To think most women hope for a baby girl?

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I know, once the baby is here, we love them and wouldn't change them for anything, whatever their sex.

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy. I think it's probably natural, seeing as we have all been little girls ourselves and so imagine them to be a known quantity, and people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. Of course it changes once the baby arrives and we get to know the special person they are.

So, controversial, but AIBU?

@CynthiaRothrock sounds like you just haven't been around very nice girls. Hate this "bitchy" stereotype. I have one of each and I can tell you sure the boys can be just as bitchy and mean as the girls can....excuses are made how those boys aren't "typical" though everytime it happens, they're "more like a girl" good tactic, it clearly works.

Cynthia I have both and I find boys are more likely to get into physical confrontations but that's just me. Honestly both sexes are lovely and bring their own different challenges etc I do find DS to be more laid back than DD but might be just a personality thing.

DM had 2b then 2g. I have one of each. Her only words of parenting wisdom
“Boys mess up your house, girls mess up your mind”.

I think YABU, especially in this day! I have a girl and another girl on the way, I'm delighted but would have been equally delighted with any other combination. I honestly think that most people just want a healthy baby. You get what you get so there is no point having a preference anyway!

I wanted boys and have them but certain sure that if I had girls I would have been just as happy. I wanted healthy babies of either sex. they are now 28 and (very nearly) 27 and I love them to bits.

@AryaStarkWolf I guess everyone's experiences/ expectations are different 🤷🏼‍♀️
My boy is far easier than his big sister (apart from when it comes to keeping him clean!) and most people I know say the same so was only basing it on that, I'm sure it's different for everyone though!

Didn’t really mind but always imagined having a boy. Ended up with a girl

Bike that's the most apt description I've heard! DS is messier and more destructive but DD is very mentally and Emotionally taxing and needy in a way he isn't. I definitely find the mess easier to deal with lol

She’s a wise woman, my mum @2eternities.

DD is still only 7 and most of her friends are boys. We havn’t quite got to the mind messing yet.

I definitely wanted girls every time but I don’t think that’s usual.

Nope. Didn't mind. Got 2 boys. Happy with that.

@AryaStarkWolf it is a stereotype for a reason because on a whole girls generally are more dramatic/bitchy/vindictive/hold grudges longer. Not all girls are like this but a very large portion are. I speak from growing up in a houseful of girls, coaching 5-16yr olds male.and female (in a male dominated sport) and work in a school. I am not an expert but this is my experience of 20+ years working with children.
Boys can be dramatic and bitchy too but this is a minority. Boys tend to me more physical/agressive but once its done its done. Some Girls will drag an argument out for weeks if they coud!
I have 2 girls, one could not be further from the 'girly glittery gang' if she tried, but even she can have a "bitchy girl moment".

Even as an adult i prefer male company. Why? Because on the whole women are very bitchy and judgemental. My mental health suffered tremendously when i worked in a female dominated environment. I now work in a "stereotypical male job" and couldnt be happier.

First time I was pregnant I didn't really care but slightly preferred idea of a boy - I think life is much harder for girls.

Had my wonderful girl and then quite keenly wanted another just the same... and got a boy!

I know a lady who was exteremly dissappointed when their first child was a girl so much so they gave her a boys name and dress her like a boy - she has just had a DC2 a boy. You should have seen her FB post when they found out he was a boy!!!! something along the lines of "we are ecstatic luckily he is a boy!!!" We don't do girls!!!".

I am lucky enough to have a boy and a girl. I love both of them and am close to them in different ways. Both my kids are a blessing to me. But having had a boy first, when I was pregnant the second time I wanted another boy as I’d enjoyed it so much. However, having had a girl a enjoy that too!

I have two boys and I am so happy with them, I always secretly wanted a boy. My DH would like a girl but we’re done.

If I'm really honest I wanted lots of kids and I hoped at least one would be a girl. I ended up with 3 kids and won't have more. BGG in that order. I would love another baby, and if I could choose now I would choose boy. But for no good reason. So far (aged 5, 3 and 1) there are no proper reasons why a boy or girl is easier or harder. They are just kids.

I have a girl

I always wanted a boy. So much I'm googling shettles method and ways to conceive a boy through timing ovulation etc.

I'd be devastated at another girl...

Hard for me to answer as I had a girl first and then two boys.... but 2 close friends only have boys and have never mentioned that they wish they’d had a girl

I really wanted a boy as I had sisters and I had a boy. I was very happy.

No. Do you really have no understanding that other people have different thought processes to you?

I have two boys and am dying to a third.

I didn't care what sex our DC was, but knew that dh would be happier with a boy. We had a boy. Everyone was happy.

Only ever wanted a boy and he's fabulous!

I'd be devastated at another girl...

Poor you. A baby girl really is 'devastating' news.

What are you doing on Mumsnet then, @CynthiaRothrock ?