate, same as if he did something that I found really unattractive to the point it bothered me I’d hope he was considerate of me (not sure what that could be though)

Alsohuman my husband had a similar attitude. Imagine being married to someone that shallow, that you know if you aren’t making enough effort in your appearance, they’ll no longer fancy you. How depressing. My husband found me attractive, even if I came in covered in cement from building or sweat from heavy garden work. He loved me as a person, not a trophy.

I have alopecia and wear a wig. My husband doesn’t like the wig, but it’s my choice. Just do what you want, it’s your hair x

@CheshireChat nooooo. His text was meant to be in bold. I was quoting. My comment is underneath that after me laughing my head off at his absurd IMO views.

"if you aren’t making enough effort in your appearance, they’ll no longer fancy you"

I'd love to know if your partner put on the fat, sat around eating crumbs off his pyjamas, made little or no effort in his appearance, then you'd still fancy him? Come on what planet are you on?

What’s that got to do with hair colour @Papersizes? Fuck all is the answer.

What’s that got to do with hair colour @Papersizes? Fuck all is the answer.

We were talking about appearance (and it's affect on someone).
I mentioned that getting an honest opinion is sometimes a good thing. It’s the LOVE that will let a person tell their partner “I don’t FANCY you like this.” and its the LOVE that will accept anything they want to do.

No, constant dyeing doesn’t make it grey quicker. My DH doesn’t like the fact I don’t dye my hair. I’m happy with my silver strands.

Namaste6 sorry ! I completely misunderstood

I'd love to know if your partner put on the fat, sat around eating crumbs off his pyjamas, made little or no effort in his appearance, then you'd still fancy him?

My husband went up to 17st as a result of his medication. I still fancied him, because he was the warmest, kindest and most gentle soul. Their was just something about him that attracted people and his friends genuinely loved him. That included his female friends. If you have no one in your life that feel that way about or that doesn’t feel that way about you, then I genuinely feel sorry for you. I found my husband as sexy as fuck, because of his personality.

My husband went up to 17st as a result of his medication. I still fancied him, because he was the warmest, kindest and most gentle soul. Their was just something about him that attracted people and his friends genuinely loved him.

That's what I call love. A difference between your partner going through medication induced changes and your love for them, and someone not making an effort.

Since when has choosing not to artificially colour your hair been the same as sitting around in your pyjamas all day, covered in crumbs?

Precisely.

Making an effort.

I reckon OP’s husband has turned up here.

None of his f/big business!

@Alsohuman I think you're right!

So paper, you didn’t answer my earlier question about getting your chest and back waxed when it turns grey, to match the dyed hair on your head. Are you planning on doing that? After all your partner might not like it.

Might not like the grey, that is.

For all those saying he has no right ect ect.
If your husband told you he wanted a face tattoo would you not express you opinion?

My OH is a bit overweight. He has nearly white hair. Given the chance, he'd sit on his 55yo arse and watch telly all day. Eating chocolate.

I adore him. He is kind, funny, amazing dad to our 4 adult children. He is a skilful and considerate lover and we fancy the pants off each other.

He cooks, cleans, works, as do I. We are team. That is what long term love looks like. Not fretting about whether one of us is beginning to show their age a little.

Ffs😂