To ask for this “gift” back?

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I am fairly friendly with “Jo,” the mum of one of my daughter’s classmates. I quite like Jo and enjoy chatting with her at pickup and school events. We always say we should get together but we virtually never do. I think I am more enthusiastic about that than she is. So I consider her a friend but not a close friend, if that’s relevant.

In some ways Jo and I have v similar tastes. I recently bought something that I loved and found really useful. I thought Jo could use a thing for herself and I didn’t know if she knew about it so I showed it to her. She admired the thing and agreed she should get one, but she never did. I wanted more of them myself so a few weeks later I bought a 5-pack of the things. At that time I only needed 4 of them so I was going to save the extra one for the future, but I knew Jo would like it so I have it to her. (If it matters, the things are worth about £20 each. If it further matters, that’s an amount that Jo and I can both afford comfortably.)

It’s now been about 6 weeks and Jo has never used the thing I gave her. She said she keeps meaning to use it but hasn’t gotten around to setting it up which takes 2 minutes . I should say that Jo has a lot on her plate and really is busier than most. So I don’t necessarily think she doesn’t want the thing, but at this point it seems unlikely that she will use it.

Now the time has come that I need another thing. Can I ask for the one back from Jo?

I am genuinely sorry for being coy about “the thing.” It’s just that it’s very specific and if Jo sees this I want her to at least not be completely sure if it’s about her. If the curiosity is just driving you insane, PM me.

Good point by a pp how do you know she hasn't used it

Jo’s sneakily attached the Tile to the OP and is bluffing about not using it

Did you know Poundland now do similar for £1 each obviously

YABU as has already been established. Now on to the most important part - what is a Tile? A wall tile? a kitchen tile? you referred in an earlier thread to technology so WTF is a Tile???

What the hell can the Tile do? I've googled but I'm none the wiser. Is it a tracking device?

Whats this tile about then-is it like find my phone

No a gift is a gift. You can’t ask for it back. Definitely not.

You attach Tiles to things like keys, wallet, passport, luggage...anything you really don’t want to lose.

If you then lose the thing in your house/workplace etc. you can open the app on your phone and have the Tile make a sound you can then follow to find your misplaced item. No more tearing the place apart looking for lost items. If you lose something while out and about or an airline loses your luggage or whatever, then you can get a last known location.

thanks kmc handy unless you lose it abroad i guess

It can still work for losing things abroad if there are other Tile app users in the area, because the app can trace the item by triangulating from their phones rather than yours: www.thetileapp.com/en-gb/community-find

Right, I've just googled what a Tile is, and I still don't understand what it is? Is it to find things? Why would anyone need to attach it to so many things? Keys maybe, but nothing else surely?!

I am thinking of making something similar from old wire coat hangers and duct tape., I will call them divining tiles and only charge a tenner. I will include a few metres of string so you can link them to your phone or laptop. If Jo would like to pm me I will let her know when I am up and running with production

Also, love the raindrops on roses song reference

Anyone else think it might be things like thing one and thing two from Dr Suess?

Or thing from the Adams family?

jo if you are in fact reading this thread and you don’t want yellowish thing anymore I’m happy to take it off your hands.

*might have been

I realise the OP has already REVEALED THE THING

Some people are bad present receivers. I have a friend that is horrible to buy for/give to. I’ve just gotten on with it, and don’t buy or give to her any more. The last thing I gave to her for one of her dd’s she reported her dd couldn’t use it (no problem) but her other dd loved it. Great! But then she hinted for me to give the one that liked it her own - even though she could have definitely used the item! Nope. I just ignored!

Has she?? I didn’t want to have to R any more of TFT, but I might have to in order to glean that information.

Apparently it’s sometning called a tile. You stick the things to other things and then use your phone thingy to locate said things

Oh heh I thought that was just conjecture!

Ah well, this glass of wine isn’t going to drink itself! Good evening all! 🍷

Joining in on this very late and pleased it was a Tile as I know what those are!
I actually have a Tile that I was given (by my brother not a friend!) but haven't used because a) I can't decide what of the many things I lose to use it on and b) I don't have a smartphone so think it would be too much faff. DH has the other one and has used it to find lost keys.

Could you not have a chat along the lines of "I've noticed you've not used the Tile, if you're not keen to use it I won't be offended but I'm going to get one for DS and would be happy to have it back from you. But if you want to keep it that's fine too!" I wouldn't be bothered by someone saying that to me and would force me to make the decision to use it or not.

Is it those traceable stickers for when you've lost your keys?

I suspected a tile on page 1 but then got distracted and am delighted to return to see I was right!

Very timely because my Tile 4 pack arrived this afternoon. 2 are gifts (not for Jo), one is on my keys, and the last one has been surgically inserted into my DD's beloved, and prone to hiding, soft toy.

For the first time in 5+ years, I've looked forward to bedtime because I know I'm not going to spend half an hour or more hunting for bloody bunny.

What's the purpose in crossing things out?

I just looked back to see who used the strike out to explain further and saw I had a deleted post! I'm sure I was talking about kittens does anyone remember reporting me or seeing anything terrible? I feel bad now!

Anyway jelly79 it's used a sort of an "aside", you know where you say something under your breath like:

In real life "yes of course mother in law, I'd be delighted to visit"
(under breath or in own mind) "this side of never because I hate you"

On Mumsnet "yes of course MIL id be delighted to visit this side of never because I hate you

The sort of thing you want to say but shouldn't. But you can if you strike it out