AIBU nephew not attending wedding

[LittleMissCool]

Have been planning my wedding for 2 years, said wedding happening in 2 months. Notified today by a family member that nephew won't be attending due to routine sporting competition.

Very very close to my sister (nephews mum), we are best friends and see each other daily, she hasn't mentioned this to me at all I've heard through sister in law.

I babysit my sister's other children over night on a Friday and 1 night in the week so my nephew (age 10) can practise his sport.

I'm so hurt and upset that his sport is taking priority over my wedding and that sister considers it more important. Though mostly I'm upset that she didn't talk to me.

AIBU to be upset by this?

Most weddings are boring for adults too. Sitting through speeches, waiting for hours whilst photos are taken, making small talk etc.

And a previous post that said the same thing- “only interesting once the dancing starts.”

Speak for yourselves. When I go to a wedding I love seeing the couple make their vows, listening to the readings etc, I look forward to the speeches as they are usually heartfelt, funny, affectionate and I learn something new about the people whose marriage I have been privileged to invite to celebrate.
I love chatting with champagne in hand to people I haven’t seen for a long time. I love looking at the pretty venue and the flowers. I love the chance to get dressed up and see my fellow guests dressed up.

If you aren’t interested in the ceremony or the speeches then you clearly don’t give a shit about the couple and should decline the invitation rather than insulting them by accepting their expensive hospitality and then whining about how boring it is.

Dancing I can take or leave to be honest. Each to their own I suppose.

sorry to say OP but the Daily Mail and Take a break on facebook have just lifted this story. I'd be aware as its likely your family are going to know now.

If the whole family are not coming because of the nephew's sporting activity, I can see that you might be a bit miffed. However, if it's just him - well, children, especially perhaps preteen boys (I know I'm stereotyping a bit), often are not that keen on weddings; and surely it's better that he doesn't come at all than come and be obviously bored And to be honest: I don't think anyone but the groom, and any who are playing specific roles such as bridesmaid, are obliged to attend your wedding. What's important to a wedding is surely the marriage, not how many people turn up as an audience.

Daily mail and TaB have taken this

Time to NC again!

Seriously what 10 year old boy wants to go to a wedding? Wouldn't you rather he did something he really enjoyed than had to sit through a long meal, speeches and watch grown-ups drink too much. Is there a compromise possible say that he sees the wedding bit and then does his sporting thing?

1800s woman. Are you still living in the 1800's? My kids love a good wedding. Or family party. I guess it's only boring if the family are stuffy old farts that don't like kids being kids....

I wouldn't even go to a wedding now, no matter who's it was, never mind at 10!