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AIBU?

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To think most women hope for a baby girl?

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Rowennaravenclaw · 21/06/2019 20:21

I know, once the baby is here, we love them and wouldn't change them for anything, whatever their sex.

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy. I think it's probably natural, seeing as we have all been little girls ourselves and so imagine them to be a known quantity, and people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. Of course it changes once the baby arrives and we get to know the special person they are.

So, controversial, but AIBU?

OP posts:
MulticolourMophead · 21/06/2019 20:26

I was just hoping our baby and I made it through the birth alright. I didn't care about the baby's sex.

WhiteLightTrainWreck · 21/06/2019 20:26

I can honestly hand in heart say I don't know and I'm not worried about what comes out of me in a few weeks.

I am pretty sure that it's a boy though.

ILoveAnOwl · 21/06/2019 20:26

I really wanted a girl first time round. Along came DS1. Second time round I really wanted a brother for DS1 as I thought two boys would be easier than one of each. Along came DD... I'll be honest, I was thrilled. Hadn't realised I really did still want a girl.

Beesandcheese · 21/06/2019 20:27

YABU. You'd have to be bloody childish to wish for something you have no control over.

SummerForLoving · 21/06/2019 20:27

I hoped for a boy. We had twins, b/g. If it had been g/g I think we would have tried for a third tbh.

mrscatmad31 · 21/06/2019 20:27

I really wanted a boy but had a girl (love having a daughter though!) pregnant at the moment and I don't have a preference this time (although one that sleeps would be good!)

iMatter · 21/06/2019 20:27

Nope

Really hoped for a boy

I have 2

sockatoe · 21/06/2019 20:27

Absolutely not. I wanted a boy. I have 3. I am adored, I take them to the barber every 6 weeks and other than that have no hair related duties and if they're cross, I feed them or put them to bed. They're also great at weeing all fresco when out for the day.
I love girls too, I am one. But I can't help but think boys are easier

NoSauce · 21/06/2019 20:27

I think overall you’re right OP.

isabellerossignol · 21/06/2019 20:27

I had a strong preference for a boy first time round and then was so ashamed of myself when I had a daughter because of course I couldn't have imagined anything else.

Then second time I wanted another girl because I thought it was preferable to have two of the same sex. And when he was a boy I felt ashamed of myself all over again for wishing him to be anything other than what he is!

Loubylou79 · 21/06/2019 20:28

Wanted boys and got them so feel very lucky. I do feel boys get a bad press. Little boys are wonderful. Mine and so kind and loving as I’m sure my daughters would be if I had any. YABU to assume all women want girls. It’s not the case

resipsa · 21/06/2019 20:28

My sister had had a boy who was divine so I was a bit disappointed (momentarily) when I found out I was having a girl. I disagree with your proposition!

FairyDogMother11 · 21/06/2019 20:28

YABU I'll be happy either way but have always pictured myself as a mum of boys weirdly enough

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 21/06/2019 20:28

You think "the majority" of women want a daughter? Hmm
And you base this load of bollocks opinion on what "evidence," exactly?

Devonishome1 · 21/06/2019 20:29

I was delighted to find out that I was having a girl.

AuntieMarys · 21/06/2019 20:30

Not me

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 21/06/2019 20:30

On the pregnancy board the gender disappointment posts are always from those that just found out they are having a boy

If you ask anyone suffering pregnancy loss or is infertility they would say 100% don't mind as long as get to take a baby home. Some people just don't realise how lucky they are

ILikeyourHairyHands · 21/06/2019 20:30

I was quite happy to have either and I got one of each. DS was first and if Id had another boy I'd have been perfectly happy with that.

Original poster
Rowennaravenclaw · 21/06/2019 20:30

Thanks for all the replies, seems so far that IABU.

Just to clarify thought I never said all women want girls or have gender disappointment with boys, just that most women want girls at least initially?

OP posts:
Minai · 21/06/2019 20:31

Not me. When I was expecting ds1 I had no preference whatsoever. I was happy to find out he was a boy.

When expecting ds2 I thought I had no preference again but when I found out he was a boy I felt relieved and really happy.

I don’t want any more children and I have no desire for a girl.

DownstairsMixUp · 21/06/2019 20:32

First I wanted a boy and got one so no for that, but my second I wanted a girl and got a boy. I'm happy though and done 😂

AllesAusLiebe · 21/06/2019 20:34

I think that there may be some truth in this actually. It didn't really matter to me, but if I'm being completely honest, I wanted a boy. I've always had lots of completely platonic male friends and felt that I would probably relate to a boy much better.

My mother, by contrast, has openly spoken to me about her fears that she would find a grandson difficult to connect with and was secretly hoping that I'd have a girl.

It's pretty strange to me, but I appreciated her honesty.

It all worked out well in the end. I have a lovely little son who is such a gentle soul, therefore my mother and he get along very well!

bourbonbiccy · 21/06/2019 20:35

I didn't, I really wanted a boy. I have friends who have wanted girls and some didn't mind either way.

I think it's a mixed bag really.

Lilac3 · 21/06/2019 20:36

I didn't have a preference on my first (a dd)

I think I would have been sad to never have had a dd though, if that makes sense.
We had planned on at least 3, maybe 4 kids.

Frazzledmum123 · 21/06/2019 20:37

I always wanted one of each but thought if I could only have 2 the same I'd prefer girls, I couldn't image only boys. But as soon as I had my first, a boy, I changed completely and knew I'd be very happy with just boys. I actually went on to have 2 girls who are perfect like their brother but I'd love to even it out with another boy! Imo boys are far easier Grin

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