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To think most women hope for a baby girl?

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Rowennaravenclaw · 21/06/2019 20:21

I know, once the baby is here, we love them and wouldn't change them for anything, whatever their sex.

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy. I think it's probably natural, seeing as we have all been little girls ourselves and so imagine them to be a known quantity, and people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. Of course it changes once the baby arrives and we get to know the special person they are.

So, controversial, but AIBU?

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x2boys · 27/06/2019 14:20

That's a vile comment MelonSlice most men are not abusers, rapists or paedophiles, and let's face it if he mothers of boys didn't have our boys ,girls wouldn't exist either .

Tunnocks34 · 27/06/2019 14:26

I’m pregnant with my third son.

I have always wanted a daughter to be honest. Initially, no more than a boy but this time, I did have a preference for a girl. At our 20 week scan we found out out baby was a boy, 30 seconds later we found out he had a life threatening congenital abnormality. Let’s just say that immediately put it into perspective. We’re having no more children now, and I’m thrilled I’m going to be the mum of three gorgeous boys!

AryaStarkWolf · 27/06/2019 16:12

At our 20 week scan we found out out baby was a boy, 30 seconds later we found out he had a life threatening congenital abnormality. Let’s just say that immediately put it into perspective.

Yep reality check here for some people on this thread I think.

I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy and your son is OK Flowers

Katinkak8 · 27/06/2019 19:00

I'm very lucky to have 2 amazing DDs but equally I would have been thrilled to have DSs. We didn't find out what we were having either time and we genuinely didn't have a preference! We are 2 and done though and I do feel a little bit sad that I will never have the experience of having a son.

HarrysOwl · 27/06/2019 19:03

I do feel a little bit sad that I will never have the experience of having a son.

Why? Genuine question!

SushiForAmateurs · 27/06/2019 20:16

Because boys and girls are different...? Raising boys is a different experience from raising girls? Boys' life experience is quite different from girls' life experience?

I mean....

BackforGood · 27/06/2019 20:24

Yup. YABU. In fact, You are being ludicrous.

HarrysOwl · 27/06/2019 20:26

Different how though? They have the same needs, surely? How do their experiences differ so much?

Sallyseagull · 27/06/2019 20:31

I didn't find out what we were having prior to giving birth to my baby. I couldn't imagine myself having a daughter and, though I didn't admit it, deep down hoped I was having a boy..... I did.

I would probably have been just as happy to have had a daughter had that been the case but I won't ever know now.

Mamabear12 · 27/06/2019 20:33

I think it depends. Some want a boy first but definitely a daughter next. Some don’t mind at all. I wanted a girl for sure and my first was a girl. I wanted another girl (like the idea is sisters) and my second was a boy. Now that he is here I can’t imagine anything else and love him so much. Third time around I again wanted a girl. I was certain I was having a boy, but found out it’s a girl!

SushiForAmateurs · 27/06/2019 20:41

Different how though? They have the same needs, surely? How do their experiences differ so much?

Babies and small children have the same needs, but the lived experience of grown men and women is, um, quite different.

I think you are being deeply disingenuous.

WishIWasABaller · 27/06/2019 20:51

I wanted a boy, since as long as I can remember I only ever pictured myself having a boy (I am and always have been a tomboy) but I had a girl, I wasn't disappointed, just worried that I wouldn't be able to do all the girly stuff. But actually, now I've had a girl (she's only 14 months atm) I wouldn't mind having another girl, But I'd like to have a boy just so I can experience both haha.

Namedafteraship · 27/06/2019 20:57

No. One day I went to the park. Having a kick about with DS but bowed out when other little lads turned up.

(Scene - Mam Withdraw and Reads magazine glancing over periodically)

Small boys then organise themselves for full blown footie match then realise they have miscalculated.

Small boy1: we don’t have a goalie.
Small boy2: will your mam play in goal?
DS : well only if you are sure.

Small boy 1: you can’t ask someone’s Mam to be the in goal.
DS : why are you scared? Coz My mams the business.

Boy or girl -be the business!

Bunbunbunny · 27/06/2019 21:28

I just want a baby Sad

snowone · 27/06/2019 21:33

I didn't - it took me ages to get my head around the fact that I wasn't having a boy. However during pregnancy 2 I really didn't want a boy.

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