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To think most women hope for a baby girl?

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Rowennaravenclaw · 21/06/2019 20:21

I know, once the baby is here, we love them and wouldn't change them for anything, whatever their sex.

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy. I think it's probably natural, seeing as we have all been little girls ourselves and so imagine them to be a known quantity, and people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. Of course it changes once the baby arrives and we get to know the special person they are.

So, controversial, but AIBU?

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Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 23/06/2019 20:37

Really really did not care what i had for the first two

I was however pleased when we went for child number 3 that child number 2 was a girl as it stopped any ‘oh are you trying for a girl’ comments

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 23/06/2019 20:38

Apologies it appears from my post that i DID care what child 3 was

I still didnt...but I appreciate that it may have been because i already had one of each

drspouse · 23/06/2019 20:46

Oh gosh, I dread to think what we'd have had if we adopted two boys.
"Couldn't you have asked for a girl this time?" springs to mind.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 23/06/2019 21:07

drspouse

Good point

We were also asked ‘ do you not if have a telly’

stanski · 23/06/2019 21:29

Nope.

I'm not a girly girl type so always wanted a boy and got a boy. Of course wouldn't have mattered but am absolutely fine the way it happened.

RebeccaCloud9 · 23/06/2019 21:34

I know people who are disappointed they haven't had a girl. I don't know anyone disappointed not to have a boy.

SallyWD · 23/06/2019 21:39

I first wanted a girl simply because there are so many males in my family. Nearly everyone is male! To me it seemed like a real novelty to have a girl. I did have a girl first. With DC2 I was desperate for a boy. I can't explain why I just really wanted a little boy. DC2 was a boy. If I had a third and I could choose the sex I'd choose another boy but of course would be happy with either. I think it's nonsense that boys aren't close to their parents as they get older. Nearly every man I can think of is very close to their parents. I have some female friends that are quite distant to their parents.

InezInez · 23/06/2019 21:40

No way. I was dying for baby boys!!!! But after two boys I secretly wanted a girl 😉

Sewrainbow · 23/06/2019 22:20

What nonsense. I love my boy's! Would have been happy either way but definitely not disappointed...

Whobloodyknows · 23/06/2019 22:33

I wanted a boy as my first and got a beautiful ds. I would like a dd as my 2nd but won’t be too disappointed if I have another ds!

Bunnybigears · 23/06/2019 22:37

I didnt have a preference either time and now I have 2 boys I have no desire to keep trying for a girl.

stairway · 23/06/2019 22:54

I definitely wanted a boy first, don’t know why. Which I got. Second child was also a boy and now I have a girl. I’ve always wanted both but I still want more babies regardless of gender . I just love them all.

VampirateQueen · 23/06/2019 23:28

I had gender disappointment with my DD, I was desperate for a boy, especially as I hate pink, I was gutted when I found out she was a girl, I'm just glad I found out at my 20 week scan to give me time to get my head around it.

M3lon · 24/06/2019 10:04

vampire I hope you later got your head around the fact that you don't have to put a baby girl in pink at all?

My DD didn't wear any pink for at least 4 years..

moomin11 · 24/06/2019 14:27

You didn't want a girl because you hate pink?? It's not mandatory to dress girls in pink you know!

Nesssie · 24/06/2019 14:30

I would be open to genetically choosing a girl if i only had boys.

solargain · 24/06/2019 14:32

Oh good Lord. Nobody where I live dressed their girls in pink. DS wears way more pink than his friends and female relatives. There isn't a big enough facepalm for these comments!

dustarr73 · 24/06/2019 14:43

I would be open to genetically choosing a girl if i only had boys.

Do you think mothers of boys are missing out

Nesssie · 24/06/2019 14:46

dustarr73 Nope. Never said that, never even hinted at it.

DefinatelyAWeeGobshite · 24/06/2019 15:06

I have b/g twins. When pregnant I hoped I had one of each or b/b, growing up with just my sister and I, I always wanted a brother so really hoped I’d have a boy.

The day I gave birth my son was first and I was over the moon, then when I had my second and asked boy or girl, then said girl I was so happy! Later (and now still) I felt tremendously guilty at not wanting two girls beforehand. It makes me feel like I didn’t want her when I absolutely did and do.

I agree with a PP above though, my boy is everything I thought he’d be, very happy child, plays well himself or with others, really loving and my girl is WILD! She’s hilarious, really cuddly, really caring but she has me pulling my hair out most days, exactly as I thought a girl would be Grin

AryaStarkWolf · 24/06/2019 15:07

Nope

wishywashy6 · 24/06/2019 15:17

Really wanted one of each but a boy first (I always wanted an older brother!)
Ended up with girl first then boy so technically during both my pregnancies I hoped for a boy!

If I ever had another I'd hope for a boy, so much easier than girls in my experience!!

dustarr73 · 24/06/2019 15:27

I would be open to genetically choosing a girl if i only had boys.
@Nesssie really,i think that statement says otherwise

AryaStarkWolf · 24/06/2019 15:31

If I ever had another I'd hope for a boy, so much easier than girls in my experience!!

pfft I have one of each and totally disagree

CynthiaRothrock · 24/06/2019 15:42

No. Always wanted a boy even when i was little. never got one though. I grew up in a house full of girls and hated it. By the time my only brother came along i was leaving home.
Girls are nasty and dramatic in their friendships. I envy my friend with all boys. I wouldnt change my girls for the world but could easily do without all of the drama and make up and glittery shite.